The Words Fell Out of My Mouth - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

intheknow · 11-07-2009, 12:46 PM

Ok, some words fell out of my mouth today that I thought might be helpful to others who are struggling with being married to an alcoholic.

We were talking about his going to meetings (or lack thereof). I calmly said...

"Please don't think I am judging you or being selfish. I will be ok, whether you go to meetings or not. It is you that I am worried about. I want you to succeed, for you - because I care about you."

Now it's your turn - what fell out of your mouth?

Buffalo66 · 11-07-2009, 12:51 PM

I said,

"I know you have done some bad things, and I have been on the other end. I know that I assaulted you verbally and endlessly each time I found out about another woman, or another lie, or another year went by with no financial help for our son...But I do feel sad and sorry about assaulting you verbally. I did treat you badly. And I am not happy about that EVEN if it was ever 'justified' in my heart or by the book. I became a person that I did not want to be in response to your behavior, and I am sorry that I said these horrible things for so long."

Ago · 11-07-2009, 12:52 PM

I can't do this any more

Good bye

Startingover2 · 11-07-2009, 12:59 PM

Wow...good post.

This just happened 30 minutes ago.

I all of a sudden felt this real need to pray for exah. Not sure why or what for...but just pray.

I sent him a text:

I am praying for you.

My faith is not something he and I discussed much. He was very threatened by it most of the time and made comments. When we were together I pretty much put my faith on the back burner. This situation has brought me back to a very strong faith, but still something exah and I don't discuss.

whereisthisgoin · 11-07-2009, 04:53 PM

We are going through a rollercoaster of good times and bad times. Lately I could just feel him going toward the bad times and the words that fell out of my mouth:

"I can tell you are going back to the old way where your only interest is getting laid or getting loaded"....

Lavash · 11-07-2009, 09:29 PM

"you're an ahole"

11-07-2009, 12:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
intheknow Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Midwest Posts: 216	The Words Fell Out of My Mouth Ok, some words fell out of my mouth today that I thought might be helpful to others who are struggling with being married to an alcoholic. We were talking about his going to meetings (or lack thereof). I calmly said... "Please don't think I am judging you or being selfish. I will be ok, whether you go to meetings or not. It is you that I am worried about. I want you to succeed, for you - because I care about you." Now it's your turn - what fell out of your mouth?

11-07-2009, 12:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
Ago Rawr!!!!!! Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Marin County Posts: 2,021	I can't do this any more Good bye __________________ Another Day at The Office If you go back to drinking and you haven’t written a Fourth Step inventory, don’t say that you tried A.A. and it failed, because you never tried A.A.

11-07-2009, 04:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
whereisthisgoin Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 58	We are going through a rollercoaster of good times and bad times. Lately I could just feel him going toward the bad times and the words that fell out of my mouth: "I can tell you are going back to the old way where your only interest is getting laid or getting loaded".... __________________ A heart should be drawn with shaky lines. Love and trepidation at the same time. Yes, a heart should be drawn with shaky lines. --whereisthisgoin

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11-07-2009, 12:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
Buffalo66 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 168	I said, "I know you have done some bad things, and I have been on the other end. I know that I assaulted you verbally and endlessly each time I found out about another woman, or another lie, or another year went by with no financial help for our son...But I do feel sad and sorry about assaulting you verbally. I did treat you badly. And I am not happy about that EVEN if it was ever 'justified' in my heart or by the book. I became a person that I did not want to be in response to your behavior, and I am sorry that I said these horrible things for so long."

11-07-2009, 12:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
Startingover2 Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 472	Wow...good post. This just happened 30 minutes ago. I all of a sudden felt this real need to pray for exah. Not sure why or what for...but just pray. I sent him a text: I am praying for you. My faith is not something he and I discussed much. He was very threatened by it most of the time and made comments. When we were together I pretty much put my faith on the back burner. This situation has brought me back to a very strong faith, but still something exah and I don't discuss.

11-07-2009, 09:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
Lavash Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Montreal Posts: 363	"you're an ahole"

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