Loved Ones In Prison - Part 2 - Page 2 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

rayofsunshine · 04-27-2008, 12:45 PM

Splendra, try to think of prison as something that may save his life. If he's looks that terrible, the drugs are sure to be taking a toll on his insides as well. I know my AH was so bad the last few months before they activated his sentence, he says he knew he was close to death.... heart attack or stroke from the huge amount of drugs he was doing. What scares me now is what I've learned, how they can't just pick up and use a little. It doesn't take long to be right back as worse off as when they quit.

rayofsunshine · 04-27-2008, 01:32 PM

Dakota... hope you're doing ok today!

rayofsunshine · 05-01-2008, 04:14 PM

Hi Everybody.... Splendra.. has your brother had his courtdate yet?

Anyone new want to share their story? or give an update? Hope everybody is doing ok. Things are peaceful at the moment here.

hello-kitty · 05-02-2008, 11:18 AM

I'll give you an update. D is back in prison. I think I posted that here. I have been tempted to send a ltter or visit him but I've thought better of it. I just need to go no contact. If he sends a letter to his son I think that would be awesome. But most likely he won't becuase he's a selfish, self serving guy who is thinking about nothing but himself and how the world is out to get him while he is in prison. That makes me sad because my little boy would love to get a letter or something from his dad. But I am just staying out of it.

I am potty-training my son. He's doing great. He's very fascinated with penises and peeing right now. I had some friends over for dinner last night and the guy got up and went to the bathroom. When he came out of the bathroom, my son asked him where he went and my friend told him, I went pee. My son asked him if he stood up to pee. And my friend told him yes. My son then proceeded to tell my friend how his daddy "always used to pee standing up." That made me sad. He talked like his father was dead. I guess it's better if he thinks of him that way in the long run. BUT then, my son proceeded to ask my guest if he had a big peepee.

I didn't even know what to say.

rayofsunshine · 05-02-2008, 06:55 PM

Kids sure do say the darndest things, don't they? How cute.
Sending ((HUGS)) Kitty. You're gonna be ok. I know its hard,
but you will be.

sadness123 · 05-02-2008, 09:04 PM

Hey everyone. I havent updated in awhile. My dad is getting June 4th still. Im going to meet in him somewhere when he gets out. So that will be fun. I dont have much to update about.

***cmc*** · 05-02-2008, 09:11 PM

Hello sadness...it's nice to hear from you. I drop in here from time to time. I'm glad for you about your dad getting out and planning some time together with you.
take care!

rayofsunshine · 05-03-2008, 02:01 PM

Hi Sadness! Glad to hear your dad is getting out soon and that ya'll will get to do something together. Enjoy the time together. Hope you have been doing ok! We've missed you.

Japic05 · 05-06-2008, 01:29 PM

so I broke down and called the correction facility to see if our daughter is truly incarcerated or not.

The lady verified that Ash is there - gave me her # if I want to write her. I still have the address from the last time.

So she has been in jail almost a month with no attempts to contact me. No letters, no calls thru Public Defender's ofc, no 3-way calls, no nothing.

She was out less than a month. Already back in. Probably will be in for a long, long time - since she had 3 yrs probation and didn't make it 30 days - I'm thinking she will given some serious time this go round.

Makes me so sad for her 3 children - they are 5 (almost 6), 3 and 9 months old.

I'm so tired of this F'ing disease. I apologize if the language offends anyone - just the only word that accurately describes how I feel at the moment.

No matter how you say it - incarcerated, in jail, prison, locked up, sent away, in a correctional institution, doing time, blah, blah, blah -

the words don't adequately describe the pain it can cause our family. We know it's not our fault - but that doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt.

Peace unto each of you
until tomorrow,
Rita

***cmc*** · 05-06-2008, 03:34 PM

(((Rita))))

rayofsunshine · 05-06-2008, 03:59 PM

Sending Hugs and prayers, Rita. The pain IS indescribable. We know its not our fault, but the hard part for me is not being able to "fix" it.

hello-kitty · 05-06-2008, 05:08 PM

Hi Rita. I'm sorry. I hope you can take a little comfort in the fact that she is safer in jail than on the street and that maybe this will give her a little time to reconsider her life choices. My ex told me that he doesn't call because he's sobered up enough to be embarrassed about the choices he's made and he knows what I'm going to say anyway. It's nothing personal. It's hurtful. But she's not doing to you. She's not thinking about that. She's thinking about herself. God bless you Mom.

sadness123 · 05-06-2008, 05:36 PM

My dad isnt getting out the fourth anymore. They think if he gets outthere he wont stay sober. He is most likey getting out September 11. So I will be in school and wont get to see him when he gets out. I hate this stupid thing. They just made it where I wont see him for longer. I have been waiting a long time to see him and now I dont even get to. I even made a countdown for June 4th. And now it is useless. I been waiting too long. I want to see my dad.

Japic05 · 05-07-2008, 05:22 AM

((sadness))

hate so much that you won't see your Dad on the 4th. I know that must hurt really bad.

Big ole Mom hugs from me,

Rita

hello-kitty · 05-07-2008, 10:05 AM

sadness, it's really sad that your fathers irresponsible choices and decision have hurt you so badly. You must feel so hurt and angry sometimes and theres nothing any of us can do to help but listen. It's a lot for a young person to go through. What do you think? Do you think your father might use drugs again when he gets out? Maybe you can write him a letter and tell him how you feel about that.

((hugs)) keep sharing.

rayofsunshine · 05-07-2008, 03:07 PM

((((HUGS)))) SADNESS. I'm sorry you're hurting. Its so hard when we can't control the outcome of the difficulties of our loved ones that life hands us. Just trust your HP has your dad right where he needs him today. To continue working on his recovery while still in a controlled environment. Try to Let Go and Let God. (That helps me with the anger and anxiety.)

Japic05 · 05-12-2008, 11:33 AM

I did get to see one of our daughter's children this weekend - little Jace - he's 9 months old - such a cute little man. His dad was more than willing to let me visit, grateful for the goodies I had for him - some clothes and a few toys.

Says AD's court date is Mon 5/19 - who knows?

04-27-2008, 12:45 PM	#26 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Splendra, try to think of prison as something that may save his life. If he's looks that terrible, the drugs are sure to be taking a toll on his insides as well. I know my AH was so bad the last few months before they activated his sentence, he says he knew he was close to death.... heart attack or stroke from the huge amount of drugs he was doing. What scares me now is what I've learned, how they can't just pick up and use a little. It doesn't take long to be right back as worse off as when they quit.
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

04-27-2008, 01:32 PM	#27 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Dakota... hope you're doing ok today!
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-01-2008, 04:14 PM	#28 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Hi Everybody.... Splendra.. has your brother had his courtdate yet? Anyone new want to share their story? or give an update? Hope everybody is doing ok. Things are peaceful at the moment here.
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-02-2008, 06:55 PM	#30 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Kids sure do say the darndest things, don't they? How cute. Sending ((HUGS)) Kitty. You're gonna be ok. I know its hard, but you will be.
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-02-2008, 09:04 PM	#31 (permalink)
sadness123 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 61	Hey everyone. I havent updated in awhile. My dad is getting June 4th still. Im going to meet in him somewhere when he gets out. So that will be fun. I dont have much to update about.
sadness123 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 61	__________________ Today is the first day of the rest of your life, use it well.

05-02-2008, 11:18 AM	#29 (permalink)
hello-kitty Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 761	I'll give you an update. D is back in prison. I think I posted that here. I have been tempted to send a ltter or visit him but I've thought better of it. I just need to go no contact. If he sends a letter to his son I think that would be awesome. But most likely he won't becuase he's a selfish, self serving guy who is thinking about nothing but himself and how the world is out to get him while he is in prison. That makes me sad because my little boy would love to get a letter or something from his dad. But I am just staying out of it. I am potty-training my son. He's doing great. He's very fascinated with penises and peeing right now. I had some friends over for dinner last night and the guy got up and went to the bathroom. When he came out of the bathroom, my son asked him where he went and my friend told him, I went pee. My son asked him if he stood up to pee. And my friend told him yes. My son then proceeded to tell my friend how his daddy "always used to pee standing up." That made me sad. He talked like his father was dead. I guess it's better if he thinks of him that way in the long run. BUT then, my son proceeded to ask my guest if he had a big peepee. I didn't even know what to say.

05-02-2008, 09:11 PM	#32 (permalink)
*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: a good state of mind Posts: 9,200	Hello sadness...it's nice to hear from you. I drop in here from time to time. I'm glad for you about your dad getting out and planning some time together with you. take care!
	__________________ Every day is a gift.

05-03-2008, 02:01 PM	#33 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Hi Sadness! Glad to hear your dad is getting out soon and that ya'll will get to do something together. Enjoy the time together. Hope you have been doing ok! We've missed you.
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-06-2008, 01:29 PM	#34 (permalink)
Japic05 I have a no no & will use it Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 3,331	so I broke down and called the correction facility to see if our daughter is truly incarcerated or not. The lady verified that Ash is there - gave me her # if I want to write her. I still have the address from the last time. So she has been in jail almost a month with no attempts to contact me. No letters, no calls thru Public Defender's ofc, no 3-way calls, no nothing. She was out less than a month. Already back in. Probably will be in for a long, long time - since she had 3 yrs probation and didn't make it 30 days - I'm thinking she will given some serious time this go round. Makes me so sad for her 3 children - they are 5 (almost 6), 3 and 9 months old. I'm so tired of this F'ing disease. I apologize if the language offends anyone - just the only word that accurately describes how I feel at the moment. No matter how you say it - incarcerated, in jail, prison, locked up, sent away, in a correctional institution, doing time, blah, blah, blah - the words don't adequately describe the pain it can cause our family. We know it's not our fault - but that doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt. Peace unto each of you until tomorrow, Rita
	__________________ HP, if my prayer limits Your will and Your plan for my life, please disregard my request. Serenity is always available to me, but it is my job to seek it where it can be found. Courage to Change pg 346

05-06-2008, 03:34 PM	#35 (permalink)
*cmc* Community Greeter Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: a good state of mind Posts: 9,200	(((Rita))))
	__________________ Every day is a gift.

05-06-2008, 03:59 PM	#36 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	Sending Hugs and prayers, Rita. The pain IS indescribable. We know its not our fault, but the hard part for me is not being able to "fix" it.
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-06-2008, 05:08 PM	#37 (permalink)
hello-kitty Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 761	Hi Rita. I'm sorry. I hope you can take a little comfort in the fact that she is safer in jail than on the street and that maybe this will give her a little time to reconsider her life choices. My ex told me that he doesn't call because he's sobered up enough to be embarrassed about the choices he's made and he knows what I'm going to say anyway. It's nothing personal. It's hurtful. But she's not doing to you. She's not thinking about that. She's thinking about herself. God bless you Mom.

05-06-2008, 05:36 PM	#38 (permalink)
sadness123 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 61	My dad isnt getting out the fourth anymore. They think if he gets outthere he wont stay sober. He is most likey getting out September 11. So I will be in school and wont get to see him when he gets out. I hate this stupid thing. They just made it where I wont see him for longer. I have been waiting a long time to see him and now I dont even get to. I even made a countdown for June 4th. And now it is useless. I been waiting too long. I want to see my dad.
sadness123 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 61	__________________ Today is the first day of the rest of your life, use it well.

05-07-2008, 05:22 AM	#39 (permalink)
Japic05 I have a no no & will use it Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 3,331	((sadness)) hate so much that you won't see your Dad on the 4th. I know that must hurt really bad. Big ole Mom hugs from me, Rita
	__________________ HP, if my prayer limits Your will and Your plan for my life, please disregard my request. Serenity is always available to me, but it is my job to seek it where it can be found. Courage to Change pg 346

05-07-2008, 10:05 AM	#40 (permalink)
hello-kitty Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 761	sadness, it's really sad that your fathers irresponsible choices and decision have hurt you so badly. You must feel so hurt and angry sometimes and theres nothing any of us can do to help but listen. It's a lot for a young person to go through. What do you think? Do you think your father might use drugs again when he gets out? Maybe you can write him a letter and tell him how you feel about that. ((hugs)) keep sharing.

05-07-2008, 03:07 PM	#41 (permalink)
rayofsunshine Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wishin' I was on the Beach! Posts: 781	((((HUGS)))) SADNESS. I'm sorry you're hurting. Its so hard when we can't control the outcome of the difficulties of our loved ones that life hands us. Just trust your HP has your dad right where he needs him today. To continue working on his recovery while still in a controlled environment. Try to Let Go and Let God. (That helps me with the anger and anxiety.)
	__________________ Todays opportunities can help erase past failures.

05-12-2008, 11:33 AM	#42 (permalink)
Japic05 I have a no no & will use it Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 3,331	I did get to see one of our daughter's children this weekend - little Jace - he's 9 months old - such a cute little man. His dad was more than willing to let me visit, grateful for the goodies I had for him - some clothes and a few toys. Says AD's court date is Mon 5/19 - who knows?
	__________________ HP, if my prayer limits Your will and Your plan for my life, please disregard my request. Serenity is always available to me, but it is my job to seek it where it can be found. Courage to Change pg 346