Please help - Need Advice

[Trofnelo]

Originally Posted by fndngserenity

...it kills me to think I actually fell in love with him while he was using and that he doesn't really love me and that it is just the drugs talking to me. That is hard to realize. But, the truth isn't always supposed to be easy to hear.

I have had this exact same thought over and over about my oxy ABF. But I have come to the conclusion that it is just negative self talk, not a realization. Drugs can't talk. What the drugs are is the "other woman" in effect. Just cuz ya think it & feel it doesn't mean it's the truth. Active addicts just can't love, they aren't capable, and that is absolutely no reflection on you at all.

I think taking your time in moving forward as in moving in together is a really really good decision. Thank you for posting.