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Old 07-14-2007, 12:32 AM   #1 (permalink)
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to my angel

Baby angel,
It's been a year...I miss you so but I know you are in a place filled with peace and light.

You let me know you did things in your own time and in your own way from the day you were born. You chose to arrive late and labor stopped and started all night and another day until finally when your mom just couldn’t keep her eyes open a moment longer, you gave in…precious babe.

I do believe your very first sentence was “I can do it my OWN self” You could barely walk but you wanted to do everything the big people in your life did…Big sister could read so at three you sat yourself down with Doctor Seuss and figured it out. Nursery school reports said you were either rough housing with the boys or off in a corner reading a book. You grew from a 3 year old too shy to stand up to receive your certificate at year’s end to a 4 year old who volunteered for a solo at pre-school graduation.

Your sense of humor started so young too. I will never forget when you locked yourself in the bathroom at age two We were petrified, afraid you would drown, begging you to stay away from the faucets as we scrambled to get the door off its frame…In your sing song toddler voice, you heard our panic and decided to tease us… “I’m gonna take a bath mommy and daddy…I’m turning on the water now…I’m taking a bath…”

Your whole short life was filled with your laughter…your wit…your stubborn determination and frustration when things you did weren’t absolutely perfect…The “B” you got in gym in 7th grade angered you so much you punched the school lavatory door…All 4 foot 10 of you, little spit fire, you pulled it right off the hinge. How many times did I hear you throw the Nintendo controller because you couldn’t get to the next level? But time and time again, you picked it back up and tried again…Your anger came in short bursts…amazing from such a tiny one, then gone and you would move on, loving and gentle…Amazing too how your full grown almost 5 foot frame could get a 1200 pound horse to do whatever you wanted…My heart was filled with fear and pride as I’d watch you race through those courses, jumping those amazing jumps…trying for the fastest speed and no faults. Red misses you, my dearest, but Lauren and Ryan love him so and are so proud that they have been asked to adopt him. Red has helped Ryan work through his anger at the tragedy brought on by this horrible disease.

Kristen, I hope you know all the people you have touched. So many visit your resting place leaving notes, trinkets and special treasures as well as their tears for you are sorely missed. Everyone finds peace there…on the hill overlooking the broodmares and their babes…so peaceful and a wonderful tribute to you. Your teachers gave a scholarship in your memory…your counselors speak of their love for you still. I learn more each day about how even as you struggled so hard to chase this demon, you counseled other youngsters in town don’t start…don’t take the chance that what happened to me can happen to you. That message lives, sweet one and I do believe you have made a difference…thank you for the love and caring you gave so freely.

I will never be the same person I was having lost you. A piece of me will always be missing, but I have grown too. You give me strength…I feel it just as I see you still in the single butterfly who dances around me each time there is some special moment…a joy I experience for the first time, or a more difficult day where sadness pulls me.

I love you Kristen, I always will. I know you still fly with me, my precious butterfly, and your spirit lives on. You will live in my heart forever and the lives you touched will always feel your gentle presence.


The Cord

We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.

It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.

This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.

I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.

The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.

It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.

And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.

I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!

Author Unknown


Kristen Elise
May 13, 1986 - July 14, 2006
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Old 07-14-2007, 01:22 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Kristen Elise- Rest in peace. I can tell you are beautiful and that while your light was quick to extinguish, it was bright
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Old 07-14-2007, 10:50 AM   #3 (permalink)
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(((Anne Marie)))

Thank you for sharing a bit of your Kristen today. I feel close to her as I do to you and I know these cherished memories will live on in the hearts of all who knew and loved her. May you find peace today and know that you are never alone. My heart to yours

much love ~

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Who can say for certain
Maybe you're still here
I feel you all around me
Your memory so clear

Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You're still an inspiration
Can it be ...
That you are my forever love
And you are watching over me from up above

Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are

Are you gently sleeping
Here inside my dream
And isn't faith believing
All power can't be seen

As my heart holds you
Just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me everyday
'Cause you are my forever love
Watching me from up above

And I believe
That angels breathe
And that love will live on
and never leave

Fly me up
To where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
To know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are

I know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are ...

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Old 07-14-2007, 08:00 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Wow sorry to hear of your loss ((((((((((greeteachday)))))))))) Thanks for sharing with us!!!
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(((((((((Greet))))))))) ((((((((((((Kristen))))))))))
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My heart goes out to you and your beautiful girl Kristen.

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Old 07-15-2007, 01:26 AM   #8 (permalink)
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She is beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you ever checked out www.silentgrief.com ?
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Old 07-15-2007, 01:28 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Thank you for being here with us Anne Marie.

You and Kristen are both beautiful.

You are both always in my thoughts and prayers.

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Old 07-15-2007, 09:59 AM   #10 (permalink)
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This is a beautiful tribute to your daughter.

Prayers for you both.
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Old 07-16-2007, 03:08 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Greet, One year, what more can I say, I feel your pain, and through our connection with them, it does'nt take our pain away, but helps us to make it through another day. Your tribute, you, and Kristen are beautiful!!!!!!! And thanks for making me cry I needed that, truly I did. The bond we share on here through our loss helps me try to keep moving so I don't fall.
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