Alanon Meetings
Alanon Meetings
Hi my new on-line family.. Question.. I am looking for Alanon meetings in my area.. Are they the same meeting whether or not your loved one is an alocholic or substance abuser?? AND I ssee alot of AH SH.. What are the abbreviations? So my son that is addicted to drugs... AS for addicted son?
Al-Anon, Nar-Anon and CoDA are three similar fellowships that are about us and dealing with our lives. Check your area and try a few meetings to find one that works well for you.
And yes, AS is addicted son. There is a list here somewhere, think at the top in the "Sticky" threads that explains the short forms.
Let us know how the meetings go, okay?
Hugs
And yes, AS is addicted son. There is a list here somewhere, think at the top in the "Sticky" threads that explains the short forms.
Let us know how the meetings go, okay?
Hugs
people at al-anon meetings will make references to "alcoholic", "alcoholism", etc. and my feeling is that drug addiction can be a bit different than alcohol addiction. so it may feel more comfortable or helpful to surround yourself with those of a similar feather.
but, really, we all talk about, and work, the same steps. the idea is to put your recovery first - that's universal.
but, really, we all talk about, and work, the same steps. the idea is to put your recovery first - that's universal.
I have found different insights in different meetings. Since we keep the "focus on us" and rarely talk about our "qualifier" at meetings, I have found both meetings worthwhile.
In the Nar-Anon meetings in my area, I could be more open about the details of my life.......but I found fewer people with long-term recovery.
In the Al-Anon meetings, I had to be careful not to frighten the older ladies with the smarmy details of my situation, but the number of long-timers with huge amounts of experience, strength and hope was far, far greater.
One time someone in an Al-Anon meeting told me I didn't belong there, and I just smiled at them and told them to, "Keep coming back."
You will know when you have found your home group. It will fit like a glove and you will feel the love.
Babs
In the Nar-Anon meetings in my area, I could be more open about the details of my life.......but I found fewer people with long-term recovery.
In the Al-Anon meetings, I had to be careful not to frighten the older ladies with the smarmy details of my situation, but the number of long-timers with huge amounts of experience, strength and hope was far, far greater.
One time someone in an Al-Anon meeting told me I didn't belong there, and I just smiled at them and told them to, "Keep coming back."
You will know when you have found your home group. It will fit like a glove and you will feel the love.
Babs
Thanks for the info!! I am going to see if there are the other meetings in my area. I did go to an Al-anon meeting last night, which I was BOOB and cried almost the whole time. It felt comfortable for the most part, but not sure if it was my "fit" I felt a ton of emotions after the meeting, my husband seemed a bit weird that I went cause he is TOUGH and F it nothing he can do about it.. So he is not ready to deal with it, but whatever.. I can only help myself right now.
Thanks again!!!
Thanks again!!!
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I cried for weeks at my Alanon meetings in the beginning - it was the only place that I really "stopped" long enough to feel things. It was years of bottled up emotions.
I agree with what has been posted - just keep going - and you will "feel the love". Those meetings saved my life. Mostly I just listened and could relate to what was being said - and finally, I took the risk to talk to someone after the meeting. I was amazed that she really understood what I was thinking. Of course, because she had/has been there.
The closing reading at most Alanon meetings includes: "...you might not like all of us, but you will come to love us in a very special way, the same way we already love you...." I still love to hear that read.
Love in recovery,
Jody Hepler
I agree with what has been posted - just keep going - and you will "feel the love". Those meetings saved my life. Mostly I just listened and could relate to what was being said - and finally, I took the risk to talk to someone after the meeting. I was amazed that she really understood what I was thinking. Of course, because she had/has been there.
The closing reading at most Alanon meetings includes: "...you might not like all of us, but you will come to love us in a very special way, the same way we already love you...." I still love to hear that read.
Love in recovery,
Jody Hepler
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