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|01-30-2010, 07:44 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2010
I want my son to stop drinking, what do i do?
My son is 21 years old. He lives at home with me and works full time at a car dealership, He has been drinking for about 2 years but not as heavily as the last 8 months. He gets very confrontational when I question his drinking, He starts drinking in his car on his way home from work everyday and between leaving work and when he gets home he's almost always intoxicated by then. He drinks on average a half a 5th of vodka within a few hours before he becomes so intoxicated he falls asleep or throws up. He does always go to work, He never misses days because of alcohol but he does ignore his responsibilities and he comes to work wreaking of alcohol. When he has days off he starts drinking very early in the day, Usually before 11am and stays highly intoxicated all day, even if he has something important to do. I don't understand what i did wrong as a Mother!! His father and I are divorced but we are friends, we speak and we both have always done our very best to take care of Brandon. He is so smart and so gifted I don't understand why he does this. As soon as he gets home he stumbles into his room and sits there for hours on end drinking and smoking. I cannot throw him out because he's my son, I could never do that, You who are mothers and fathers can understand why. His father ignores it and just plays it off as "its just his age"
|01-30-2010, 09:55 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Forward we go...side by side
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Welcome to SR ....
Sorry to know of this situation
Has your son said he wants to quit drinking?
All my best to both of you...
Each Day Sober Is A Victory!!
Joy In AA Recovery!
|01-30-2010, 10:26 PM||#3 (permalink)|
Just livin' the dream
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Somewhere Out There
(((Karen))) I am so sorry that you are going through this. It truly can be a nightmare. Have you checked out any Al-anon meetings in your area. They can help you learn how to deal with an active alcoholic.
Unfortunately, unless Brandon wants help, there isn't much you can do for him. If you will read the stickies at the top of this forum, you will see the experiences of many others who have been exactly where you are. Our focus here is mainly on you and your well-being.
Welcome to SR. There is much wisdom and experience here. Please come back and spend some time with us. Even if you just post to vent, that can be helpful, too. Please take care of yourself.
"So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key."
- The Eagles
"We call them dumb animals, and so they are, for they cannot tell us how they feel, but they do not suffer less because they have no words."
- Anna Sewell
|01-30-2010, 10:27 PM||#4 (permalink)|
get it, give it, grow in it
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
Welcome from another mom
"I cannot throw him out because he's my son, I could never do that, You who are mothers can understand why. "
I kicked my son out. Otherwise we are enabling the alcoholism, which is a progressive disease. You are only making it easier for the disease to progress.
My son came back to live at home 5 yrs later.When I could see that alcoholism had taken him down very low, I offered treatment or the door. I could not have a front row seat in my own home to the disease.
Luckily, he was ready to seek help.
Before this he had hit some hard consequences.Often this is the case.
Have you considered al-anon? There are mtg. specifically for parents in my county.
Get a directory of mtg. in your area on- line. It really does work if you work the program. It helps you understand what alcoholism is, your role in this and how to not be co-dependent with your son .
The sooner you get help the sooner your situation will change.
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