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Old 09-02-2006, 10:42 PM   #1 (permalink)
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1 Year

The wound of losing you
still gapes wide open

No scab has formed yet
my pain still bleeds out

I place my hands over it
but still the pain seeps through

The emotions of my grief
permeate every part of me

As I toss in this sea of sorrow
may I cling to God.

my dearest "daddy" (hubby's nickname) - it's been 1 year since you left and i'm working hard at working thru all the emotions. i'm trying to become whole for the first time in my life. even though you're not "here", you are teaching me much. i love you and miss you and am sorry if i didn't verbalize that to you enough. you see, that's part of the damage that the disease has wrought. i can only keep trying to put one foot in front of the other and continue to work on myself. it's a painful journey and i wish you were taking it with me. may God hold us both in his light and love.
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Old 09-02-2006, 10:56 PM   #2 (permalink)
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(((((((cwohio))))))) Anniversarys are always difficult - the first one even more so. Your dad would have known you loved him very much. I'm sorry for your pain and your loss.
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Old 09-02-2006, 10:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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thank you margo - actually "daddy" was a nickname for my husband.
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Old 09-02-2006, 11:01 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Oops - sorry! Well, even more so would he have known how much you loved him.
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Old 09-02-2006, 11:15 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I'm sorry for your pain. It's good you're still learning; becoming whole. My thoughts and prayers are with you for your peace of mind.

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Old 09-03-2006, 01:17 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Old 09-03-2006, 07:31 AM   #7 (permalink)
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CW may a thousand angels dance around you, Im sooo sorry your hurting and I know he is holding your hand while you find yourself. We love you and pray for your peace and senerity.
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Old 09-03-2006, 08:11 AM   #8 (permalink)
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May the winds of peace embrace you today,
and may you find rest and comfort in the arms of it...

My thoughts and prayers with you, always...your words are heartfelt and
so very touching, I feel your woe, your grief.
Peace to You, dear heart.
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Old 09-03-2006, 09:10 AM   #9 (permalink)
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You're in my prayers always but I am saying an extra prayer now that you are comforted today and can find some peace in the good memories of your husband. I am certain he knows how much you truly loved and still love him.

I'm glad that he walks beside you in this journey of becoming whole. Please know that we are there with you too. Love, hugs and prayers.
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Old 09-03-2006, 11:13 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Old 09-03-2006, 12:16 PM   #12 (permalink)
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(((Christie)))

Your poem is so poignant ... may the love and light of God and your beloved husband continue to carry you thru the pain.

Thinking of you today ...

much love and prayers ~

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Old 09-03-2006, 09:46 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Chris, I am sending you a huge hug. You have done so well in this year. Taken big steps. This was a hard day for you, I'm sure. I will say an extra prayer for your comfort tonight.
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Christie, you are in my prayers, and we are making this painful journey together, one day, sometimes one moment at a time. Your progress in this painful process is truly a sign that we are built to be survivors. He is with you and is helping pave the road for you on your journey to wholeness once again. For without God and our husbands spiritually in our life, I don't think we could stand up alone. Love Always, Debbie
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Oh CW......your post made me cry. I have refrained from reading some of the posts in the forum because they hit so close to home.....sigh.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Many hugs to you.
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cup, debbie and debbie - thank you!
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