Fighting for Custody part 3 million

[SistersHelp]

I dunno how to link back to the backstory so I'm starting fresh, like it's new. Except it's not new, it's been a year, four months, and seven days since our niece came here to live with us... first with her mother's consent as she attempted to seek rehabilitation for her various drug addictions. Then through a temporary ex-parte order granted by the courts to keep her safe while her mother threatened to move her back to her home city having not dealt with the addiction. Then... through the interim order that was determined by the Supreme Court to keep her here while her mother got booted from rehab again and again...

Eight rehabs later... it's time to seek Sole Custody, a final order that would put her in our custody, basically, for good. We've faced the fact that it's time to give this child a permanent and stable home and that this is our calling.

Our lawyer sent out the proposal for Sole Custody yesterday. She now has twenty days to respond.

I fully anticipate we will be going through a full trial.

[laurie6781]

Good for you. I do believe your niece will also be relieved when you finally get 'sole custody!'

I fully anticipate we will be going through a full trial.

I suspect you will. Thank HP you have been 'documenting' all the bizarre behavior and phone calls. Her actions over these last 16+ months has really sealed her fate as to losing custody of her daughter.

Again, we will continue to walk through this with you in spirit. You and hubby are truly your niece's Guardian Angels!

Love and hugs,

[Impurrfect]

I also agree that you will have a trial, but your "novel" of your sister's behavior will more than show why your niece should stay with you and hubby.

You know you have all of us, cheering you on (I'm STILL not getting into a cheerleading outfit, though ), along with tons of hugs and prayers.

Amy

[NeedingHelp7]

I don't think a trial will be necessary. I don't think your sister will be advised to pursue a trial. Hoping for the best.

NH7

[SistersHelp]

Thanks friends.

My sister showed up not only on time, but twenty minutes early for her supervised visit with her daughter today. Not only that but she was wearing clothes instead of her standard pajama bottoms. These things shouldn't be remarkable, but they are.

I wish it was a sign of progress, but I actually think this means that her lawyer has told her we're going back to court and that she better try acting a little more normal for awhile. *sigh*

[greeteachday]

Here is the last thread if anyone wants to link back.


http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-part-ii.html (Fighting for Custody Part II)

[ZombieWife]

I hope things go in your favor. I can't imagine the kind of message this sends to the child--mom's here and dressed and into me / oh wait, where is mom? Stability is so important. Whatever happens, I hope the justice system does the right thing!

Lots of goodness coming your way.

[BigSis]

We recently obtained 3rd party temporary custody of both grandboys - ages 2 and 3. Daddy was in prison and mom (our AD) was on a series of meth runs. I like the daddy, and love thier mom. I told the judge that I hope the boys get to know each of them, but what was paramount in OUR minds was that they have stability, security and a firm foundation. The daddy is drug effected, and I doubt he will ever hold a job. Our AD is in jail, currently still having meth-induced psychosis. She was a loving mother when she did visit before the psychosis... now the boys have not heard from her in four months. The daddy lives 300 miles away, and calls about every two weeks...but he doesn't try to chatter to the boys, just sits silent on the other end and cries. As heartbreaking as that is, it is not appropriate for the boys.

Sadly, I think they are ours for the duration.

In the long run, God has no grandchildren... which was hard for me to understand, but I think it means that He works DIRECTLY in the lives of each of us, including the babies. We will have the boys as long as He needs us to have them.

I pray you can move forward in this endeavor with your neice without building too much resentment toward the mom. If she is like my daughter, she has done some nasty things that are difficult to not resent. But I try to remember that this is a disease, and whatever my kid is doing today is the best she can do... if she could do better, she would.

((hugs))

I wish you the very best.

[SistersHelp]

Wingnut claims she's going back to rehab Dec. 4th. The ninth time is bound to be a charm, right?

[laurie6781]

Wingnut claims she's going back to rehab Dec. 4th. The ninth time is bound to be a charm, right?

R O F L M A O

Thank you Lisa for the unexpected laugh! I love sarcasm don't you?

On the more serious side, I do hope your sister can find recovery, and I do send up prayers for her. Just ................................. at this point .................................. with her addiction and her mental problems ................................ I am not very optimistic, as I am sure you are not also. I would love for her to find the miracle.

Anyway sure am glad that your niece is safe with you and hubby!

Love and hugs,

[Impurrfect]

I will continue to keep wingnut in my prayers (God loves THAT prayer "okay, God..here we go again...."), but I'm also thanking God for keeping your niece right where she belongs - with you and your hubby.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

[NeedingHelp7]

The 26th is coming soon sis.

[Serenity Bound]

Lisa, I bet 9 is the charm..............charm what, I don't know, but a charm none the less. lol


Seriously, I hope she does find recovery. However in the meantime I'm very happy that your niece is continues to be in a safe, normal, loving home.

BigSis, There have been many times I've wanted to seek custody of my 2 grandkids.

God Bless you both for your courage to do what needs to be done in caring for these innocent children.