Got drugs from and slept with prostitutes
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Dee,
I am so sorry. You are not stupid. You are a kind, intelligent and strong woman that will survive this. He is not worth doing something over that you will regret later. Keep posting, keep talking and taking deep breaths. Can you go somewhere before he gets home to think? Can you call your doctor and get an appointment? Pause, pray and proceed.
Praying for you my friend!
I am so sorry. You are not stupid. You are a kind, intelligent and strong woman that will survive this. He is not worth doing something over that you will regret later. Keep posting, keep talking and taking deep breaths. Can you go somewhere before he gets home to think? Can you call your doctor and get an appointment? Pause, pray and proceed.
Praying for you my friend!
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I mean...I took this seriously. You know, adult life. Get married, support one another emotionally, buy a house, raise kids, work and pay bills...you know, life. I came at this from a grown-up point of view.
I was delusional. I thought two of us came at this from an adult point of view. It was only me, all that time. I was alone in this marriage. He was in...some kind of situation...but it wasn't an adult life. I didn't marry a grown man. That I thought I had says something about me.
The damage this is going to do to me is reinforce the counterdependent "I don't need anyone, I can do everything myself, I can't trust anyone to take care of my needs" crap that is already there. To hell with it. I'll have dogs and booty-calls. Love hurts way too much.
I was delusional. I thought two of us came at this from an adult point of view. It was only me, all that time. I was alone in this marriage. He was in...some kind of situation...but it wasn't an adult life. I didn't marry a grown man. That I thought I had says something about me.
The damage this is going to do to me is reinforce the counterdependent "I don't need anyone, I can do everything myself, I can't trust anyone to take care of my needs" crap that is already there. To hell with it. I'll have dogs and booty-calls. Love hurts way too much.
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Dee,
I am so sorry. You are not stupid. You are a kind, intelligent and strong woman that will survive this. He is not worth doing something over that you will regret later. Keep posting, keep talking and taking deep breaths. Can you go somewhere before he gets home to think? Can you call your doctor and get an appointment? Pause, pray and proceed.
Praying for you my friend!
I am so sorry. You are not stupid. You are a kind, intelligent and strong woman that will survive this. He is not worth doing something over that you will regret later. Keep posting, keep talking and taking deep breaths. Can you go somewhere before he gets home to think? Can you call your doctor and get an appointment? Pause, pray and proceed.
Praying for you my friend!
DRUGS DO NOT EXCUSE THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. Do not waiver on that for one second. Not one.
Get out. Go, get tested. Now. Go to a clinic if you have to, walk in, tell them the truth. They will help you through that and know what all to test for.
Sending huge hugs to you.
Get out. Go, get tested. Now. Go to a clinic if you have to, walk in, tell them the truth. They will help you through that and know what all to test for.
Sending huge hugs to you.
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DRUGS DO NOT EXCUSE THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. Do not waiver on that for one second. Not one.
Get out. Go, get tested. Now. Go to a clinic if you have to, walk in, tell them the truth. They will help you through that and know what all to test for.
Sending huge hugs to you.
Get out. Go, get tested. Now. Go to a clinic if you have to, walk in, tell them the truth. They will help you through that and know what all to test for.
Sending huge hugs to you.
I wish I had been a cheater.
no you don't - you're just mad and hurt and feeling violated. you are NOT him, you have morals and ethics and you will RISE ABOVE.
i am so very sorry. at least now there are no illusions. which sux, but gives you sense of direction.
we are here for you.
i am so very sorry. at least now there are no illusions. which sux, but gives you sense of direction.
we are here for you.
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All his talk of self-hate and fear of rejection and his actions BEG for rejection. Maybe I should turn it around. He's a complete dumbass to have me as a wife and screw it up like that. He's a complete idiot to throw away my love and support. What a f*cking moron to have it all and not appreciate it. God he's stupid. There are things that he should hate himself for. I thought his self-hatred was delusional all this time.
There is no reason to have a confrontation. There will be crocodile tears and then like a flip of a switch...it will all be your fault. And, you will come away feeling even worse than you do right now. I would pack his crap up in crackhead suitcases (garbage bags) put them on the front porch and place the journal on top (after making copies of any pages that will help you with the divorce and more importantly child custody). Now that you know...is now the time to play smart.
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