Moving out
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Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Midwest
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Hugs, Expanding--I well remember how tough that moving-out day can be, altho in my case it was XAH who moved. Here's a link to how that went and how the Universe looked out for me on my first day w/him gone: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...iar-patch.html
You'll be in my thoughts, and I'll light my little lamp for you.
You'll be in my thoughts, and I'll light my little lamp for you.
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Join Date: Aug 2014
Posts: 2,792
E,
The first night I slept in my new home all by myself, I slept like a baby. No addict to worry about if he was home, wonder if he was drunk and start a fight, or get the call that he had a dui or killed some one. There was a huge relief that I only had to take care of me and my kids.
Sending hugs my friend, this is the first day of the rest of your life.
The first night I slept in my new home all by myself, I slept like a baby. No addict to worry about if he was home, wonder if he was drunk and start a fight, or get the call that he had a dui or killed some one. There was a huge relief that I only had to take care of me and my kids.
Sending hugs my friend, this is the first day of the rest of your life.
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Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: NC
Posts: 662
Right now would probably be a really good time to do something for YOU. Be kind to yourself, just because this is for the best doesn't mean you can't be upset, angry, happy, etc. or a bit of all emotions there are. It is natural to have strong enough right now, the more you allow yourself to feel them and get them out the quicker you will heal and be able to move forward.
HUGS. Right now would be good time to surround yourself with loved ones and your support team. Counseling and going to meetings will also prob. be beneficial right now, you are not alone please remember that.
HUGS. Right now would be good time to surround yourself with loved ones and your support team. Counseling and going to meetings will also prob. be beneficial right now, you are not alone please remember that.
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Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: New York
Posts: 105
We know exactly how you feel. Know that you are NOT ALONE.
Sending you big hugs and lots of prayers. This video helps me when I feel down.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOp33SApVrE
#1: Feeling stuck is a sign that its time to make a change
Sending you big hugs and lots of prayers. This video helps me when I feel down.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOp33SApVrE
#1: Feeling stuck is a sign that its time to make a change
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Join Date: Apr 2016
Posts: 384
Thank you everyone <3
I feel I've turned a corner. After the initial shock went away I felt pretty good yesterday. I went out to dinner with some friends and had such a great time. I know I'm still going to have moments of sadness but overall I do feel happy.
I am so used to not feeling emotions that I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is sadness at all; I think it may actually be guilt.
Guilt that I'm getting what I want and feeling like I am hurting AXBF. He told me the other day that he wished we had worked out (mind ****). I asked him what he meant because all he kept talking about was the house and how much money we could make, nothing about us, the dead relationship or what changes he had made.
He mentioned "us" as part of what he wished worked out and I told him to say hi to his girlfriend for me...
The games now look like attempts to remain relevant in my life, attempts to not slip into the reserves of my memories as someone I once dated and used to know. I'm feeling a push pull from him as I continue to enforce my boundaries and follow through on what I say. Gone are the days where he can have his cake and eat it too. Gone are the days where bad behavior is allowed and not confronted.
I know I'll get through the guilt because it's not appropriate. This is what's best for the both of us. If he is unable to see the HUGE lesson presented here that is on him and him alone.
I don't know what I would do without this place. I know that I'm responsible for the work I do on myself but the support here has been so pivotal to my recovery. In the beginning it is so confusing. You are walking through a storm blind and putting your trust in strangers. One of the best decisions I've made so far was to post on these forums.
Thank you!!
I feel I've turned a corner. After the initial shock went away I felt pretty good yesterday. I went out to dinner with some friends and had such a great time. I know I'm still going to have moments of sadness but overall I do feel happy.
I am so used to not feeling emotions that I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is sadness at all; I think it may actually be guilt.
Guilt that I'm getting what I want and feeling like I am hurting AXBF. He told me the other day that he wished we had worked out (mind ****). I asked him what he meant because all he kept talking about was the house and how much money we could make, nothing about us, the dead relationship or what changes he had made.
He mentioned "us" as part of what he wished worked out and I told him to say hi to his girlfriend for me...
The games now look like attempts to remain relevant in my life, attempts to not slip into the reserves of my memories as someone I once dated and used to know. I'm feeling a push pull from him as I continue to enforce my boundaries and follow through on what I say. Gone are the days where he can have his cake and eat it too. Gone are the days where bad behavior is allowed and not confronted.
I know I'll get through the guilt because it's not appropriate. This is what's best for the both of us. If he is unable to see the HUGE lesson presented here that is on him and him alone.
I don't know what I would do without this place. I know that I'm responsible for the work I do on myself but the support here has been so pivotal to my recovery. In the beginning it is so confusing. You are walking through a storm blind and putting your trust in strangers. One of the best decisions I've made so far was to post on these forums.
Thank you!!
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