What is a qualifier?

[loner1968]

I see this here sometimes and I'm not sure what it means.

[denny57]

Typically, the person who gets you in the rooms of a 12-step program. xAH was my qualifier, but like someone else just posted, I actually am my own best qualifier - I realized that once I was going for awhile. I went because of the alcoholic, I stayed for myself.

[loner1968]

I don't go to alanon but if I did I would qualify as my own qualifier. I wish I could make myself go. I don't know what my problem is. I don't want to go anywhere though.

[Bernadette]

"I don't want to go anywhere though."
Anywhere at all? Or just not to AlAnon?
I'm glad you come here!
:-)
B

[loner1968]

Anywhere at all. My depression sucks. I can barely go to my part time job. All my energy is sapped when i get home. I hate going to the store or to appointments. I don't even want to go hang with friends. Totally different forum topic I know...

[bookwyrm]

yeah, it does suck! I too have depression and have my good days and bad days - less so now that I've been to my doctor and we've tinkered with my meds to help me get through this. Do you think you're just having a bad phase right now or is it something more serious?

Anyway, I'm sending you kind thoughts and hugs!!

[Jadmack25]

I have had depression for the past 4 years, but meds and other stuff have eased it a lot. Coming here to SR has also been a God send, and probably done more for me than any other "treatment" I have had.
I used to go to Alanon, but moved house and stopped going. Looked for meetings here and there are 2 a week, same time as church meetings so that stumped me for a bit. Looked online and found Alanon site there.
email to, tranquilityAFG-subscribe@yahoogroups.com

Hope this may be of some help to anyone who for whatever reason can't get to a f2f Alanon meeting.

God bless

[Twinkle]

loner - I certainly can understand.. I too had a difficult doing/going anywhere. When I was home - I wanted to be somewhere else.. when I was somewhere else - I wanted to be home. When I was home, I literally could not do anything.. I do go to alanon, and this was when I first started going. I did get a sponsor, and I was told that whereever I go I take myself with me, and that until I worked on myself and started to like myself..I would have these problems.. I did what she suggested and today I am a happy person, not depressed - I do not take on other peoples feelings, and I can be home alone and happy and content now...