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Old 03-18-2013, 10:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Telling someone youre in recovery?

Do you mention to someone you are in recovery? I am 21 and currently have been in recovery from meth, heroin, and pcp addiction. I've been sober a little over a month and I'm just never sure when or if to bring it up. I feel like if you start off with that it comes off as way too much to tell someone..but if you wait it seems like hiding. I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now but have failed to mention any part of my hard drug use. What have you all experienced as the reactions? Should I mentionit to him, go into details? Or just kind of sweep it under the rug?
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I think it's better to be honest about it than to sweep it under the rug. But maybe just start slowly and carefully; you don't have to go into every detail right away. You might mention that you're newly in recovery and just see where that leads. If you want to be able to have a good, honest relationship with someone, it has to start at the start and build from there. And it can be a way, tho not easy, to find out if this is a person who can/will be truly on your side.
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Do you mention to someone you are in recovery? I am 21 and currently have been in recovery from meth, heroin, and pcp addiction. I've been sober a little over a month and I'm just never sure when or if to bring it up. I feel like if you start off with that it comes off as way too much to tell someone..but if you wait it seems like hiding. I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now but have failed to mention any part of my hard drug use. What have you all experienced as the reactions? Should I mentionit to him, go into details? Or just kind of sweep it under the rug?

I dont think you need to be dating anyone right now. That will distract you from what you need to be focusing on, which is your sobriety and recovery. Relationships can also cause un-needed stress, which is another thing you dont need.
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I agree with Nighthawk. The most important thing for you to do is focus on YOU and being sober. Having a relationship with someone, especially a new one, and being newly sober could cause stress levels to go through the roof and trigger you to relapse. Wait for a while, and get to know the sober you.
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