Going into rehab - has the penny finally dropped?
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I think it can be tricky to make these kinds of decisions, but in the end you did trust your instincts. You went and had a great weekend ! I do think we can plant major seeds of doubt in our own minds and then become paranoid and project this onto our Signifcant others sometimes. But if we are aware of this possibility, then we have a better chance to rationalize our actions. So if you had went and it turned out to be a mistake, then you could have always left. But Im really happy it turned into a good weekend for you both. I hope he gets accepted into rehab in weeks time, instead of months. It has to be hard waiting for treatment, not knowing when its going to happen, and staying strong emotionally. I think hes lucky to have you in his life, whatever form it takes as of right now.
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thanks Blue chair well what a difference a few days can make I've just found out my OH didn't attend his rehab prep meeting on Wednesday.. I had a gut feeling and went with it.. Its only after 4 hours on the phone today he's told me he didn't feel he needed to go!!! I'm absolutely fuming,,, well he's on his own now - big mistake - he's back to his sneaking about .. the only thing he's upset about is been caught (again) tells me I'm like a gastarpo interrogating him.. well tough, like it or F--k off out of my life!
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Hi Hopeful yep and until he hits the bottom of that slope he won't get the help he needs.. He's on a blocker and tells me even when he uses he gets nothing from it,,, doesn't make sense does it.. anyway nice quiet weekend home alone for me ... he won't get the time of day from me until we have a few truths out of him until then good riddance
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thanks Blue chair well what a difference a few days can make I've just found out my OH didn't attend his rehab prep meeting on Wednesday.. I had a gut feeling and went with it.. Its only after 4 hours on the phone today he's told me he didn't feel he needed to go!!! I'm absolutely fuming,,, well he's on his own now - big mistake - he's back to his sneaking about .. the only thing he's upset about is been caught (again) tells me I'm like a gastarpo interrogating him.. well tough, like it or F--k off out of my life!
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I thought it was just the rehab pre but now he's telling me he's still using occasionally.. all the signs were there for me and I knew he was but he just kept denying it and working his clean days around his tests...he been on the phone most of the night crying telling me its just until he gets into rehab and he desperately needs my help (he's playing the poor old me game) .. its just all the lies again, I could probably cope with the fact he's using (but not when he's in my company!) its the fact he thinks I'm a complete idiot.. just roll on rehab so I can get some normality back in my life,, my love for him is quickly turning into resentment now
yeah 4 hours on and off until my was turned off .. sick of hearing the same old bull - no contact rule for me this weekend!!
yeah 4 hours on and off until my was turned off .. sick of hearing the same old bull - no contact rule for me this weekend!!
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Thank you Hopeful.. well he's got his detox (to get off subutex) date now he goes in for 2-3 weeks then collected at the gate and straight into rehab for 6 months.. less then a week and he'll be hopefully on the road to recovery ,, trouble is on one hand I want to support him through it and on the other hand too many lies have almost wrecked any deep love that I had for him.. I'm thinking of letting him go and possibly catching up at some point when he's home but when would the right time to tell him it's over and I'm done with it?
I know there's never going to be a "right" time but I'm thinking when he's done a good few months in rehab and he's feeling stronger?
I know there's never going to be a "right" time but I'm thinking when he's done a good few months in rehab and he's feeling stronger?
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