I don't think I belong here.

[sct]

I'm gay, but I don't think I belong here. I'm not really questioning my sexuality or gender, nor am I really politically correct enough to be offended by whatever I'm supposed to be offended by. All I really care to do, is discuss recovery, because my sexuality defines me less than my addiction does, so I think I'm going to stick with NA forums from now on.

Peace.

-Rae.

[Faerie]

Hi Rae,

I'm Bi and not confused either.

From my understanding, and this is just my opinion, this forum is just to talk about our sexuality and beliefs.

Whether it be in general or in regards to our recovery.

I've seen threads regarding both of the above examples.

Just check the thread and see if you have anything to offer.

That's all I do.

Peace and love,

Faerie x

[Mattcake]

...Our addiction doesn't define who we are - that's one of the key points of the way I personally approach recovery. I feel the same way about my sexual identity. We're much more than a handful of labels and symptoms.

Rae, I'm really saddened by your decision to leave the GLBT forum - I respect your insights and views, they are always interesting to read, regardless of the subject matter. And I consider this forum one of SR's biggest assets..If you'd rather stick to strictly NA recovery discussions, though, then... suit yourself, Spikey

[sct]

It's all good Mattilda. I just didn't get clean to be on mute, yeah? Peace brother, you know where to find me anyway.

[Mattcake]

!!mattilda?

[freya]

That's too bad, sct...You have interesting stuff to say, and it seems to me that, whatever one says on whatever forum, there are going to be folks who agree and/or relate and folks who don't. Just because someone doesn't share your views or experience in any particular instance, that doesn't mean that what you have to say isn't valuable or interesting.

And, actually, as someone who doesn't struggle with issues related to sex and gender, it seems like you might be able to provide some important insight and a hopeful example to those who do....not to mention the fact that you are clearly a good example of strong recovery in general.

Good luck to you wherever you go!

freya

P.S. Step 12 (The Al Anon version): "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in ALL our affairs." (emphasis added) That would include sex, sexuality and gender, methinks!

P.P.S. .....Did somebody really put you on "mute" for something you said in this forum????? I don't actually know how the whole "ignore" function works here on SR, but it's beyond tacky if people actually get some kind of notification that someone has them on "ignore,".......and if someone put you on ignore and then felt compelled to tell you that him/herself, well really, who cares what a person like that does anyways??????? YIKES!

[ICantHeCan]

Sct, I for one believe that not only was a born gay but I was also born an alcoholic. Both are very much intertwined in who I am, where I have been and where I am going, the latter being the in the hands of some one, some thing, greater than myself if I am to even going to attempt to remain clean and sober. All that's required of any of us, even here, is a DESIRE !!

As for me I have my sober friends to discuss recovery with, and I have used SR as a guest on and off for a while now to turn questions I have on their ear, to hear other perspectives, that come up day to day, here or there. *Smiling* although your post was enough to make me "color outside the lines" long enough to post... and I thank you for that!!