From the Homeless Shelter to yet another detention center

[hydrogirl]

Well, my A stepson is certainly getting a tour of the finest nearby detention centers......

After his stint in the DC of a neighboring county, he was taken immediately upon release to this county's bond court and charged with 5 counts of check fraud. After begging and pleading for someone to take him in, he ended up at the local homeless shelter. He kept asking for this or that piece of clothing or belonging because he apparently forgot he told his Dad (Mr. HG) to get rid of it all. We must have taken 6 big boxes and bags of clothes, shoes, hats, gloves and coats to the Salvation Army. In a weak moment, I bought him boots and socks and left them for him to pick up at his Dad's office. I happened to stop by later when he came to get the boots, and it just broke my heart to see him. I almost hugged him, but didn't....I never had before, and I just did not know how he would respond......

We received a notice in the mail about a week ago that we believe has something to do with a court appearance for the local county charges. So his Dad sent him an e-mail letting him know it was in his office and to stop by and pick it up. Not one word from A stepson.

So.....today I search in the detention center records of another neighboring county. We know from other mail received earlier this year that there are probably additional charges against him in that county. Well, sure enough, he's been arrested and is being held on more than $1,000 bond. We have no plans to bail him out and, again, he does not know that we know.

Sad.....just really, overwhelmingly sad....this new information comes on top of the fact that my MIL (nearly 100) is in the hospital due to a stroke and we are working on finding a rehab nursing home for her. Blah...

[Ann]

I'm so sorry, but sadly his journey is not unusual. The good news is that sometimes, when it gets bad enough, they get sick of that life and reach out. Keeping him in my prayer.

Prayers for your MIL too. She's the one who really needs your help. Just don't forget to save time for yourself.

Hiugs

[rayofsunshine]

Sometimes jail time can be a time of reflection on their actions. Maybe he'll decide to turn his life around this time. It's sad, but at least you know where he is and he'll be getting fed every day. And him not contacting ya'll to bail him out is a good step.

I know its hard, but try to give him over to your HP and pray that whatever happens with court will work out for him to find the path to recovery. I find that giving them over to HP gives me a lot of peace and I'm not so anxious.

(((HUGS)))

[hydrogirl]

Thank you, all! Mr. HG and I are surprisingly not anxious....just sad, and tired--and praying.

There's the relief that seems to always come from knowing he is warm, fed, sleeping on a cot at night...then there is the holiday season approaching and remembering what a terrifying time that was last year with all of his bizarre, crack-fueled behavior. Now his grandmother is in the hospital and will likely have to be in a nursing home (versus assisted living) once she is released.

Hugs, HG

[Impurrfect]

((HG)) - Big hugs to you and ((Mr. HG)). Detention center sounds like exactly where A stepson needs to be, right now. Seems to me, he is just now getting the consequences of all the actions he's been doing for a while. I'm hoping it has a similar impact on him, that it did with me..I got fed up with all the darned consequences! Decided that way of life just wasn't what I wanted any more. At least he is warm and being fed.

I'm sorry about your MIL, but hope you are able to find a good place for her to go.

I also hope that you two can find some time to take care of yourselves...make it a priority, okay?

Hugs and prayers!

Amy