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Old 10-20-2013, 09:39 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hey everybody,

I just joined, and am really glad there's a forum out there for GLBTQ folks in Recovery. That's awesome.

Where I live, there are 2 GLBT AA meetings to attend each week... I'm going to go to my first one tonight. I'm a little nervous. Okay, more than a little nervous... I'm kinda terrified.

I have a "perfection" complex which is kinda what drove me to drink a lot... I hear that a lot of us are affected with this particular brand of self-incrimination. Even though I feel broken down, tired, scared, and drained... I still feel like I have "be on" with everybody I see. I'm afraid this will keep me from being honest in Recovery. Not sure how best to deal with that.

Anyway, it's great to have found this place and I'm anxious to be a part of it.

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Old 10-20-2013, 10:36 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Hi Mike and welcome to both SR and our GLBT section of the forums. It's always nice to see another new face around here.

The GLBT section is not as active of a forum as our alcoholism or drug forums but we do have some regulars around here who pop in when they can so don't worry if it takes a little while, sometimes even a couple of days, to get a response down here. I am active here as well as in the alcoholism forums and sometimes in newcomers.

Anyway, just wanted to say hello and welcome
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Thanks for the welcome and I appreciate the info. See you around!
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Hey Mike,

Welcome aboard.

Man, do I relate to the "being on" thing. I've 'been on' so much for so long that I finally broke down. It was like I'd driven down the freeway in third gear for too many years and blew....something. I don't know anything about cars, but that's my best analogy.

I was so exhausted that at one point I remarked to my wife/partner, "I'm so tired that when I go to ask someone a question about themselves, I'm too tired before my question is even done to care about their answer!"

Hopefully, with finding others who let their masks down, you'll start to feel safe enough to lower your own. It's a huge relief. AAers are often nothing if not authentic. Not all of course; we're all human and "being on" is an ingrained habit. But being surrounded by safe people, it can be an easy relief to shed that straight jacket.

Welcome to SR - lots of great people and support here.
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Welcome to SR and the GLBT forum Mike. I pop in now and then here and am active on other parts of the site. Great support and some good times too.

How long have you been sober? You might check out the Newcomer's Daily Support forum, lots of great people and support there!

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Thanks for your messages, they mean a lot to this "newbie!" I've been sober 4 days, 9 hours, 25 minutes. At least according to the new "sober app" on my phone. I had no idea being in recovery could be so high tech

I'm finding this place to be a really great resource and I think I will really enjoy spending time here. Thanks for the welcome! And you're right, DylanS... ready to shed that straight jacket!
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Thanks for your messages, they mean a lot to this "newbie!" I've been sober 4 days, 9 hours, 25 minutes. At least according to the new "sober app" on my phone. I had no idea being in recovery could be so high tech I'm finding this place to be a really great resource and I think I will really enjoy spending time here. Thanks for the welcome! And you're right, DylanS... ready to shed that straight jacket!
There are a few good apps, this one, SR is my fave. There's In the Rooms and 12 Step Companion too if that is the path you are taking.
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