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MaryMM · 07-31-2012, 08:17 AM

Here I am...trying to get and stay sober. I am nearly 54, lesbian and out longer in my life than I was not. I am very comfortable in my skin and just celebrated our 16th anniversary with my partner. My partner is the most wonderful woman in the world. She is bright, articulate, passionate about life, and sober. I do not know how she tolerates living with me yet she does.

We have been through so much in our relationship. Deaths of family members, breakups of our friends, breast cancer, and caring for aging parents; however, my drinking is a tough one. I have so much to lose yet keep choosing to drink. I need support from others.

***PaperDolls*** · 07-31-2012, 08:20 AM

Welcome to SR Mary!

Struggling with alcoholism in a relationship is tough .... I've been there. It is possible to make it through and get sober.

Do you have any plans on how you're going to get and stay sober?

catallus · 07-31-2012, 11:24 AM

Hey now MaryMM,

Welcome aboard! Recovery is difficult, try not to do this alone. Decide what type of program best fits you (AA, AVRT etc) and find support within your community. Seek out people in recovery you can call when things get dicey; recovery is difficult, but friends in recovery have a positive impact and may make the recovery process easier to manage.

Congratulations on your 16 year relationship also

Best wishes and keep at it - recovery is worth the effort.

***nandm*** · 07-31-2012, 07:24 PM

Welcome Mary.

I can't really add much advice to what Catallus and Paperdolls have said. I just wanted to take a minute to say hi and introduce myself. I am a lesbian who is also a recovering alcoholic. I have been alcohol free since 3/13/2001. There are many programs out there to assist a person with stopping drinking the one that worked for me is Alcoholics Anonymous. I do recommend finding one that works for you as it does make it a lot easier than trying to go it alone. The programs provide the tools and support to help increase our chances for a successful recovery. My partner and I have been together 11 years and met in sobriety. She has been a blessing in my life.

Anyway, hi and I do hope you let us know how your journey towards sobriety goes. We are always happy to share support, experiences, and hope when we can.

MaryMM · 08-01-2012, 06:46 PM

Another sober day! Thank you for welcoming me, I truly appreciate that. I have checked on a couple of outpatient treatment programs and have done an online AA meeting (go figure). I also want to check out Women for Sobriety. Does anyone have experience with that group?

07-31-2012, 08:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
MaryMM Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Woodbury, MN Posts: 5	Here I am... Here I am...trying to get and stay sober. I am nearly 54, lesbian and out longer in my life than I was not. I am very comfortable in my skin and just celebrated our 16th anniversary with my partner. My partner is the most wonderful woman in the world. She is bright, articulate, passionate about life, and sober. I do not know how she tolerates living with me yet she does. We have been through so much in our relationship. Deaths of family members, breakups of our friends, breast cancer, and caring for aging parents; however, my drinking is a tough one. I have so much to lose yet keep choosing to drink. I need support from others.

07-31-2012, 08:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
*PaperDolls* Community Greeter Join Date: May 2004 Location: Midwest Posts: 7,827 Blog Entries: 10	Welcome to SR Mary! Struggling with alcoholism in a relationship is tough .... I've been there. It is possible to make it through and get sober. Do you have any plans on how you're going to get and stay sober? __________________ Advice is like snow; the softer it falls the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind. --Samuel T. Coleridg

07-31-2012, 11:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
catallus Contented Blast Billards Champion! Pool Jam Champion! Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 124	Hey now MaryMM, Welcome aboard! Recovery is difficult, try not to do this alone. Decide what type of program best fits you (AA, AVRT etc) and find support within your community. Seek out people in recovery you can call when things get dicey; recovery is difficult, but friends in recovery have a positive impact and may make the recovery process easier to manage. Congratulations on your 16 year relationship also Best wishes and keep at it - recovery is worth the effort. __________________ With the GIFT of recovery...The sky's the limit...

07-31-2012, 07:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
*nandm* Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 6,809	Welcome Mary. I can't really add much advice to what Catallus and Paperdolls have said. I just wanted to take a minute to say hi and introduce myself. I am a lesbian who is also a recovering alcoholic. I have been alcohol free since 3/13/2001. There are many programs out there to assist a person with stopping drinking the one that worked for me is Alcoholics Anonymous. I do recommend finding one that works for you as it does make it a lot easier than trying to go it alone. The programs provide the tools and support to help increase our chances for a successful recovery. My partner and I have been together 11 years and met in sobriety. She has been a blessing in my life. Anyway, hi and I do hope you let us know how your journey towards sobriety goes. We are always happy to share support, experiences, and hope when we can. __________________ NOTE: All BB quotes are from the 1st Edition of the Big Book Depression is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of being too strong for too long.

08-01-2012, 06:46 PM	#5 (permalink)
MaryMM Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Woodbury, MN Posts: 5	Thanks. Another sober day! Thank you for welcoming me, I truly appreciate that. I have checked on a couple of outpatient treatment programs and have done an online AA meeting (go figure). I also want to check out Women for Sobriety. Does anyone have experience with that group?

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