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Old 11-07-2009, 10:24 AM   #1 (permalink)
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happy birthday to me ,i spent alone..he went out..came home and started to blame me..told him not to blame me .he did it not me...why can they once own up to want they do
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Old 11-07-2009, 11:32 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Old 11-07-2009, 01:16 PM   #3 (permalink)
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happy birthday to me ,i spent alone..he went out..came home and started to blame me..told him not to blame me .he did it not me...why can they once own up to want they do
Well.......it's late but
anyways. Sorry you had a sad bday - but today is a new day. This year of your life can be what YOU want it to be. Get out and do something for yourself! Even something simple - a massage, pedicure, walk, window shop, lunch with friends......
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Old 11-07-2009, 01:48 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry you had a sad day. Make today a better one. A day all about YOU!!!

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Old 11-07-2009, 02:27 PM   #5 (permalink)
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happy birthday to me ,i spent alone..he went out..came home and started to blame me..told him not to blame me .he did it not me...why can they once own up to want they do
One of my birthdays was missed, he called and asked if i minded if he went out for a while w/friends.......

I very nicely said,"no, that's fine, have a drink for me".

He said......."what? What do you mean?"

I said, "I mean, have a nice night... "

He came home at 2 a.m.... with all of the lights out in the house, except for the beautiful chandelier over the dining room table, nicely illumnating my gifts, roses, cake etc. that I had w/ my kids and family.

I heard, "oh s***" as he ran up the stairs, started w/ the I'm sorry's ........... and then went on to BLAME ME for not reminding him.

Ya, right.

I rolled over.

This is life w/ an addict. Get used to it.

BUT.......... happy birthday from a girl who understands your hurt.

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Old 11-07-2009, 05:07 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Belated Happy Birthday, Lesa. I'm sorry he's such a jerk, and you deserve way better.

Next year come party with us. We have cheesecake and balloons.

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AND we sing, enthusiastically and badly.

Ann's right, come here and join us next time.
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Old 11-07-2009, 07:06 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Old 11-07-2009, 10:19 PM   #9 (permalink)
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happy belated birthday lesa. sorry you had to spend your bday without him and i'm glad you didn't have to be alone, his loss, huh!

i agree with the others, next time come here and let us help you celebrated. try not to feel like the lone ranger, i've spent most my last 23 birthdays, kids bdays, aniversaries, the birth of our kids and most holidays without my ah, due to his drug use. i think his idea of a celebration was to get high. you are not alone, you and your family are in my prayers.
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Belated Happy Birthday! So easy to blame others if they didnt then they would have to take a good hard look at themselves. Typical addictive behaviour.
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Old 12-11-2009, 11:23 AM   #11 (permalink)
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AND we sing, enthusiastically and badly.

Ann's right, come here and join us next time.

Hey speak for yourself, I sing like a rock star!
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This is life w/ an addict. Get used to it.


How true. You want to have a great day? Plan it yourself and don't include him.
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