NEWCOMER & DOWN

[AUDREY69]

Hi, I Am New To This And I Don't Have Any Friends To Talk To So I Thought I Would Try This Out. My Dad Is A So Called Recovered Alcoholic But He Is Back On The Bottle Again And Making Life Difficult. I Was Young When He Was Drinking And I Remember Things That I Don't Want To And Well That Dream Is Back Except I Am Older But Not As Strong Like My Mother Who Has To Deal With Him Lots More Than I Do. To My Knowledge He Has Been Drinking Since My Dad's Nephew Died Of A Brain Tumor But I Am Not Sure He Might Of Started Earlier Than That I Will Never Know. I Try Going To Al-anon Meetings But I Don't Know About It Either I Don't Have The Time Or I Am Too Busy, Which Is True. I Know I Give Myself Excuses Of Not Going When I Should Be Going. I Also Have A Husband Who I Say Likes To Come Home From Work And Have A Beer Once In Awhile. He Knows What I Am Going Through But He Still Has His Beer. I Am Not Saying He Drinks Everyday, But Right Now Is Just Not The Right Time. I Do Work With My Dad And It Is Hard For Me To Make Up Excuses For Being Late For Things. I Would Love To Quit My Job But It Is Too Soon And I Am The Only One That Works For Him Full Time I Just Wish He Would Just Retire Period...live Is A B_ _ _ _ _ And I Want It To Get Better. By The Way My Dad Is Going To Rehab Next Week Which I Hope Helps. Well Gotta Run

Audrey

[FormerDoormat]

Wecome to SoberRecovery, Audrey. I'm sorry you're hurting. It must be terribly hard to have an alcoholic parent. The alcoholic in my life was my former boyfriend. Have you tried the Adult Children of Alcoholics forum? That seems like a good place to start. Everyone there can relate to life with an alcoholic parent.

Perhaps you're avoiding attending Alanon meetings because you're afraid. But you needn't be afraid. You'll be among friends there. Now's the perfect time to give it a try. Make a commitment to yourself to attend at least six meetings before you decide it's not for you.

I'm glad you're here.

[caughtup]

Wecome to SR .. I too am fairly new to all of this, its tough when you are hurting and have no one to talk to. I just told one of my friends last week about my boyfriend. No one else has said anything .. I am sure my daughter knows, but she doesn't say much of anything to me lately anyway. It is good your dad is going to rehab, hopefully things will get better, but it also seems that you have a lot you haven't "dealt with" from your past experiences with your dad. I didn't want to go to meetings either, but the friend I talked to has a AH and so I am planning on going with her to try it all out. Good luck and keep talking, its safe and it helps!!!