Lost my nephew today - please help

[pointmagnet]

My brother and his wife lost one of their sons this morning in a tragic car accident. I am travelling to their home today/tomorrow but don't know how to help other than just being there. I cannot imagine the pain that they are experiencing now.

Please, anyone with similar experience, lend some advice.

[mywifeisatpeace]

the best thing I think would just be to be there for them. having family just be there was a big boost for me when i lost my wife. it will be one year this feb 27. my codolences.

[deedee]

(((pointmagnet)))

I'm so sorry for the tragic loss of your nephew. I agree with mywife ... just be there for them, share your memories and stories of your nephew, and help with any small details you can.

Please know my heart and prayers will be with you all in the days ahead.

[Rowan]

I'm very sorry to hear of such a tragic loss. Families who come together to grieve can hopefully provide some comfort to one another.

[1963comet]

Just be there to listen to them. A family member lost her son to. And all she wanted to do was talk about him. Some in her family avoided talking about the death.

It is always sad to hear this kind of news. I pray for your hearts to have peace.

I'm sorry.

[WLDKATZ]

I am so terriably sorry for your loss!
When it is someone so young it is harder than h*ll to do anything but be there!!!! BUT LOOK OUT FOR YOU TOO....I know it is so hard to hear but my sisters and mother took care of me after my son died until I was taking care of them I will pray for you just know you I hope you can still post and remember we are here for you Good luck, God Bless and Stay safe!!!!!!


Hugs Prayers and SUpport!


Pamm

[historyteach]

I'm so very sorry for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers go out to all involved.

Shalom!

[51anna]

I am so sorry for your tragic loss.

There may not be words, but your being with your family will be enough.

[Josie]

I'm so sorry.

My prayers go out to you and your family.

[CarolD]

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Hugs and comfort prayers to all who love your nephew.

Be extra caucious driving while you are going on them.
Being upset can be distracting.

[indigo]

I am very sorry about your loss, just be yourself talk about him and listen to them if they want to talk, many people tend not to focus on little one in case of making things worse, I know when I lost two babies I wanted people to recognize that they where real and not to ignore the fact that it hurts.

[Nina Kay]

pointmagnet,
I'm so sorry to hear of your great loss. I believe that your just being there with them would be what they need the most at this time. Knowing that you love them and care about how much this hurts them, is so important. That's my thoughts anyway. I'm so sorry that this tragedy has happened.

[greeteachday]

I am so sorry for your loss; how tragic. I know just by being there for your family you have helped in ways that can't be expressed. Please as things settle back to as close to a normal routine as is possible under such circumstances, don't forget to be gentle with yourself and allow youself to grieve. Sometimes it isn't until things calm down that the intensity of the feelings can hit.

[abcdefg]

Pointmagnet,

My daughter was killed 4 years ago in a tragic car wreck. The details are too painful to share but suffice to say it was an alcoholic/addict relative behind the wheel.

She was 8 1/2 years old.

I wanted to share with you the only things that were useful to me in the aftermath of this event (I mean in terms of other people offering support):

1. Other people who had been through the death of a child
2. People who cared and were AWARE that they HAD NOT been through what I was going through. Losing a child is different from losing a spouse, parent, friend, sibling or pet.
3. People keeping me in their healing and loving prayers
4. Hugs

I realize that it feels horribly awkward for most people to say nothing --they must think they are letting down the grieving person. Please let me assure you that silence is a GOLDEN GIFT you can give to your distraught loved ones.

Let them say anything to you. Take breaks for your sake. Let them know you are keeping them in your prayers (our thoughts/heart if they would be uncomfortable with the religious implication of prayer). Tell them you love them.

Please be aware that no matter what anyone says or does, they are in TOTAL shock at this time. In fact, shock actually lasts for months. The most severe shock will carry them through all the "business of dying": the arrangements, the funeral, whatever. The less you say, the more you are a silent, solid, loving presence, the better.

You may have an opportunity to be of particular service to any other surviving nieces or nephews. They often get lost in the shuffle. I can say without any exaggeration that after my daughter was killed, I lost my mind completely. I was not able to care for myself, much less anyone else. If there are any other children affected, they may want to show you a picture or toy or item about their dead sibling.

I wish you strength and centeredness for this very painful time. I know you are hurting, too.

[ANGELINA243]

Pointmagnet--My thoughts/prayers are with you and your loved ones during this tragic time. Also, abcdefg--my heart goes out to you too regarding your daughter.