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veryregretful · 11-05-2009, 08:47 AM

I just bought the book Codependant No More and am almost done with it. OMG it fits me to a T. I didn't realize how sick I really am. It listed in the book the things that we do as codies. The one that sticks in my head is the obsessiveness.

I obsess about obsessing.
I obsess about worrying.
I worry about worrying.
etc.

I was wondering where my obsessive behavior was coming from. I was never obsessive. It's from the person I has trying to save 20 years ago. and yes I knew he had a problem then and still married him and had twins with him. I grew up with an alcoholic father so probably that's where my codie behavior started. Where I learned it. He was diabetic and I was about 11 and I would come home school and he would I think be in a diabetic coma because he didn't take his insulin and he probably drank and I had to give him his shot. I had to remind him and make the needles ready for him. My mom worked evenings. He has since passed away. Well actually I was 16 and he was 47 when he passed a way. He was a dependant alki. He passed away almost 30 years now. wow. I just think of it as he is at peace now. No more pain.

This is a great book. I already learned alot about me and I hope this book will help me realize how I am at this moment and will help me raise my kids (They are 14). I don't want to be codependant with them.

I'm leaving the book laying around in case the kids want to pick it up and glance at it. They might have come codie behavior also.

I might have some obsessive behavior with this site. lololol It helps me immensely but I do have to get off now and do a little bit of work.

Thanks for reading and sorry so long. Once my fingers get going I can't get them to stop.

Take care!

bookwyrm · 11-05-2009, 03:27 PM

I remember the first time I read it - I was in shock! But it helped me immensley. I've since re read it a couple of times and each time I do, something different yet relevant grabs my attention. I can't recommend it highly enough!

tjp613 · 11-05-2009, 03:31 PM

ditto!! I love it.

I think I'll buy 20 of 'em this Christmas to give as gifts! HA! (That's prolly not very nice, eh?) LOL

sclarke64448 · 11-05-2009, 03:40 PM

Hey regretful it does come as a bit of a shock doesn't it! I think you Bookwyrm were one of the first, if not the first, to recommend it to me when I joined SR in July. I read it and highlighted everything which jumped out at me! There is a lot of illuminous green pen in that book lol XXXXX

LaTeeDa · 11-05-2009, 03:41 PM

I remember the first time I read it. I thought "OMG, not only is my husband an alcoholic, he's codependent, too! Good thing I don't have HIS problems." LOL

It took two more readings of it before I finally started to identify my own behaviors in those pages. Can you say DENIAL?

So glad I stuck with it and read it again (and again).

L

Bernadette · 11-05-2009, 03:44 PM

I think I'll buy 20 of 'em this Christmas to give as gifts!

LOL! Why, how perfectly codie of you tjp!
B

Still Waters · 11-05-2009, 08:46 PM

Her second one, Beyond Codependency is good also.

11-05-2009, 08:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
veryregretful Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ashamed ville Posts: 135	Codependant.No.More I just bought the book Codependant No More and am almost done with it. OMG it fits me to a T. I didn't realize how sick I really am. It listed in the book the things that we do as codies. The one that sticks in my head is the obsessiveness. I obsess about obsessing. I obsess about worrying. I worry about worrying. etc. I was wondering where my obsessive behavior was coming from. I was never obsessive. It's from the person I has trying to save 20 years ago. and yes I knew he had a problem then and still married him and had twins with him. I grew up with an alcoholic father so probably that's where my codie behavior started. Where I learned it. He was diabetic and I was about 11 and I would come home school and he would I think be in a diabetic coma because he didn't take his insulin and he probably drank and I had to give him his shot. I had to remind him and make the needles ready for him. My mom worked evenings. He has since passed away. Well actually I was 16 and he was 47 when he passed a way. He was a dependant alki. He passed away almost 30 years now. wow. I just think of it as he is at peace now. No more pain. This is a great book. I already learned alot about me and I hope this book will help me realize how I am at this moment and will help me raise my kids (They are 14). I don't want to be codependant with them. I'm leaving the book laying around in case the kids want to pick it up and glance at it. They might have come codie behavior also. I might have some obsessive behavior with this site. lololol It helps me immensely but I do have to get off now and do a little bit of work. Thanks for reading and sorry so long. Once my fingers get going I can't get them to stop. Take care!

11-05-2009, 03:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
bookwyrm Curled up in a good book... Bejeweled Champion! Penguin Pool Champion! Zoo Keeper Champion! Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: UK Posts: 632	I remember the first time I read it - I was in shock! But it helped me immensley. I've since re read it a couple of times and each time I do, something different yet relevant grabs my attention. I can't recommend it highly enough! __________________ You are absolutely gloriously perfectly imperfect whether a single other human holds you in their thoughts right now or not. You are completely deserving of the space you take up on the planet simply by virtue of breathing. No one else has the power to define you. GiveLove

11-05-2009, 03:31 PM	#3 (permalink)
tjp613 Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 416 Blog Entries: 1	ditto!! I love it. I think I'll buy 20 of 'em this Christmas to give as gifts! HA! (That's prolly not very nice, eh?) LOL __________________ ....You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.... -Max Ehrmann

11-05-2009, 03:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
LaTeeDa Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: FarNorthernCalifornia Posts: 3,495	I remember the first time I read it. I thought "OMG, not only is my husband an alcoholic, he's codependent, too! Good thing I don't have HIS problems." LOL It took two more readings of it before I finally started to identify my own behaviors in those pages. Can you say DENIAL? So glad I stuck with it and read it again (and again). L __________________ The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.--Henry David Thoreau I never lose sight of the fact that just being is fun.--Katharine Hepburn

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11-05-2009, 03:40 PM	#4 (permalink)
sclarke64448 Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: London Posts: 127	Hey regretful it does come as a bit of a shock doesn't it! I think you Bookwyrm were one of the first, if not the first, to recommend it to me when I joined SR in July. I read it and highlighted everything which jumped out at me! There is a lot of illuminous green pen in that book lol XXXXX

11-05-2009, 03:44 PM	#6 (permalink)
Bernadette Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Boston Posts: 1,668	I think I'll buy 20 of 'em this Christmas to give as gifts! LOL! Why, how perfectly codie of you tjp! B

11-05-2009, 08:46 PM	#7 (permalink)
Still Waters Being Silent so I can Hear Mahjong Champion! Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: USA Posts: 1,399	Her second one, Beyond Codependency is good also.

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