Manipulation and Control

[cynical one]

I'm sorry if this comes off as being harsh. However, he cannot even take care of himself, I'm not understanding why you would allow him to take care of your daughter when she is healthy, much less when she is sick. From the little I know of the situation he seems to be manipulative, has a temper, argues with his sister and is very shaky in his recovery at best...not something a child should be around, behaviors she should emulate, or a positive family atmosphere, or male role model.

This isn't about the need to MAKE him accept his responsibility for his daughter, or make him be who you thought he was, or who you want him to be. This is about a small child and not only her physical well being, but her emotional well being as well. I would be doing whatever I could to find other trusted, responsible family and friends to watch her while you work and insisting on supervised only or very short-term visitations with him. She's a little girl, not a pawn to be used to make a man out of a boy. Again, I'm sorry if this seems harsh, but when it comes to the welfare of a child...

[NeedingHelp7]

I agree with cynical one Cassandra, it would be safer to be handed over to the care of Family Court to make the decisions weather her father is safe and well enough to have unsupervised visits with him. He is just not stable enough it seems. Do you know if he is continuing treatment? Do you know if he is clean and sober? I don't think you will ever know the honest truth unless a court is following up with him. You would have to file custody and visitation petition in Family Court. Requesting supervised visitation would be due to substance abuse problems of her father. The court can follow his treatment failures or successes. You really can't go by the word of her father, but taking it through a court at least you will know, therefore protecting your child. I hope you give it some thought.