| Originally posted by wheredoIstart |
I'm having a hard time trying to understand why my Alcoholic husband has to lie and sneak all the time ...........He keeps denying that he has drinking problem...... so why does he have to lie and sneak around to drink??
I ditto the advice you've gotten so far. Just wanted to add...
He denys he has a problem, because frankly, from his point of view the alcohol isn't causing him any problems. From his point of view, what is causing him problems is you. That's why he sneaks and lies. To avoid your anger.
The truth is the alcohol is a problem for you, not him. Since you are powerless over his drinking, you need to find a way to give yourself distance from the two of them (him and the booze). Whether it's leaving the room, or leaving the house, do what you have to in order to give yourself peace.
Your anger is natural ... it's a sign that you're tollerating something that deep down you hate. Be true to yourself. Make the necessary changes to your circumstances to make the anger go away.
Getting him to stop buying and drinking is not an option available to you.