Left AH and Filing for Divorce
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Left AH and Filing for Divorce
The story is too long and I am too exhausted to still think straight. The years of emotional, verbal, and physical abuse was too much. I finally left.
I hired an attorney on July 16 to file for divorce.
Eventually I will be able to come back and share the story. I can't do it right now.
Sue
I hired an attorney on July 16 to file for divorce.
Eventually I will be able to come back and share the story. I can't do it right now.
Sue
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You've done what you need to do. Take heart, it will get better. For me, 3 years out, life is so much more rewarding.
And you can come here and post when you need support, whether or not you feel up to typing out the whole story. We're here for you.
ShootingStar1
And you can come here and post when you need support, whether or not you feel up to typing out the whole story. We're here for you.
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I thought I'd feel sad or regret the day I filed after 18 years of marriage...walked out from signing the papers--knowing I was starting a potentially long battle--and I felt lighter than I had in years.
That was 2 1/2 years ago and life is so good. You can do this! Sending you strength, hugs, and prayers.
That was 2 1/2 years ago and life is so good. You can do this! Sending you strength, hugs, and prayers.
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I know without a shadow of a doubt that I have no choice in the matter. The last time I was in the house on July 7, he told me to get my shet, get the f out of his house, and never come back and that we were done.
Sure, ok dude, no problem. So. I . Left. With the clothes on my back and a pair of pjs in a walmart bag. Nothing else. No cats, no kids.
It was the most devastating, heartbreaking thing I ever had to do in my life.
Sue
Sure, ok dude, no problem. So. I . Left. With the clothes on my back and a pair of pjs in a walmart bag. Nothing else. No cats, no kids.
It was the most devastating, heartbreaking thing I ever had to do in my life.
Sue
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I'm so sorry, Sue. I looked over some of your old threads, and you and your kids have been through a lot of abuse.
Have you talked to your lawyer about obtaining a protective order? That would require HIM to leave the house and could allow you to be back with your kids. Those children should not be in his "care." From everything you've posted it appears you have grounds for an order.
Hugs, I know it feels horrible right now, but this can be your first step on a path to freedom and happiness.
Have you talked to your lawyer about obtaining a protective order? That would require HIM to leave the house and could allow you to be back with your kids. Those children should not be in his "care." From everything you've posted it appears you have grounds for an order.
Hugs, I know it feels horrible right now, but this can be your first step on a path to freedom and happiness.
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Sue I'm so sorry about this. Do you have a safe place to stay for now? How old are your children? I'm sorry you've had to endure his abuse. We're here for you to talk to and to give you support.
ETA: Sry, I see you've got many past threads. I understand the need to leave your situation! Stay strong, Sue!
ETA: Sry, I see you've got many past threads. I understand the need to leave your situation! Stay strong, Sue!
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The night my AH was arrested for domestic violence, he said the same thing to me. He had said it prior to that night on a few occasions. This time I calmly looked at him and told him it was not just his house, it was the children and my home and he was free to leave whenever he chose to do so. That was my first mistake and his anger escalated. But, after he was arrested, the children and I left the house and the next day I filed for an order of protection from abuse. He was not allowed to come back to the house after that. Do not believe the nasty things your AH says. I don't know how old your children are, but I can imagine they are scared without you there. You don't want him to file something saying you abandoned him, your children and the house. Please go talk to a DV counselor or an attorney. I agree with Lexi that your children are not safe in his care.
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