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06-02-2008, 08:10 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Midwest USA
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| R.I.P Ms. Betty! Well I posted just 12 days ago and yesterday Ms. Betty passed away. I am a wreck.... I've been getting calls all week that she has fallen here and there. I saw her on Monday and wednesday. she did not look good but we were still able to have conversations and make jokes. Saturday the hospice nurse called me and wanted to move her as the asst living home felt her needs were too high. ?????? I'm like "Seriously, she cant survive a move, up her morphine and keep her comfortable,,, thats all she wants" Then the nurse left me a message at 2am that she had passed. I didnt get the message until about 10am. Wierd thing happened though.. at about 3 am i woke up, jumped out of bed. I felt as if someone was in my room,, I was kinda freaked out. I grabbed my mace and began to check all rooms in my apt. I thought even maybe my son had woke up and was standing by my bed perhaps.. but no... IDK so yesterday, I went to the asst living. cleaned out her room. collected all her personal belonging.. The creamatorium is calling me to day and should have her death certif and ashes ready for Wednesday. As I was going through her things I found her original birth certif from 1938, her high school diploma, her sons birth certif. her marriage and divorce decree and finally her protection order against her son who tried to kill her in 2003. She was still carrying it in her purse. ... Her birth certificate said she was born on July 13, at 5:23pm. So i was thinking I would take her ashes to beautiful HOlmes lake and spread them on her birthday at that time. I also thought I would shread the pics of her son and the protection order... as she is safe now and not in pain. I'm okay one minute then the next bawling... smiling one minute then that Mariah Carey song Bye-Bye comes on the radio and I cry... then I am happy. I started to go to work today then broke down at Starbucks.. and came home.. I dont know what I should be doing.... |
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06-02-2008, 10:15 AM
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| Leap of faith survivor  Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: In the pines, in the pines....
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| Tracee, what a gift you are to Betty! I believe she came to say goodbye and thank you...how beautiful Thank you Tracee, I am so glad you are sharing this journey with us... Be gentle with yourself, give yourself the space to grieve in whatever form that takes...you will be up and down and all around for a bit... I am so proud of what you did and continue to do for Betty, spreading her ashes at the lake sounds so lovely...something I would want..  Big, big hugs for you, hon. grateful |
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06-02-2008, 06:37 PM
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| Taking the Light To Florida  Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: On A Codie Vacation
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| What a blessing you were to Ms. Betty and my thoughts are that perhaps she stopped by to say goodbye. Long after our loved ones are gone, our hearts hold their spirit and good memories. Ms. Betty would approve of the goodness in your heart. May the lessons she taught you remain as her legacy. Hugs |
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06-02-2008, 07:21 PM
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| Forum Leader  Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA
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| What a wonderful friendship the two of you had with your memories to give you comfort. I too think she came in to smile at you one last time. You now have a special angel |
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06-02-2008, 07:58 PM
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| Attitude of Gratitude  Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Dayton, Ohio
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06-04-2008, 12:32 AM
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| How wonderful you got to say goodbye. |
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06-04-2008, 04:35 AM
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| (((Tracee))) You truly were a blessing to Miss Betty. I'm glad you were there for her, and you could still laugh with her. I, too, think she stopped in to tell you goodbye. Your plans for her ashes sounds wonderful. Now you have a very special guardian angel to watch over you. Don't worry about the tears....she was very dear to you and you miss her. In time, the happy memories will outweigh the pain. Hugs and prayers! Amy |
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06-04-2008, 06:54 AM
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| I have a no no & will use it  Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana
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| prayers of comfort for you in the passing of this special woman. take all the time you need to grieve and heal ((HUGS)) Rita |
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06-05-2008, 05:56 PM
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| Forum Leader  Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Faith~Hope~Love
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| (((tracee))) I'm so sorry for the loss of Ms. Betty, but believe your friendship was a great blessing for both of you. Wishing you peace and comfort at this time  hugs and prayers ~ deedee |
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