What does he want?
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What does he want?
My ex alcoholic bf is still trying to reach out to me after four years of our break up and no contact. This is the third time he's reach out since breakup.
I'm almost positive he recently lost his full time job that I help him get when we were together. Not sure if he still doesn't have a car or is still a alcoholic. Yet, hard to believe that he's changed into somewhat of a better man. Not for me or anyone else but for himself.,
What could he want???
I'm almost positive he recently lost his full time job that I help him get when we were together. Not sure if he still doesn't have a car or is still a alcoholic. Yet, hard to believe that he's changed into somewhat of a better man. Not for me or anyone else but for himself.,
What could he want???
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Hi Roxxxy, who cares? You're through with him aren't you?
I hope you're not flirting with the idea that he still loves you etc etc; we're often susceptible to the idea we're irresistible.
Chances are you're his last resort. No money, no car.
I hope you're not flirting with the idea that he still loves you etc etc; we're often susceptible to the idea we're irresistible.
Chances are you're his last resort. No money, no car.
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None of us can answer, but the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. What did he want before? I think it's very unlikely that what he wants is to reveal to you that he has suddenly become an entirely different person.
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I would just block him. I still have men reaching out to me after I went out with them just a couple times , years ago. This might be something he is doing regardless of his addiction. Sometimes people reach out because of lonliness or regret but usually, to rekindle even when we ourselves are long over it. I would block the number so you can keep progressing. Again, I have done this with non-addicts. Even men I really wanted the attention from years ago like to pop up now and again and by that time I am so over it I really don't want my life disrupted. It isn't fair to you either. Just keep it moving 
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It really should not matter why but when curiosity gets ahold of you, time to review some facts.
What makes you think he’s changed into a better man?
You think he lost his job.
You don’t think he has a car.
Doesn’t sound like much has really changed does it?
When you say he reached out to you, how, by text message, phone call, email, letter?
Yet, hard to believe that he's changed into somewhat of a better man. Not for me or anyone else but for himself.,
You think he lost his job.
You don’t think he has a car.
Doesn’t sound like much has really changed does it?
When you say he reached out to you, how, by text message, phone call, email, letter?
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