Anger

[ChipHazard]

I got stood up last night...yet again. Mary Jane was so much more important. That makes me pretty mad, but what really ticks me off is that I'm so MAD! I mean, it's good for my apartment...it's very clean...but I want to scream or throw something or punch him in the NOSE!!! I went to church this morning specifically praying to let go of this unbelievable anger. I know that when I stop moving I'm going to cry...maybe that's why I'm still so mad. I dunno, I just wanted to let someone know I AM PISSED!

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by ChipHazard

I got stood up last night...yet again. Mary Jane. I dunno, I just wanted to let someone know I AM PISSED!

It's okay. My exabpgf reminded me on more than one occasion about how mad I got about her behavior ONE time. Seriously. One time I lost it, sent her the text message and called her the c word, over and over again. It was late at night and I didn't feel like cleaning! She had also stood me up, for the umpteenth time. I am allowed to get mad today.

[ChipHazard]

This is pretty much my one time, too. I usually get a little mad but a lot hurt. I think I'm just sick of it. This time I'm not hurt yet...just mad. Really, really mad. I didn't let him have it...just texted him that I have nothing to say to him right now. He had better appreciate that ****.

[ChipHazard]

Cool, it won't let me use ugly words...it was just the 's' word, but still unnecessary. Now, if only I had one of those handy dandy filters for the real world...

[caileesnana]

Hi, welcome.

One thing I always remember, even when I can't remember anything else, is NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES!!

Take care of YOU,
susan

[figure]

Unfortunately, You will NEVER come first as long as he is using......always thinking about when and where he will get his next fix......I should know. I have been going through this for 4 years and get stood up alot all the time. I have just learned to expect it and always have a Plan B in place.....it shocks the hell out of him.....I have changed the way I react. NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES!!

[hope213]

welcome to S.R. it is good to feel your feelings. feel them & walk through them. it helps to be able to let it go. prayers,

[imallright]

Expect but not accept

You might add expect to your coping strategies, but IMO, don't accept that behavior. Having a plan b is awesome.... perhaps getting to the point where plan b is plan A is something to consider. Hugs to you!

[jerect]

Here lately when I get mad at my RH and I still get mad because he does some stupid things.. instead of shouting out things that I will regret later or things that will make me feel worse inside, I just look at him and say I'm so disapointed in you and then walk away. For my RA it works. He thrives on approval and when he knows he has disapointed and that I'm just going to walk away it stirs something up inside of him and for awhile he is a changed person, till the next time anyway.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

GETTING,ANGER IS A HUMAN EMOTION IS NATURAL BUT WHAT COUNTS IS THE AFTERMATH WHEN THAT ANGER MANIFEST I KNOW CAUSE SOON IMAM, GOING TO ENROLL MY SELF IN ANGER MANAGEMENT, ITS A VERY NEGATIVE AND POWERFULLY AND DESTRUCTIVE EMOTION AND IT MOST BE TREATED SO FOR NOW I INVITE YOU TO MY GROUP LIST OF ANGER MANAGEMENT,LOOK FOR SOCIAL GROUPS AND CLICK ON IT AND YOU CAN MISS IT ITS WRIGHT ON TOP

[ChipHazard]

So, I stayed mad all day...ended up scrubbing my kitchen floor with a bunch of Mr. Clean magic erasers. He called, he sent a couple of texts, but when I texted him back that I had nothing to say, he let it go and told me he would wait until I was ready to talk. I took pleasure in making him wait.
So, anyway, you guys all told me before to look out for the tears and pleading but it didn't happen that time. It sure did this time. And I guess I was numb to it. It had no effect on me whatsoever. But, we did talk about EVERYTHING until the wee hours of the morning. He now has 4 days sober...which was his limit last time. We'll see. I do hate Mary Jane with a passion.
Thank you all so much for being here.

[marle]

Now if you wouldn't mind coming to my house and cleaning Sorry but I thought that you could use a little humor. Really anger is okay as long as you don't let it get the best of you. Then you are only hurting yourself. I am sure that he is still getting high and justifying it by telling himself that you are wrong for being so mad. With addiction you really can't win so it is better just not to engage. Hope you feel better soon. Hugs, Marle

[ChipHazard]

Originally Posted by marle

Now if you wouldn't mind coming to my house and cleaning

Hehehehehehe....No doubt. My place is never as clean as it was that day. I think the anger had been building up for a couple of years and I knew that I had to keep busy or find a place to hide the body! He's so lucky I didn't run out of PineSol!!!