Muder Suicide

[AUDRADAVID]

Hey guys. I posted this in Nov but it got deleted somehow (crash i think) and i noticed some people replied and very sadly i could read anything. So here goes again with some add ons too, thank you guys:


oh your gonna cry. my best friends little brother moved to FL and met this girl named kristin. 3 yrs into their relationship they had a baby girl. they were an on and off again kinda relationship and shes a very "keep everything behind closed doors" kinda girl. so even if they're arguing she'll look at u smile and say they are living their fairytale wonderful life. which is what she always thought too. well they broke up like nov 19th AGAIN, but she didn't take it so well. on nov 20th she drove to his house with the baby and parked right out front. she texted him on his cell phone to come outside and that she was waiting for him out there. he never responded cuz he wqs sleeping, but she didn't know that. well that was at 4pm. at 5:30 he woke up and seen her vehicle still parked outside and still running and thats where he found them. she shot the baby in the forehead and then she shot herself in the temple. she climbed into the backseat with her baby to do it. we think she did it cuz she loved the baby not bc she hated her. she left a suicide note at her house written to the baby sayin how she couldn't live anymore and that the father would take good care of her. but then we think she realized in her mind that she couldn't possibly leave her daughter. so she took her with her. i think she would have shot him too so that they could be together forever ever, thats how she was- very like "now we'll be together forever" , then when he didn't come out she was like "oh well" it its just us two. the cops told us it was definetly not an accident based on the position of the bullet in the baby.we are all still distraught. he's not doing so well. i am still in shock, really. i knew her. and then it comes in spurts, like i start crying and then the next day i'm fine and then it comes back again. i'm gonna lose it when i c him in feb. we talk all the time all day on the computer and cell phone texting.

So now im asking you all for some help. i am running out of things to say to him and i know he contacts me when hes very low and depressed. any quotes, stories of insiration etc that any one can pass on to me would be ver very appreciated. thank you all and everyone take care of what you have and appreciated it.

[deedee]

(((Audra)))

I replied to your previous post and unfortunately, it and many others were lost in the most recent crash.

My heart and prayers go out to your friend and to you and all who are affected ... what a devastating loss, especially losing a sweet innocent child. You are doing the most important thing you can, by being there for him and giving him an outlet for his grief just by listening. There's a sticky above "Love, loss and mourning" that has many good readings. Grief is such a lonely journey and your friend is lucky to have your support.

love and prayers ~

deedee

[Done-With-It]

oh gosh, I'm so sorry. I can understand what you said about her loving the baby. Such a sad world we live in sometimes. My heart goes out to you all...

[indigo]

Sorry AUDRADAVID, I remember your lost post too.

[barb dwyer]

*prayers*

how are you doing now?
I don't remember what I posted .. sorry.

[AUDRADAVID]

Barb, I am doing better but I can focus on thinking about the baby too much because my mind begins to tell my eyes to cry, but i have progressively got better, thank you. When I spend a lot of time looking at pictures of her thats when i get very sad, i dont think im ready for that yet.

[Wolfstarr]

Hi Audra...I, too remember your thread and it tore at my heart...

Keep talking about it Audra, it helps to sort it out and help you, and him. I am so sorry this heartbreaking thing happened. Listen to whatever he has to say, and say to him whatever comes into your heart...

[AUDRADAVID]

thank you wolfstarr sometimes one just needs to hear that other people hear.