100 Happy Days, Part 2! Any Takers?
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100 Happy Days, Part 2! Any Takers?
We could always use a shot of positivity around here so I thought I'd see if anyone is interested in joining me in another round of "100 Happy Days".
Link to Part I here: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...one-tried.html
I was discussing it briefly with RAH this morning because he can be subtly negative & when he gets trapped in that loop, it becomes all negative thinking despite his smirky grin or additional sarcastic-attempt-at-funny comments that lace it. He has an important business trip next week but every time it comes up his response is an eyeroll, a muttering underbreath about how it's going to suck, he's not looking forward to it, etc. This morning I told him that it's pretty much destined to suck at this point since he's already made up his mind about it. He looked surprised but after a moment acknowledged that it all had been sounding pretty negative, hadn't it? I reminded him that energy draws energy & if he wants to keep receiving that crap he should keep throwing it; that we CHOOSE the way we think in more ways than we realize.
When I did this exercise last year around this time, it really helped to elevate my awareness of positivity. Like my meditation coach reminds us, awareness is like the sun: whatever it shines on, thrives. I initially had to LOOK for it but soon enough it was effortless & I found myself with multiple things to be happy & grateful for every day.
So I'm kicking off Day #1 Right Now, join me if you'd like!
#1 - Happy that my response to his negativity was to seek out positivity & share it with others. (instead of getting drawn into his bad energy spiral)
Link to Part I here: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...one-tried.html
I was discussing it briefly with RAH this morning because he can be subtly negative & when he gets trapped in that loop, it becomes all negative thinking despite his smirky grin or additional sarcastic-attempt-at-funny comments that lace it. He has an important business trip next week but every time it comes up his response is an eyeroll, a muttering underbreath about how it's going to suck, he's not looking forward to it, etc. This morning I told him that it's pretty much destined to suck at this point since he's already made up his mind about it. He looked surprised but after a moment acknowledged that it all had been sounding pretty negative, hadn't it? I reminded him that energy draws energy & if he wants to keep receiving that crap he should keep throwing it; that we CHOOSE the way we think in more ways than we realize.
When I did this exercise last year around this time, it really helped to elevate my awareness of positivity. Like my meditation coach reminds us, awareness is like the sun: whatever it shines on, thrives. I initially had to LOOK for it but soon enough it was effortless & I found myself with multiple things to be happy & grateful for every day.
So I'm kicking off Day #1 Right Now, join me if you'd like!
#1 - Happy that my response to his negativity was to seek out positivity & share it with others. (instead of getting drawn into his bad energy spiral)
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Yes! I haven't posted in a while, but have been actively reading and working through my own situation with my relationship addiction.. and exAbf. But this appeals to me in my current journey so thank you!
#1--Today I am happy and in more peace because I found an amazing healing center close to where I live and went to my first meditation class there last night.
#1--Today I am happy and in more peace because I found an amazing healing center close to where I live and went to my first meditation class there last night.
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Day 1-
Happy and so grateful for my co-workers. I spend more time than I should complaining about having to work and not being at home with my sweet babies...
BUT I am so blessed to have wonderful positive co-workers, (one who bought me a pair of shoes yesterday!) and a supervisor who has always "had my back" despite my personal and professional challenges over the years.
Thanks FireSprite. You're awesome
Happy and so grateful for my co-workers. I spend more time than I should complaining about having to work and not being at home with my sweet babies...
BUT I am so blessed to have wonderful positive co-workers, (one who bought me a pair of shoes yesterday!) and a supervisor who has always "had my back" despite my personal and professional challenges over the years.
Thanks FireSprite. You're awesome
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Dang - I have to add to my #1. A client, that doesn't know me very well or anything about my situation actually said this to me over the phone:
After he asked how I am doing (you know the standard thing we all ask acquaintances over the phone) and I said "I'm doing really well - he said "you sound like it - I can tell in your voice, you just sound genuinely HAPPY!"
Dang - this stuff shines through and I love it and am so thankful for it today!
After he asked how I am doing (you know the standard thing we all ask acquaintances over the phone) and I said "I'm doing really well - he said "you sound like it - I can tell in your voice, you just sound genuinely HAPPY!"
Dang - this stuff shines through and I love it and am so thankful for it today!
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Woohoo!! I'll give it a whirl!!
My divorce today is also my real birthday. What started out negetive is now a positive and will forever in my mind be known as my re-birthday marking new beginnings full of peace, learning, joy, courage, blessings, and love!
My divorce today is also my real birthday. What started out negetive is now a positive and will forever in my mind be known as my re-birthday marking new beginnings full of peace, learning, joy, courage, blessings, and love!
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#2 - So happy that recovery showed me to be patient & allow things to happen the way they are meant to go sometimes.
DD moved up to middle school this year & it was a nerve-wracking process, especially when she didn't get assigned to her/our chosen school. Halfway through the first quarter though, there's no doubt this is the RIGHT place for her, offering far more opportunities & a more well rounded experience, much earlier than any of the rest of the schools in our district.
DD moved up to middle school this year & it was a nerve-wracking process, especially when she didn't get assigned to her/our chosen school. Halfway through the first quarter though, there's no doubt this is the RIGHT place for her, offering far more opportunities & a more well rounded experience, much earlier than any of the rest of the schools in our district.
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#2 I awoke bright eyed and bushy tailed getting breakfast for the boys, a load of laundry and dishes done, and a bible study in all before they left for school! My Friday & weekend as a whole has been made just a little freer by rising early and not procrastinating!
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I also used to hate weekends, healthyagain. 
#2: Today I am happy and grateful for the chance to spend my lunch hour having a tattoo that reminds me of my past covered with a tattoo that I will love forever and ever.
#2: Today I am happy and grateful for the chance to spend my lunch hour having a tattoo that reminds me of my past covered with a tattoo that I will love forever and ever.
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Originally Posted by Wisconsin 
I also used to hate weekends, healthyagain.
#2: Today I am happy and grateful for the chance to spend my lunch hour having a tattoo that reminds me of my past covered with a tattoo that I will love forever and ever.
#2: Today I am happy and grateful for the chance to spend my lunch hour having a tattoo that reminds me of my past covered with a tattoo that I will love forever and ever.
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