H stole my medications again!

Old 12-05-2015, 05:27 AM
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H stole my medications again!

I am at a loss! H stole my medications again this week. I don't know what to do or how to handle this or what boundaries to set. His excuse was "I didn't mean to steal" really? how does one "not mean to steal?"
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Old 12-05-2015, 05:41 AM
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Originally Posted by tlb88 View Post

H stole my medications again this week.
Stealing another's medications goes beyond being, "not a cool thing to do."

Do you think that he may be an addict ?
Or did he actually think that he needed your meds for a good reason ?
Or was he looking to get a little "buzz on" ?

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What about you? You need them presumably. Are you going to be alright?

How can you stop him doing this pathetic thing in the future?
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Originally Posted by tlb88 View Post
I am at a loss! H stole my medications again this week. I don't know what to do or how to handle this or what boundaries to set. His excuse was "I didn't mean to steal" really? how does one "not mean to steal?"
I think the key word here is again, because you're saying he's done this before.

As for boundaries, why not show him the door?
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Old 12-05-2015, 10:28 AM
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I agree with ZOSO

you can end up with a 7 day med pack. Picking up 4 times a month instead of 1.

It's how a pharmacy/doctor can control how much is taken/stolen/missing at a time.
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Old 12-05-2015, 10:29 AM
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"Again" is definitely the key word.

Not cool in any way, H should know this and be reminded in no uncertain terms.

One day at a time,

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Edit: Joie has a good idea in her post above!
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Old 12-06-2015, 05:10 AM
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He is a prescription drug addict. We have been married for almost 28 years and he has struggled with addiction the whole time. Three drug rehabs. I guess I just feel so paralyzed emotionally. I get mad at him, he pouts, we fight for so long we do not know exactly what is wrong anymore, then we make peace and he seems happy it got swept under the rug again. It's me! I do not know how to trust my feelings or what decisions to make regaurding his deceptive and lying behaviour so it all stop. Marriage counciling has not worked. We went, set clear boundaries and he crossed them. It is me, I do not know what a consequence to his lying and stealing should be. I'm sorry, it's probably so easy, but when you live in crazy 24/7 it's hard to see solutions.
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Old 12-06-2015, 05:50 AM
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28 years is a long long time.....there are shorter prison sentences for murder. sorry to be so dramatic.....but maybe it's time to get OUT of the prison? that way he can do what he's going to do and you can be FREE.
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Old 12-07-2015, 05:38 AM
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It is definitely not easy. Addicts are like naughty little children. When they see you have set up a consequence and are not sticking to it, that means they see they can manipulate and you won't do a thing about it except get mad, which you will get over. I say this with experience, I was on that Merry Go Round for years and years with my X husband.

You are going to have to decide what YOU want and how you can achieve that. For myself it started that if my X were to use (he is an alcoholic who mixes with strong Rx drugs), I would make him leave the house. Well, that did not work out long b/c I was scared of him drinking and driving. Next was I would leave the house, but that got old too, my kids got tired of leaving all the time. This went on for some time, with a lot in between. We ended up divorced, which has brought me a lot of peace.

Marriage counseling with an addict is a waste of time. A better use may be counseling for you with someone who specializes in helping families with addiction. That way, you have someone to help you form boundaries and help you stick with them. It will help you be strong to realize no matter what happens that you will survive and thrive.
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Thank you, everyone for the input. I appreciate it.
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