Gratitude durring a breakup... - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

neonxpolkaxdots · 06-04-2011, 10:30 PM

I just ended a really unhealthy relationship and I think I need a gratitude list right now. My sponsor says when I'm upset to write 10 things I'm greatful for, so I'l post it here.

I'm greatful for:

1. My sobriety 1 year and 2months :] every good thing in my life is a result of my sobriety and working the 12 steps.

2. The learning expierience because from here with the help of my support group I can grow and won't have to go through it again. I always feel better afterwards

3. That the painful parts are over forever, if I want them to be. (we do the break up/make up dance)

4. That he's out of the way so someday I can have the guy god indends for me :]

5. I dont have to be yelled at

6. I'll save a lot of money, he was an expensive boyfriend!

7. I dont have to worry about him relapsing and hurting me again or killing me

8. I dont have to worry about him hurting my parrot (he never has even been around my bird but if we moved intogether I'd worry, its always in the back of my mind)

9. I dont have to answer to him and submit to his every request

10. He cant ignore me, make me feel bad about myself, cheat on me, hit me or make me feel bad emotionally or physically.

Rusty Zipper · 06-05-2011, 12:48 AM

no coincidences neon,

i did too

and grateful that it's not that i needed to,

it's that i wanted to

Mida · 06-05-2011, 09:59 AM

Congrats on your sobriety and making what sounds to me the right choice under the circumstances...you can do this! Best of luck on your journey

CarolD · 06-05-2011, 01:06 PM

Grateful to know you are out of a toxic situation and moving forward...

Please share on any of our on going threads anytime you wish...

Horselover · 06-05-2011, 01:23 PM

Grateful to read this post that indicates you are moving in the right direction. Definitely lean on the gratitude in the coming days. Glad you came here. Much love.

cocobella · 06-05-2011, 02:18 PM

So glad to hear you are taking your power back. You deserve so much better than that and someday you will find that love of your life! Someone who cherishes you and lifts you up. Thanks for posting that for us!

neonxpolkaxdots · 06-05-2011, 05:46 PM

OMG! I wasn't expecting there to be any replies! You guys made me so happy. Totally rienforced that I made the right decision.

sonrisa · 06-09-2011, 08:31 PM

This made me smile. I am going through a recent breakup as well. It's tough but I know I'm better off, too.

06-04-2011, 10:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
neonxpolkaxdots Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Santa Cruz, Ca Posts: 35	Gratitude durring a breakup... I just ended a really unhealthy relationship and I think I need a gratitude list right now. My sponsor says when I'm upset to write 10 things I'm greatful for, so I'l post it here. I'm greatful for: 1. My sobriety 1 year and 2months :] every good thing in my life is a result of my sobriety and working the 12 steps. 2. The learning expierience because from here with the help of my support group I can grow and won't have to go through it again. I always feel better afterwards 3. That the painful parts are over forever, if I want them to be. (we do the break up/make up dance) 4. That he's out of the way so someday I can have the guy god indends for me :] 5. I dont have to be yelled at 6. I'll save a lot of money, he was an expensive boyfriend! 7. I dont have to worry about him relapsing and hurting me again or killing me 8. I dont have to worry about him hurting my parrot (he never has even been around my bird but if we moved intogether I'd worry, its always in the back of my mind) 9. I dont have to answer to him and submit to his every request 10. He cant ignore me, make me feel bad about myself, cheat on me, hit me or make me feel bad emotionally or physically.

06-05-2011, 12:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
Rusty Zipper Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: my room in ct. Posts: 41,171	no coincidences neon, i did too and grateful that it's not that i needed to, it's that i wanted to __________________ *Rule 62*

06-05-2011, 09:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
Mida ...is learning and growing... Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 573	Congrats on your sobriety and making what sounds to me the right choice under the circumstances...you can do this! Best of luck on your journey __________________ ~Mida "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." ~Marcel Proust

06-05-2011, 01:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
CarolD Forward we go...side by side Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 37,601	Grateful to know you are out of a toxic situation and moving forward... Please share on any of our on going threads anytime you wish... __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

06-05-2011, 01:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
Horselover Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: NY Posts: 6,607 Blog Entries: 3	Grateful to read this post that indicates you are moving in the right direction. Definitely lean on the gratitude in the coming days. Glad you came here. Much love. __________________ "For who among us shall cast the first stone?"

06-05-2011, 02:18 PM	#6 (permalink)
cocobella Eternally Grateful 4/25/08 Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 208	So glad to hear you are taking your power back. You deserve so much better than that and someday you will find that love of your life! Someone who cherishes you and lifts you up. Thanks for posting that for us!

06-05-2011, 05:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
neonxpolkaxdots Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Santa Cruz, Ca Posts: 35	OMG! I wasn't expecting there to be any replies! You guys made me so happy. Totally rienforced that I made the right decision.

06-09-2011, 08:31 PM	#8 (permalink)
sonrisa Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 28	This made me smile. I am going through a recent breakup as well. It's tough but I know I'm better off, too.

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