My husband is yellow!
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Thanks to everyone who is concerned. We went to a small town hospital Sunday morning. They gave him fluids and drew blood. They told us he needed to go to the main hospital in Dallas, so they transported him. They kept him overnight and got the liver doctors involved on Monday. He has alcoholic hepatitis. They are giving him meds and keeping an eye on his bilirubin levels. As soon as they see the levels trend downward, he can come home. So far they are still going up. They are anticipating a few more days. The good news is, it's not cirrhosis and he can recover fully as long as he never drinks again. Right now he is saying that he is never going to drink again, but I know that there will be temptation once he is feeling better. I really don't think he'll give in to that temptation.
Grateful you updated us! I've been thinking about you and your yellow fellow! I hope he is scared straight. I hear it happens. Relapse with kindling appears to help keep my RAH in check. He hated the anxiety roaring right back.
Healing and hugs to both of you!
Healing and hugs to both of you!
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Wahine, we can't go back, but that advice is the absolute best that anyone could have given us. Even the doctors who warned us the alcoholism was going to kill him if he didn't quit didn't have any advice on what to do to get real help with this, other than AA. I kept thinking "if only he'd go to AA", while the reality was he needed a lot more help than that. He's going to AA now, but he needed rehab first.
Tina, don't ask your husband what he wants to do, look at what he needs to do. Rehab is a great place to start learning how to take care of ourselves. Find a place that offers a good family program. There are many different rehabs available - getting to one can be a very important move to make towards long term recovery. This disease affects many very good people. We met a lot of them during an inpatient rehab program and found out that we REALLY are not alone. The more education you each receive, the better your chances are for recovery. Before going, I had thought it was a "last resort" kind of thing, now I see it's a really good place to be and the earlier the better. I'm so glad your husband is doing better and is getting help!
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Thanks for the update and good thing it was caught before it turned into cirrhosis. Liver disease is progressive. Maybe this will be the event that changes things for him. I wish him a speedy recovery. The uncertainty is so hard. Be good to yourself and keep focusing on yourself. I do believe the stronger we are the better able we are to help them instead of enabling them.
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Thanks for the update and good thing it was caught before it turned into cirrhosis. Liver disease is progressive. Maybe this will be the event that changes things for him. I wish him a speedy recovery. The uncertainty is so hard. Be good to yourself and keep focusing on yourself. I do believe the stronger we are the better able we are to help them instead of enabling them.
More than likely, if he doesn't seek treatment, he will go back to drinking AND, I see the temptation is very highly possible since you are a drinker too. He can quit if he wants to though, even if you still drink. It will be hard for him but not impossible. I wouldn't bet the farm on it though.
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The psychiatrist came to his room today to introduce himself. He is stopping by again tomorrow to interview him. I think he is going to start counseling after he get out of the hospital. Counseling will help him, since he has been using alcohol to (not) cope with some things that have happened in his life recently.
Yes I would say that I do have a problem with drinking. I drink about a bottle of Pinot Gregio a day. However, I can NOT drink in order to not give him additional temptations. He works in a field where it is the norm to go out to dinner and drinks after work on the tab of the client, so that will be the main hurtle for him.
Yes I would say that I do have a problem with drinking. I drink about a bottle of Pinot Gregio a day. However, I can NOT drink in order to not give him additional temptations. He works in a field where it is the norm to go out to dinner and drinks after work on the tab of the client, so that will be the main hurtle for him.
Tina, I'm just so proud of you. You are looking at things and starting to decide what has to be sorted. You know you are drinking more than is healthy so that's one of your areas to work on. Your drinking and your husband's drinking are not the same thing though. He needs to stop drnking for him and be in control enough to be in the presence of alcohol without drinking. The rest of the world will not give up alcohol to help him.
from what I have seen in most alcoholics (if alcoholic)
not much concerns them until they are only months or weeks from death
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