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05-08-2005, 09:42 PM
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| Member  Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: US
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| I am realizing how much I have learned about being codependent...m
I am sooo NOT. My husband HATES HATES HATES his new job. He is exhausted and defeated and miserable. He had to work until 9 tonight. When he got home, I warmed up some dinner. Told him about my day. And turned on the TV. I don't even have the remotest desire to comfort, console or coddle him. I gave him a back rub one night and I will feed him. Beyond that, I am NOT going to play any part in the "Poor me" drama that he is working up in his head. I am so much better prepared for his re-entery in the work force than he is. And the best part is that I have NO GUILT at all about taking the "Suck it up and just DO IT" mindset....I am not letting him put his crap on me anymore. So...here is your dinner, good night and oh yeah Desperate Housewives is on...gotta go! Jenny |
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05-08-2005, 09:59 PM
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| too much on my plate!!  Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: not kissing frogs anymore
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((((((((Jenny)))))))) My Abf used to have a lot of pity parties. Looking back on that now, I wonder if it has something to do with his disease? I can honestly say I have never seen a grown man act so much like a big baby.
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05-09-2005, 03:35 PM
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| Cruelty-Free  Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Body: South Florida Heart: Yosemite National Park
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Well, you know what they say: Poor me... Poor me.......... Pour me a drink. 
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05-09-2005, 04:08 PM
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| Let go and let God Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: illinois
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Great job Jenny. I hope to be there someday. I havent figured out how to detach and still love my addict. I get sucked into the "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I think I'll eat some worms" conversations. I try to encourage and support and still not enable or support a bad attitude. Good job and keep it up Thanks Jeff
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05-09-2005, 07:18 PM
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| Supply Manager  Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Cleaverville
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Jenny...my Ward does a bit of whining too. But he has also worked for the same company for over 20 years and in construction that is something. I have a hard time with the negativity sometimes but that is when I find something to do. I am sure you are gun shy and when he starts complaining you see the future as the same as the past. Stay in today as much as possible in addition to doing what you are doing. I don't join the pity party either! Hugs, JT
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