Things a "normie" wouldn't know.... Part 3
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OK, last one I think
Normies, don't feel like they need to be strong enough (stupid enough) to stand in the middle of a room knowing they will be physically pushed down, and when they are pushed down, to get up about 30 times, singing, I get knocked down, but I get up again, never gonna keep me down.
Normies actually care about their lifes. I didn't.
Normies, don't feel like they need to be strong enough (stupid enough) to stand in the middle of a room knowing they will be physically pushed down, and when they are pushed down, to get up about 30 times, singing, I get knocked down, but I get up again, never gonna keep me down.
Normies actually care about their lifes. I didn't.
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Since I am vomiting it all out tonight------------------
I went thru cervical cancer stage 3 b, breast cancer, stage 1, DVT (deep vein thrombosis), all at the same time. Went through chemo, radiation, internal radiation, hospitalized for the DVT, they couldn't do anything, took a vein from one leg to try to drain the fluid in the other leg.
Ok it was EXAH birthday. I just recently lost about 25 lbs of water in my leg. I was doing pretty good, still had to go for the chemo and radiation for the breast cancer, but it was his birthday. Sent the kids to friends houses, cooked dinner, put sexy lingerie on.
He didn't come home till 11:00pm.
Normies wouldn't know that this was his day, and that was OK, and it was all my fault because I should have just ***** him.
Normies might have actually thought that their H might have come home on time that night.
I went thru cervical cancer stage 3 b, breast cancer, stage 1, DVT (deep vein thrombosis), all at the same time. Went through chemo, radiation, internal radiation, hospitalized for the DVT, they couldn't do anything, took a vein from one leg to try to drain the fluid in the other leg.
Ok it was EXAH birthday. I just recently lost about 25 lbs of water in my leg. I was doing pretty good, still had to go for the chemo and radiation for the breast cancer, but it was his birthday. Sent the kids to friends houses, cooked dinner, put sexy lingerie on.
He didn't come home till 11:00pm.
Normies wouldn't know that this was his day, and that was OK, and it was all my fault because I should have just ***** him.
Normies might have actually thought that their H might have come home on time that night.
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Normies wouldn't know that it is ok for your alcoholic spouse to use the fact that you work in the Personality Disorder field against you.
Its all right for them, because you're showing distress at yet more abusive behaviour, to tell you that you have a personality disorder and need to get professional help.
When you bring up this comment after a couple of weeks because you're still feeling troubled by it, its ok for them to refuse to either take it back or explain why they think you have personality issues. The reply "it doesn't matter, I love you anyway" is a perfectly acceptable response.
Its all right for them, because you're showing distress at yet more abusive behaviour, to tell you that you have a personality disorder and need to get professional help.
When you bring up this comment after a couple of weeks because you're still feeling troubled by it, its ok for them to refuse to either take it back or explain why they think you have personality issues. The reply "it doesn't matter, I love you anyway" is a perfectly acceptable response.
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Originally Posted by amy55 
Normies don't know that you can put quacking ducks on your phone as a ringtone so that you don't answer the phone,
Whenever I hear it I think WTF is that? Then I realize and laugh.
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Originally Posted by amy55
Ok, don't start------ you'll get me going
Normies don't know that you can put quacking ducks on your phone as a ringtone so that you don't answer the phone, actually I didn't know how to do that, so I put on "unwell" by Rob Thomas
Normies don't know that you can put quacking ducks on your phone as a ringtone so that you don't answer the phone, actually I didn't know how to do that, so I put on "unwell" by Rob Thomas
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Normies don't have to reassure their children at least once a week that it's okay, if Daddy loses his job, we won't have to live in a box like he keeps telling you, and it won't be your fault for not getting out of bed and getting yourself dressed so he can sleep in until the last second, in order to go to daycare. Mommy will always take care of you.
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Normies dont have every jail and emergency room on speed dial and start calling them when AH doesnt come home for 2 days.
Normies dont pray they find their AH at the hospital or in jail because otherwise they know he is in bed with some new fling of the week.
Normies dont have pictures hanging in odd places all over their home to cover the holes AH punched in the walls during rages.
Normiez dont know the difference betwwen a parole officer and a probation officer and how to keep each from violating AH after a binder.
Normies dont pray they find their AH at the hospital or in jail because otherwise they know he is in bed with some new fling of the week.
Normies dont have pictures hanging in odd places all over their home to cover the holes AH punched in the walls during rages.
Normiez dont know the difference betwwen a parole officer and a probation officer and how to keep each from violating AH after a binder.
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Normies don't know what it's like to feel BAD for their SPOUSE'S eff-ups! 
"I only had ONE, it's not like I pounded 10 beers..." He says.
Normies don't get that frustration. It's like dealing with a mentally challenged child. (No offense to mentally challenged children.)
"I only had ONE, it's not like I pounded 10 beers..." He says.
Normies don't get that frustration. It's like dealing with a mentally challenged child. (No offense to mentally challenged children.)
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~ Normies wouldn't know about losing all your friends bc you avoid social situations bc your AH will embarrass you.
~Normies don't walk around the house & find constant reminders of the "really" bad nights. Loose towel holders, dents in the sheetrock, replaced doors, etc...
~ Normies don't know what it's like to pretend your asleep just so you don't have to deal with the ********.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to have a drunken person clean your house while your sleeping. This sounds great except they use drunken reasoning as to where to put everything. My child's baby book was lost for a whole year & I still haven't found countless other things.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to be woken up every hour throughout the night bc your AH wants some "attention" & he isn't getting it while you sleep.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to love & hate someone so much at the same time.
~Normies don't walk around the house & find constant reminders of the "really" bad nights. Loose towel holders, dents in the sheetrock, replaced doors, etc...
~ Normies don't know what it's like to pretend your asleep just so you don't have to deal with the ********.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to have a drunken person clean your house while your sleeping. This sounds great except they use drunken reasoning as to where to put everything. My child's baby book was lost for a whole year & I still haven't found countless other things.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to be woken up every hour throughout the night bc your AH wants some "attention" & he isn't getting it while you sleep.
~ Normies don't know what it's like to love & hate someone so much at the same time.
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Originally Posted by amy55
Normies don't call the cops to give their H's license plate number and tell them the most likely route they took, so that they can get him off the road.
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A normie wouldn't understand that working as a social worker with people with severe mental illness was actually a nice break from being at home with my crazy A husband. The things he would say were crazier than any of the schizophrenics I worked with. And he was far more paranoid than they were.
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Originally Posted by newme2013
A normie wouldn't understand that working as a social worker with people with severe mental illness was actually a nice break from being at home with my crazy A husband. The things he would say were crazier than any of the schizophrenics I worked with. And he was far more paranoid than they were.
I can really resonate with this. I worked in a field where I had daily contact with people with mental illnesses. I handled them just fine. They always sent the most irrational to talk to me, because I knew how to treat them, and they always came back freshly bathe, all dressed up, and insisted on only speaking to me, But, ------------- I was afraid to go home to the person that loved me.
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Originally Posted by amy55
Normies don't go into the garage and sleep in their car
Normies don't start smoking again for a reason to go into the garage to get away from their H
Normies don't start smoking again for a reason to go into the garage to get away from their H
Definitely a normie wouldn't do that!
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Originally Posted by amy55
And here I thought I was the only one !!!!!!!
Normies don't have the jail inmate look up page bookmarked on their computers.
Normies don't have a maniac smash their beloved porcelain dolls collection against the walls at 3 am (when they have to get up at 6 am for work!) by a maniac screaming: "YOU NEED TO F...ING GROW UP!!!!"
Normies don't have a maniac hack their furniture with a machete while they are at work because said maniac was pissed off they went to work instead of staying home and babying them through a cold!
Normies don't have the local cops ask you when you are crossing the streets and minding your own business if you got rid of that guy yet with a look of concern on their face.
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As I am reading, I am hurting for all of you and for who I was and where I was at.
From what I understand you are not with that man anymore Amy: We've come a long way babe!!
And to whomever is reading and too shy to post and still going through this madness, you don't have to live like that! You deserve better. Leave or kick the bum out before it is too late. It is human nature to have hope that things will improve despite all the broken promises. The only way it will get better is if you take care of you and remove yourself from the nightmare.
From what I understand you are not with that man anymore Amy: We've come a long way babe!!
And to whomever is reading and too shy to post and still going through this madness, you don't have to live like that! You deserve better. Leave or kick the bum out before it is too late. It is human nature to have hope that things will improve despite all the broken promises. The only way it will get better is if you take care of you and remove yourself from the nightmare.
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Normies don't find verbal abuse forums
Normies don't go on retreats with people from verbal abuse forums
Normies don't become embarrassed about writing things that happened to them on verbal abuse forums
Normies don't get phone calls from people on that forum that they just so happen to be riding past your area with a U-Haul truck, and was wondering if they should get a bigger one with a car hook up and stop at your place.
Normies don't know all the love that you can get from an internet forum !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Normies don't go on retreats with people from verbal abuse forums
Normies don't become embarrassed about writing things that happened to them on verbal abuse forums
Normies don't get phone calls from people on that forum that they just so happen to be riding past your area with a U-Haul truck, and was wondering if they should get a bigger one with a car hook up and stop at your place.
Normies don't know all the love that you can get from an internet forum !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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