Originally Posted by Karen58KL
I cannot throw him out because he's my son, I could never do that, You who are mothers and fathers can understand why. His father ignores it and just plays it off as "its just his age"
Karen, you may very well end up changing your mind about that. And that does not mean you are abandoning him. You cannot get him to stop drinking. He will need to do that on his own, and will most likely make that decision when drinking and consequences become uncomfortable.
Sounds like its time for some Alanon for you so you can learn to set boundaries. What do you want to live with?
You ok with him living off you drunk?
Whose car is he driving? Yours? Your insurance? If so, you'll bear some liability if he's ever in an accident or hurts someone.
Do you give him money? You can see where that's going.
My point is, time to set some boundaries for yourself and to protect you. Otherwise he will pull you down with him.
This takes time to learn to do. Keep posting, check out Alanon, and know that you did NOTHING to cause this. You don't have that kind of power, nor do you have the power to fix it.
Hugs to you.