Relapsing with infidelity
Hi good community. I'm a lesbian who was with her recovering alcoholic/drug addict partner for four years until recently. She admitted to me last week that she was having an affair. It came way out of left field and was totally unexpected.
Now that I look at it, I think that this is the alcoholic relapsing on sex as opposed to alcohol or drugs. But I'm having a hard time putting that into perspective. She had also stopped taking her anti-depressants but hadn't told me that until just a couple of weeks prior.
I hope it's appropriate to post here as it's so hard to find LGBTQ recovery forums. I myself am in Al-Anon but have not been working the program so I have put myself back in with 30 meetings in 30 days. I can see that neither of us were working the program and that our lives had become unmanageable.
I guess I'm just reaching out for some help in making that connection that getting a high is a relapse, no matter what the drug. There are moments in the day where I doubt myself. That there was no relapse and that I wasn't living with a sober drunk. But I think I was.