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elm80 · 01-03-2012, 03:07 PM

My girlfriend wanted me to get an assessment at an outpatient facility and start a program so I did. I talked to the guy for an hour and fifteen minutes. It felt really good to talk to another addict. He said I have the tools I need and that I don't need the outpatient treatment but I do need a community of people like me. He said I definately need NA or AA meetings. When I got home and told my girlfriend about it she says she wants me to go to outpatient treatment and meetings aren't good enough. She wants me to get help but she wants me to do it her way. She pisses me off. Who the hell is she to tell me how I need to get help? Thanks for listening.

***nandm*** · 01-03-2012, 04:58 PM

Welcome to SR and the GLBTQ forum.

Sorry to hear that you are struggling. My thoughts are that what is important is that you get help. If you don't qualify for outpatient then so be it. Personally AA worked for me. I have been sober nearly 11 years now with it. I did not go to any inpatient or outpatient treatments. Although I have nothing against the programs and do believe they can be quite beneficial. I encourage you to continue to seek help.

We are always here to provide support and encouragement as well so feel free to keep us posted on how you are doing. Take care.

suki44883 · 01-03-2012, 05:08 PM

If you are willing to get help then that is all that matters. Your recovery is none of her business. She should attend al-anon meetings so she can learn what is and what is not her business. Maybe you could suggest that to her next time she tries to run your life.

AngelwithWings · 01-04-2012, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by elm80

My girlfriend wanted me to get an assessment at an outpatient facility and start a program so I did. <snip>
He said I have the tools I need and that I don't need the outpatient treatment but I do need a community of people like me. He said I definately need NA or AA meetings.

What exactly does she need to accept what the guy at the outpatient place said to you?
I'd not let this fester nor back down.

Does she want to go back to Outpatient with you and get a second opinion? ?
my best to you!

FlyerFan · 01-04-2012, 02:29 PM

things like this can really screw up a relationship, especially when one person does not fully support the other person.

I agree with the others, you should do what YOU feel is best, and if she can't accept it then that is not your problem, it is hers. I wish you luck.

01-03-2012, 03:07 PM	#1 (permalink)
elm80 Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: High Point, NC Posts: 6 Blog Entries: 1	Not good enough My girlfriend wanted me to get an assessment at an outpatient facility and start a program so I did. I talked to the guy for an hour and fifteen minutes. It felt really good to talk to another addict. He said I have the tools I need and that I don't need the outpatient treatment but I do need a community of people like me. He said I definately need NA or AA meetings. When I got home and told my girlfriend about it she says she wants me to go to outpatient treatment and meetings aren't good enough. She wants me to get help but she wants me to do it her way. She pisses me off. Who the hell is she to tell me how I need to get help? Thanks for listening.

01-03-2012, 04:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
*nandm* Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 6,777	Welcome to SR and the GLBTQ forum. Sorry to hear that you are struggling. My thoughts are that what is important is that you get help. If you don't qualify for outpatient then so be it. Personally AA worked for me. I have been sober nearly 11 years now with it. I did not go to any inpatient or outpatient treatments. Although I have nothing against the programs and do believe they can be quite beneficial. I encourage you to continue to seek help. We are always here to provide support and encouragement as well so feel free to keep us posted on how you are doing. Take care. __________________ NOTE: All BB quotes are from the 1st Edition of the Big Book Depression is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of being too strong for too long.

01-03-2012, 05:08 PM	#3 (permalink)
suki44883 Just livin' the dream Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Somewhere Out There Posts: 11,560	If you are willing to get help then that is all that matters. Your recovery is none of her business. She should attend al-anon meetings so she can learn what is and what is not her business. Maybe you could suggest that to her next time she tries to run your life. __________________ "The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone is the character of the person walking the path." - Travis Alexander "So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key." - The Eagles

01-04-2012, 02:29 PM	#5 (permalink)
FlyerFan Woman in AA Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,145 Blog Entries: 49	things like this can really screw up a relationship, especially when one person does not fully support the other person. I agree with the others, you should do what YOU feel is best, and if she can't accept it then that is not your problem, it is hers. I wish you luck. __________________ "Sit back, relax, and look at the world from your multi-colored glass."

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