Telling someone youre in recovery? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Dirt · 03-18-2013, 10:21 PM

Do you mention to someone you are in recovery? I am 21 and currently have been in recovery from meth, heroin, and pcp addiction. I've been sober a little over a month and I'm just never sure when or if to bring it up. I feel like if you start off with that it comes off as way too much to tell someone..but if you wait it seems like hiding. I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now but have failed to mention any part of my hard drug use. What have you all experienced as the reactions? Should I mentionit to him, go into details? Or just kind of sweep it under the rug?

Lyoness · 03-18-2013, 11:08 PM

I think it's better to be honest about it than to sweep it under the rug. But maybe just start slowly and carefully; you don't have to go into every detail right away. You might mention that you're newly in recovery and just see where that leads. If you want to be able to have a good, honest relationship with someone, it has to start at the start and build from there. And it can be a way, tho not easy, to find out if this is a person who can/will be truly on your side.

03-18-2013, 10:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dirt Member Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Denton, Texas Posts: 21	Telling someone youre in recovery? Do you mention to someone you are in recovery? I am 21 and currently have been in recovery from meth, heroin, and pcp addiction. I've been sober a little over a month and I'm just never sure when or if to bring it up. I feel like if you start off with that it comes off as way too much to tell someone..but if you wait it seems like hiding. I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now but have failed to mention any part of my hard drug use. What have you all experienced as the reactions? Should I mentionit to him, go into details? Or just kind of sweep it under the rug?

03-18-2013, 11:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
Lyoness Night owl Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Orion spur of the Milky Way galaxy Posts: 1,037	I think it's better to be honest about it than to sweep it under the rug. But maybe just start slowly and carefully; you don't have to go into every detail right away. You might mention that you're newly in recovery and just see where that leads. If you want to be able to have a good, honest relationship with someone, it has to start at the start and build from there. And it can be a way, tho not easy, to find out if this is a person who can/will be truly on your side.

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