Originally Posted by utopia
I need some questions framed in recovery to decide if i should end my relationship with my partner.
we've been together a while but i just feel like when we fight, its more often than not - im not sure if we are connecting less and less or if im just coloured in my thoughts right now from the past 24 hours.
I feel I could go on about all the things in our past but tonight i just felt a pang of distance and isolation and futility.
What makes one couple break up and one make up - does it come from a loving feeling or from a persistent belief things will improve or a fear that this is as good as it gets?? Mind is clouded at the moment and my dear friends dont have the time...
I think a lot of people stay together because they are afraid to be single. When I was in the full throws of alcoholism, people dated me, and wanted to keep dating me. I was like, wtf is wrong with you? I never show up or call, and we dont even have anything in common. lol. Ive never needed to date to feel complete, and now being sober 2 years, I dont plan on dating at all until I find someone I can really see a future with.
Life is too short to stick with someone who makes you miserable, unless you enjoy drama. Never stay just to avoid being single or living on your own.