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freya · 08-07-2009, 01:29 PM

I am just like so griped about this.

My partner is working 2 jobs this summer, so I have been mowing the lawn.

I hate mowing the lawn.....Actually, I hate most yard work because it is dirty and buggy and just generally "yucky," but I am doing this because I am not a totally unreasonable person and because my mom (who lives with me) maintains an amazingly beautiful garden (one of those gardems that people walking down the street will sometimes ring the bell and ask permission to go back in the yard and see) and so it only seems right that the yard in general not look so unkempt that it detracts from the garden.

So anyways, last week I was meeting with this client of mine, who is a single retired butch who lives in a little house on a pretty big piece of property about 20 miles east of the city, and somehow the subject of mowing the lawn came up. She, of course, has a riding mower and she enjoys mowing, but even so, it takes her half a day to get her lawn mowed. Well, I guess I said something about how much I hated having to do it, because she said that she especially liked, when she was all done, seeing the nice, neat rows of tracks in the grass from the mower.

......and I, apparently stupidly, said: "Well, actually, I don't mow back and forth in rows; I go around and around in ever-smaller rectangles until I get to the center."

And then she laughs and says: "You're such a girl!"

....which, of course, is true....DUH!!!!......but I really had no idea that there was a "girly" way of mowing (other, of course, than refusing to do it, which would definitely be my first choice!). But anyway, this AM I had to mow, and I decided to try to do it in rows, but everytime my attention wandered I'd come back to realize that I was doing it around and around again...so I guess it does seem to be the natural way for me to do it.

And then I made the mistake of saying something to my partner about this when she called at lunch and got the same kind of "Ha! Ha! that's a fu-fu (and therefore wrong) way to do it" response....so now I'm really ticked and feel like telling her if she wants to be that way, then she can d*mn well get out of bed on Saturday morning and do it herself after working 65-70 hours a week.

I mean, for heavens sake, the grass ends up cut either way -- and that was the point, I thought.

This kind of cr*p is just so friggin' misogynistic!

freya

louis · 08-07-2009, 02:10 PM

Hey freya

*speaks from hidden behind riot gear*

Nope... you dont mow the lawn that way.... you'd get dizzy for a start :o)
And then your stuck in the middle of the lawn....

I get alittle more creative tho... i keep wanting to mow the lawn (when i have one) like a chess set... but thats because i really like chess... but generally up and down the lawn would be the way to go :o)

hope your day got better

be well
louis

freya · 08-07-2009, 02:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by louis

Nope... you dont mow the lawn that way.... you'd get dizzy for a start :o) And then your stuck in the middle of the lawn....

Funny, I've never had either of those things happen to me....Those must be problems specific to "boys!" LOL!

freya

GoldenGutters · 08-09-2009, 07:39 AM

God, I must be a big ol' girl then too cuz I mow the lawn the same way you do Freya. Then again I prefer to mow parallel to the flower patches that border the lawn rather than stomping through the Salpiglosis (in my dream garden!) like Godzilla through Tokyo to turn the damn mower around to start the next line.

sct · 08-10-2009, 01:37 PM

Uh. Breathe dude. Neither of them said it was "wrong" just girly. Maybe it is, maybe it's not. To me it depends how your lawn is laid out. I'm assuming your partner didn't add the parenthetical "and therefore wrong."

Really, the only misogynistic thing I read in your post was... your own assumption that someone referring to something as "girly" MUST be wrong.

Breathe, say the serenity prayer, and go back to mowing the lawn however you like.

freya · 08-12-2009, 04:25 PM

Well you know, sct, it's exactly the same thing as "That's so gay!".......and my guess is everybody already knows that we disagree on this.......

..and just FYI, I most definitely am way too "girly" to be a "dude!!!"

LOL!

freya

sct · 08-13-2009, 01:15 PM

Yes. I know. I was being ironic.

liveweyerd · 10-09-2009, 08:50 PM

high comedy, I love it!
Thanks Freya for steering me to this thread.

I KNOW what my funniest story is...but I don't think it would be appropriate...nope, not even here. And no, I didn't mean anything by that....but we do know that some of the sub-forums are more liberal than others.

When I AM working in my career thing...it is white collar professional....but those guys in suits don't do a thing for me. They don't really know how to do guy things...like you said physical strength or more outdoorsy survival hunter types....When I meet a guy, one of the first things I ask him is if he has a pocket knife. yeppers...that tells me whether he is a good boy scout LOL and has on the ready tools to fix things with or whether he uses his cell phone and calls some other guy who can. LOL I mean when I am working on those projects...I can use the phone and hire a guy myself. Nope I want one that pees in the woods, marks his territory, knows how to catch dinner and cook it over a campfire, pops out his pocket knife and makes all sorts of creative tools with it, etc etc etc.
BUT he also has to know how to be a gentleman....open my car door, carry my luggage, order my dinner for me in a fine restaurant, help me with my coat.
Yes, I want to be a princess and I want it ALL! LOL
But, dang, I lived by myself in a rural area for many years and I hate it when I know better how to fix the roof, check the fuses, etc and blah blah than he does.

And you, Freya cannot be mad about being girly...because I read your first post. That is SO girly! LOL

I am sort of androgynous in contrast....I like to drive the interstate and play lead, follow or get outta the way. I like digging in the dirt. So to feel femine...I look for uber-masculine. And how did you get out of mowing the lawn as a chore when you were a kid????

freya · 10-09-2009, 10:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by liveweyerd

And how did you get out of mowing the lawn as a chore when you were a kid????

Several brothers who would much rather mow the lawn than do the housework.

It just all works out so much more easily when everyone knows whose job is whose! LOL! I have a femme friend who likes to say sarcastically: "I just don't know how those boy-on-boy and girl-on-girl couples do it. I mean like, when they get to a door that's closed, how do they know who opens the door?"

And of course, that's a joke -- but only partly -- because you also better know that she is not the one who opens the door when she's out with her butch!

freya

P.S...and, live, it's late, but I will e-mail you again tomorrow!

liveweyerd · 10-10-2009, 03:18 PM

LOL
Well, she walks up to the door, looks bewildered, checks her nails, adjusts her jewelry, checks how she looks in the glass.....
LOL

Being androgyness, I do not want to be constrained to one role for everything.
I mean I think he should cook for me.
I am a princess after all!
When he eats an apple, he bites off a piece and hands it to me. Yeah, I love that.

But, maybe I wanta put on the hard hat and try to drive the Tonka truck...like getting into the forbidden zone....LOL

liveweyerd · 10-10-2009, 03:40 PM

I used to like the term that I coined "polyandrogeness"...but I have settled down a bit!

i think sometimes I just like to play around with and be a little bit "in your face" with those stereotypical guys who have dumb ideas about what females can and can't do.

08-07-2009, 01:29 PM	#26 (permalink)
freya ...all this, and brains, too! Join Date: May 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 1,146	Femme Rant I am just like so griped about this. My partner is working 2 jobs this summer, so I have been mowing the lawn. I hate mowing the lawn.....Actually, I hate most yard work because it is dirty and buggy and just generally "yucky," but I am doing this because I am not a totally unreasonable person and because my mom (who lives with me) maintains an amazingly beautiful garden (one of those gardems that people walking down the street will sometimes ring the bell and ask permission to go back in the yard and see) and so it only seems right that the yard in general not look so unkempt that it detracts from the garden. So anyways, last week I was meeting with this client of mine, who is a single retired butch who lives in a little house on a pretty big piece of property about 20 miles east of the city, and somehow the subject of mowing the lawn came up. She, of course, has a riding mower and she enjoys mowing, but even so, it takes her half a day to get her lawn mowed. Well, I guess I said something about how much I hated having to do it, because she said that she especially liked, when she was all done, seeing the nice, neat rows of tracks in the grass from the mower. ......and I, apparently stupidly, said: "Well, actually, I don't mow back and forth in rows; I go around and around in ever-smaller rectangles until I get to the center." And then she laughs and says: "You're such a girl!" ....which, of course, is true....DUH!!!!......but I really had no idea that there was a "girly" way of mowing (other, of course, than refusing to do it, which would definitely be my first choice!). But anyway, this AM I had to mow, and I decided to try to do it in rows, but everytime my attention wandered I'd come back to realize that I was doing it around and around again...so I guess it does seem to be the natural way for me to do it. And then I made the mistake of saying something to my partner about this when she called at lunch and got the same kind of "Ha! Ha! that's a fu-fu (and therefore wrong) way to do it" response....so now I'm really ticked and feel like telling her if she wants to be that way, then she can dmn well get out of bed on Saturday morning and do it herself after working 65-70 hours a week. I mean, for heavens sake, the grass ends up cut either way -- and that was* the point, I thought. This kind of crp is just so friggin' misogynistic! freya* __________________ I never did give anybody hell; I just told the truth and they thought it was hell. -- Harry S. Truman

08-09-2009, 07:39 AM	#29 (permalink)
GoldenGutters Gigi, BootLiquor, whatever.... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Concord, CA Posts: 1,647 Blog Entries: 1	God, I must be a big ol' girl then too cuz I mow the lawn the same way you do Freya. Then again I prefer to mow parallel to the flower patches that border the lawn rather than stomping through the Salpiglosis (in my dream garden!) like Godzilla through Tokyo to turn the damn mower around to start the next line. __________________ 99% Bonobo, 1% karma

08-12-2009, 04:25 PM	#31 (permalink)
freya ...all this, and brains, too! Join Date: May 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 1,146	Well you know, sct, it's exactly the same thing as "That's so gay!".......and my guess is everybody already knows that we disagree on this....... ..and just FYI, I most definitely am way too "girly" to be a "dude!!!" LOL! freya __________________ I never did give anybody hell; I just told the truth and they thought it was hell. -- Harry S. Truman

10-09-2009, 08:50 PM	#33 (permalink)
liveweyerd Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 8,276 Blog Entries: 5	high comedy, I love it! Thanks Freya for steering me to this thread. I KNOW what my funniest story is...but I don't think it would be appropriate...nope, not even here. And no, I didn't mean anything by that....but we do know that some of the sub-forums are more liberal than others. When I AM working in my career thing...it is white collar professional....but those guys in suits don't do a thing for me. They don't really know how to do guy things...like you said physical strength or more outdoorsy survival hunter types....When I meet a guy, one of the first things I ask him is if he has a pocket knife. yeppers...that tells me whether he is a good boy scout LOL and has on the ready tools to fix things with or whether he uses his cell phone and calls some other guy who can. LOL I mean when I am working on those projects...I can use the phone and hire a guy myself. Nope I want one that pees in the woods, marks his territory, knows how to catch dinner and cook it over a campfire, pops out his pocket knife and makes all sorts of creative tools with it, etc etc etc. BUT he also has to know how to be a gentleman....open my car door, carry my luggage, order my dinner for me in a fine restaurant, help me with my coat. Yes, I want to be a princess and I want it ALL! LOL But, dang, I lived by myself in a rural area for many years and I hate it when I know better how to fix the roof, check the fuses, etc and blah blah than he does. And you, Freya cannot be mad about being girly...because I read your first post. That is SO girly! LOL I am sort of androgynous in contrast....I like to drive the interstate and play lead, follow or get outta the way. I like digging in the dirt. So to feel femine...I look for uber-masculine. And how did you get out of mowing the lawn as a chore when you were a kid???? __________________ Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters

10-10-2009, 03:18 PM	#35 (permalink)
liveweyerd Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 8,276 Blog Entries: 5	LOL Well, she walks up to the door, looks bewildered, checks her nails, adjusts her jewelry, checks how she looks in the glass..... LOL Being androgyness, I do not want to be constrained to one role for everything. I mean I think he should cook for me. I am a princess after all! When he eats an apple, he bites off a piece and hands it to me. Yeah, I love that. But, maybe I wanta put on the hard hat and try to drive the Tonka truck...like getting into the forbidden zone....LOL __________________ Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters

08-07-2009, 02:10 PM	#27 (permalink)
louis Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Here's me. but when drinking could be found in doorways! Posts: 812	Hey freya speaks from hidden behind riot gear Nope... you dont mow the lawn that way.... you'd get dizzy for a start :o) And then your stuck in the middle of the lawn.... I get alittle more creative tho... i keep wanting to mow the lawn (when i have one) like a chess set... but thats because i really like chess... but generally up and down the lawn would be the way to go :o) hope your day got better be well louis

08-10-2009, 01:37 PM	#30 (permalink)
sct Guest Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 348	Uh. Breathe dude. Neither of them said it was "wrong" just girly. Maybe it is, maybe it's not. To me it depends how your lawn is laid out. I'm assuming your partner didn't add the parenthetical "and therefore wrong." Really, the only misogynistic thing I read in your post was... your own assumption that someone referring to something as "girly" MUST be wrong. Breathe, say the serenity prayer, and go back to mowing the lawn however you like.

08-13-2009, 01:15 PM	#32 (permalink)
sct Guest Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 348	Yes. I know. I was being ironic.

10-10-2009, 03:40 PM	#36 (permalink)
liveweyerd Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 8,276 Blog Entries: 5	I used to like the term that I coined "polyandrogeness"...but I have settled down a bit! i think sometimes I just like to play around with and be a little bit "in your face" with those stereotypical guys who have dumb ideas about what females can and can't do. __________________ Each small candle lights a corner of the dark....Roger Waters

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