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BeerPolice · 11-03-2009, 01:26 PM

After 2 years of living with my husband, I finnally called it quits. I asked him to leave, he moved back with his parents. After a 2 weeks of sheer heck of him saying my daughter and I need to leave the house. I have no intentions of ever getting back with him, sober or not. Im finished, spent and just plain ole tired of doing the dance. I want to thank everyone hear for there kind words of wisedom. Dont remember who, but they said something will click when your done. It clicked. Im sure this is still going to be hard road to travel, but Im really ready to start taking care of myself. Thanks!

ItsmeAlice · 11-03-2009, 05:54 PM

I found my decision to be done with my XABF both freeing and overwhelming at the same time, but those with experience hit it right on the head...when you're done you know it and the doubts fall away leaving the grief and revelation that come with acceptance.

Your journey of independence is beginning. My best to you!!

Alice

LaTeeDa · 11-03-2009, 06:00 PM

I remember you cuz I love your screen name. My XAH used to call me the "fun police."

You're right, when you're done you're done. I remember feeling such relief when it happened. Best wishes in your new life!

L

veryregretful · 11-03-2009, 06:49 PM

I'm almost there. My AH has been almost gone 3 weeks and he was supposed to come by last night and bring my son to dinner. Blew him off. Today, my AH texted him earlier about dinner and asked my son if he was mad at him. my son responded yes and didn't know if he wanted to go. I called my AH and said maybe instead of going out, maybe just get subs and come over here. I was bringing my daughter to the movies so I wouldn't be here. They could talk. My AH then told me he was working late and wasn't sure. Well to make a long story short my AH never called my son to say he wasn't coming over. I'm so mad right now. To hurt me is one thing but to hurt my kids even more in another. My kids are 14.

I am almost to the point where I don't want him to come home if he were to become sober. I'm almost there. Today I'm mentally feeling better but I wish I get there and feel like you guys do.

Hugs to all!!!

11-03-2009, 01:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
BeerPolice Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Not Sure Yet Posts: 27	Beer Police Update, Dont know if you all remember me. After 2 years of living with my husband, I finnally called it quits. I asked him to leave, he moved back with his parents. After a 2 weeks of sheer heck of him saying my daughter and I need to leave the house. I have no intentions of ever getting back with him, sober or not. Im finished, spent and just plain ole tired of doing the dance. I want to thank everyone hear for there kind words of wisedom. Dont remember who, but they said something will click when your done. It clicked. Im sure this is still going to be hard road to travel, but Im really ready to start taking care of myself. Thanks! __________________ One's first step in wisdom is to question everything - and one's last is to come to terms with everything. George Christoph Lichtenberg (1742 - 1799)

11-03-2009, 05:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
ItsmeAlice Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,902	I found my decision to be done with my XABF both freeing and overwhelming at the same time, but those with experience hit it right on the head...when you're done you know it and the doubts fall away leaving the grief and revelation that come with acceptance. Your journey of independence is beginning. My best to you!! Alice __________________ Read the directions and directly you will be directed in the right direction. Alice in Wonderland

11-03-2009, 06:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
LaTeeDa Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: behind the viewfinder... Posts: 5,359	I remember you cuz I love your screen name. My XAH used to call me the "fun police." You're right, when you're done you're done. I remember feeling such relief when it happened. Best wishes in your new life! L __________________ The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.--Henry David Thoreau I never lose sight of the fact that just being is fun.--Katharine Hepburn

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11-03-2009, 06:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
veryregretful Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ashamed ville Posts: 311	I'm almost there. My AH has been almost gone 3 weeks and he was supposed to come by last night and bring my son to dinner. Blew him off. Today, my AH texted him earlier about dinner and asked my son if he was mad at him. my son responded yes and didn't know if he wanted to go. I called my AH and said maybe instead of going out, maybe just get subs and come over here. I was bringing my daughter to the movies so I wouldn't be here. They could talk. My AH then told me he was working late and wasn't sure. Well to make a long story short my AH never called my son to say he wasn't coming over. I'm so mad right now. To hurt me is one thing but to hurt my kids even more in another. My kids are 14. I am almost to the point where I don't want him to come home if he were to become sober. I'm almost there. Today I'm mentally feeling better but I wish I get there and feel like you guys do. Hugs to all!!!

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