Privacy...and the open nature of this forum
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Originally Posted by TemporaryUser 
There's an option to tweet the threads... how does that keep things private?
The reason for maintaining SoberRecovery as open and public is so that people who really need this forum can find it. Using an internet search is how I found SoberRecovery at a very low point in my life.
As always, I will make sure that your concerns are passed along to the appropriate people.
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My username has nothing to do with anything other than the fact I love the movie and I am from the south.
A couple of times I've accidentally typed the name of the family member I was discussing. It's difficult not to do that when you're talking about such personal things having to do with someone you love -- even if you are sharing it with total strangers. There's something about the total strangers aspect that makes a person speak more freely I think.
A couple of times I've accidentally typed the name of the family member I was discussing. It's difficult not to do that when you're talking about such personal things having to do with someone you love -- even if you are sharing it with total strangers. There's something about the total strangers aspect that makes a person speak more freely I think.
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Originally Posted by Seren
The reason for maintaining SoberRecovery as open and public is so that people who really need this forum can find it. Using an internet search is how I found SoberRecovery at a very low point in my life.
As long as you choose a user name others don't know, and you don't tell people you are on SR, there should be no problem.
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The problem with the "tweet" option is that our "stuff" is being put out in a place where we did not post it. I think it is basic good manners online not to repost in a different place what someone else has written, without permission. I am on a couple of email lists, and have seen others re-post things written by someone else on another site, and I have told them that it makes me uncomfortable.
Of course, it is basic internet safety 101 not to post ANYTHING online that would cause you a problem if it were to turn up someplace else. Still, knowing that it COULD happen is one thing, but having a self-help forum basically encourage people to do that is another.
Just my feelings.
Of course, it is basic internet safety 101 not to post ANYTHING online that would cause you a problem if it were to turn up someplace else. Still, knowing that it COULD happen is one thing, but having a self-help forum basically encourage people to do that is another.
Just my feelings.
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The Twitter button has been around for 3 years now. So far, I have not heard of anyone running into any problems because their posts were tweeted. Also, bear in mind that ‘tweets’ can only be 140 characters. I reached that character limit in this post alone by the time I reached the word ‘tweets’ above. It would be extraordinarily time-consuming for someone to share any of the posts here via Twitter because they would have to do so in more than one tweet. Either that, or the post would have to be altered so dramatically to be tweeted that it would not resemble the original post at all.
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Important - please read
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I'm not sure how much more explicit I can be at this point.
If you have received a/an:
DO NOT POST ITS CONTENTS HERE ON THIS PUBLIC FORUM.
Going forward, any messages of this sort will be removed.
If YOU have written a letter to someone and you want to share it here, that is entirely your choice.
By posting something someone else has written, you are violating their privacy because they have not given you permission to do so, and it is a personal message not meant for the World Wide Web to see.
Most importantly, though, if the person who wrote the message happens to find what you posted, then YOU can be identified and YOUR privacy, anonymity, and perhaps even your safety may be compromised. This may be especially true in the case of an abusive relationship.
Here, again, is the SR rule on Privacy:
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I'm not sure how much more explicit I can be at this point.
If you have received a/an:
- text
- letter
- card
- or any other form of written communication from someone else
- or if someone in your household has written an 'impact letter' to the alcoholic/addict in your family
DO NOT POST ITS CONTENTS HERE ON THIS PUBLIC FORUM.
Going forward, any messages of this sort will be removed.
If YOU have written a letter to someone and you want to share it here, that is entirely your choice.
By posting something someone else has written, you are violating their privacy because they have not given you permission to do so, and it is a personal message not meant for the World Wide Web to see.
Most importantly, though, if the person who wrote the message happens to find what you posted, then YOU can be identified and YOUR privacy, anonymity, and perhaps even your safety may be compromised. This may be especially true in the case of an abusive relationship.
Here, again, is the SR rule on Privacy:
3. Breaching of privacy: Solicitation of names and addresses or other personal information for commercial purposes or, in the case of minors, for any purpose. Revealing personal information, including e-mail addresses, about other members that would identify them in the real world and which they have not otherwise made public online. This includes posting the contents of emails, private messages, private phone conversations, private letters, and/or any other private information that has not been shared on the forums by the member/non-member personally.
Do not post offline personal contact information (ie. your home address, phone numbers, email address etc.) and do not ask for personal information from others. Modify your member profile in the Control Panel at the top left corner of the forum to set privacy settings for your account. Use of full names (your first and last name) is allowed but strongly discouraged. This is to protect your security and identity.
Do not post offline personal contact information (ie. your home address, phone numbers, email address etc.) and do not ask for personal information from others. Modify your member profile in the Control Panel at the top left corner of the forum to set privacy settings for your account. Use of full names (your first and last name) is allowed but strongly discouraged. This is to protect your security and identity.
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Yeah, freaks and creepies out there.
For a while, Mrs. Hammer's attorneys were cutting and pasting posts from here, to put into Court Records, trying to present that I was a "misogynist." (how is THAT for a 5 dollah phrase?
) when I was laughing at Codejob and telling her to mind her own business. Oh well, Evil, EVIL me.
Hey Real Question -- would it be against the Terms of Service here to Cut, Paste, and Publish forum contents from here without the consent of Sober Recovery and/or the person who posted it?
If so, I might as well add that to the list of matters I am going for Sanctions against Mrs. Hammer's attorneys.
For a while, Mrs. Hammer's attorneys were cutting and pasting posts from here, to put into Court Records, trying to present that I was a "misogynist." (how is THAT for a 5 dollah phrase?
) when I was laughing at Codejob and telling her to mind her own business. Oh well, Evil, EVIL me. Hey Real Question -- would it be against the Terms of Service here to Cut, Paste, and Publish forum contents from here without the consent of Sober Recovery and/or the person who posted it?
If so, I might as well add that to the list of matters I am going for Sanctions against Mrs. Hammer's attorneys.
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Unless I'm mistaken, everything on this site is open to the public, so there is no "service" to whose terms the person copying/pasting would be bound. IOW, there's no agreement between this site and any random member of the public who chooses to grab the content.
Technically, maybe there's a violation of copyright (which we all have in anything written that we "create") but do you really want to make a federal case out of it?
Technically, maybe there's a violation of copyright (which we all have in anything written that we "create") but do you really want to make a federal case out of it?
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Originally Posted by LexieCat
Technically, maybe there's a violation of copyright (which we all have in anything written that we "create") but do you really want to make a federal case out of it?
But overall, it is already a "case." I just figure the more obnoxious they are, the more it leads to sanctions. I switched over to Pro Se, (yeeeaaaahhh, baby) after we had everything settled with the kids.Now it is just a pissing match regarding money. The idiots made a claim for support with Mrs. Hammer making more than me. With a 50/50 split on custody, you know how that is going to go.
I already tried to let them off with a Take Nothing (either way), but on we go.
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Well I guess I would question A LOT of my posts at this point-- My AH texts me ALOT with verbally abusive stuff that I share on here....
In the future- what do I do? Paraphrase?
Just trying to keep myself out of trouble. (I'm in enough as it is) Ha!
In the future- what do I do? Paraphrase?
Just trying to keep myself out of trouble. (I'm in enough as it is) Ha!
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Yeah, and I think (Seren will correct me if I'm wrong) you could probably quote a sentence or phrase out of a longer communication. The idea is not to post the whole thing verbatim.
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Originally Posted by Sotiredofitall
LMAO Sooo funny. Just gotta laugh
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Paraphrasing any communication is always going to be the preferred way to go. An entire sentence can even be used to search for someone, but part of a sentence is fine.
We aren't trying to rain on anyone's parade, but Hammer's story of being discovered here by his wife is one of many examples I have seen. Posting the entire contents of a letter just makes it that much easier for someone to discover your participation here.
We aren't trying to rain on anyone's parade, but Hammer's story of being discovered here by his wife is one of many examples I have seen. Posting the entire contents of a letter just makes it that much easier for someone to discover your participation here.
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