christinastar10

Hello,

This year has been interesting for myself and I've also learned a lot about myself. I recently lost my job and basically I'm just over everything going on currently. So basically I've been thinking of moving and starting all over in a new place. It may be a bit extreme but it just feels right. I know I have a lot to consider but just the thought makes me happy.

Thanks for listening.

lillamy

Sometimes, moving to a new place to start over is just a way of running away from your problems. And if that's the case, be aware that YOU will still be moving with you.

That's what a friend advised me when I decided to move. She had a point. But I did manage to run away from a lot of problems that DID stay behind. And for me, it has been easier to get through working on myself because I didn't have to constantly be faced with "this is where we went for our anniversary dinner" and "oh **** there's AXH's car outside the grocery store, I guess I'll go to the other store 10 miles down the road instead" all the time.

For me, moving was the right decision. It was not easy. I don't have friends in my new town; I don't like my new job as well as my old one; I miss so much about where I used to live. But all of that is less important than the fact that I have an entirely new peace here. I know I'm not going to run into my ex. I know I'm not going to run into his boss or any of his drinking buddies or any of his old friends. I know I won't open the door and find him outside with a baseball bat.

Moving can be a new start. Moving can feel like opening a new door to a completely different life. That's what it's been like for me, and I hope it's the same for you.

suncatcher

Hi Chris, I did that very thing about a year ago. I moved an hour away from my home town and all my friends thought I had lost my mind. Turned out to be just the thing I needed...A fresh start! I'm very happy I made the leap. I say trust your instincts! I did a lot of healing from a toxic relationship with an A and my new surroundings were a blessing to my troubled soul. I wish you the best and do what feels right for you. Some people in your life may not support you but always trust yourself to lead the way.

Hockeyerik

I have only been removed from the situation a week and a half. The feelings I get when I think about starting over and making my own life are so exciting. Just thinking about future plans and taking steps towards new goals such a great feeling. I didn't realize how much of that was lost in the chaos of the toxic relationship.

hopeful4

You hold the cards to your future. No matter what you decide we are here for you. Change is hard, but it can be a very positive thing!

christinastar10

Thank you everyone for your feedback. I am considering all my options but this one just feels so right for my son and I. I'm actually getting really excited now.