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geees poncho · 12-10-2007, 09:32 PM

I read kindeyes intro, and realized I never introduced my self.
My name is Gary hence Geees, my car is a poncho car slang for Pontiac. I sobered up a long time ago, and have always wondered about alanon. would I fit. well I think so. my whole family revolved around alcohol, 2 brothers died
while useing, one in a drunken stuper droped dead in Phoenix, heart imploded.
the other was murdered in Mpls. while drinking. Dad was a wierd drunk, happy go lucky, then violent. or violent then happy go lucky. Mom was the caretaker in the storm. trying to keep it all look normal, what a job.
I drank up and ruined my first marriage, to my high school sweet heart. she went crazy. and I ended up raiseing my 2 kids, what a twist. that is when I got into the program. 6/3/85-original dry date was 10/78. 3 years sober,3 yrs slip. Now I'm going thru a 3rd divorce, and need all of your help. I'v been to some alanon meetings, and for some reason this feels better, even though I can't spell or type. and was raised when smoke signals were in vogue. Now its cyber space. all of you make such good sense.!!! THANK YOU

**CatsPajamas** · 12-10-2007, 09:38 PM

Hi Gary and welcome to Sober Recovery. Trust me, you're among friends. I know many people in Al Anon who are "double winners." That means they work the steps of AA to remain sober, and they work the Al Anon program to learn how to live a sober life and interact with other people.

There will be others along shortly to share their experience, strength and hope.

Again, welcome. I think you'll fit in here just fine.

Cats

klutz4513 · 12-11-2007, 01:06 AM

I am so glad you are here with us all.

You have to find the fit that is best for you. It sounds like you have sure been through a heck of a lot. Those here will gain just as much from you and your experiences as you do from theirs. I hope you find the support here you need!

Kindeyes · 12-11-2007, 06:34 AM

Hey G
Nice to meet you. You've been through a lot. Families and loved ones whose lives revolve around one alcoholic are heck but when there are many...I can't even imagine. I'm sorry for the loss of your loved ones and the divorces. Lots of turmoil.

I'm new here as well but have felt welcomed and already can see that this is a very supportive group of people. Sometimes just having someone say "I understand" means the world.....we're not alone and we can survive...no....not just survive. We can thrive and actually be happy.

welcome

***GiveLove*** · 12-11-2007, 07:47 AM

Hey Gary,

Welcome to the gang here....I think you definitely fit in here

I think you're doing great, realizing finally how your family's history is jerking your strings, and trying to do something about it. Recognizing it all is half the battle...some people never get that far. You can have any kind of life you want, and can be any kind of person you want; you just need to decide, and then get into the right kind of support to help you. Sounds like you're trying to do that.
Hugs,
GL

denny57 · 12-11-2007, 09:23 AM

welcome to SR, gees, glad you're here!

lilac · 12-11-2007, 10:12 AM

Welcome to you!

**Cynay** · 12-11-2007, 10:38 AM

Welcome to SR.... I’m happy to meet you geees.

SR is an amazing place to help with recovery.... I know it has helped me personally very much and it is wonderful to know that you’re not alone in the struggles that addiction brings....

Al-anon was a life saver when my world came crashing down and I hit my bottom.... since then I have done alot of therapy and CoDA.... which teaches me how to have healthy relationship. Perhaps CoDA could work better for you then Al-anon???

I look forward to getting to know you, pull up a chair, grab some coffee and relax with people that can say... We really do understand.

**DesertEyes** · 12-11-2007, 12:01 PM

Hey there Gary, and welcome to this wonderful website. I started in AA, then wound up here after I left my pill-addicted wife. Now ex-wife. The way it works for me is that AA keeps me sober, but al-anon keeps me sane. AA shows me how to make it thru life without having to hide in drugs or booze. Al-anon shows me how to enjoy life without using emotions and resentments as a substitute for drugs and booze.

I did a bit of therapy too, and it did wonders for me. There's all kinds of "tools" out there to help us live our lifes happy, joyous and free.

Welcome again

Mike

hbb · 12-11-2007, 01:41 PM

Hi Gary and welcome! SR is a GREAT place of wonderful friends and much needed information. You personally have helped me already and i want to thank YOU

I appreciate your words of wisdom and i hope you find what you need here, like i said it's a great place and it's saved my life. Welcome.

CBrown · 12-11-2007, 02:00 PM

Welcome Geeeeeeeeeees!

kelsh · 12-11-2007, 02:00 PM

Hi Gary,

Glad to see you here. You do have a long recovery and the one short relapse. I quit the first time in 1974 and stayed sober a year here and there and went 14 more years before I quit in 1988.

I had a lot of trouble with depression but am doing okay with that now.

Keep coming back...read...post...or just say Hi!!

kelsh

guineapigjude · 12-11-2007, 02:03 PM

Hi and welcome!

DetachMe9 · 12-11-2007, 03:19 PM

I've been sober 14 years, but absolutely drunk off my *ss with enabling and codependency for even longer. Anyone can ride the train to the rock-bottom with either "disease"; both programs require the same commitment. At age 46, I'm preparing to divorce my 2nd (alcoholic) husband after 10 years together. It is utterly heartbreaking to go through this again, having been more "sure" the second time than I was the first. I'm fearful that my life will pass me by before I can truly recover from all my issues and be at peace with just myself, much less a partner.

This site is very helpful in between meetings, but I certainly wouldn't use it as a substitute. The "stickies" at the top of the main forum page are very worthwhile reading, and if you make a post asking for help -- you will get it, sometimes with very plain, forthright statements. This is what it takes to break through denial and recover. Welcome.

humming bird · 12-11-2007, 08:20 PM

Hi Gary,

This is a great place to learn, heal, and visit!!!

chero · 12-11-2007, 08:34 PM

Hey Gary! Glad you're here! This really is a great place and it sounds like you are going to fit right in!!

12-10-2007, 09:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
geees poncho Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Minneapolis, Mn. Minnesota Alligator Controll Posts: 285	Please excuse me I read kindeyes intro, and realized I never introduced my self. My name is Gary hence Geees, my car is a poncho car slang for Pontiac. I sobered up a long time ago, and have always wondered about alanon. would I fit. well I think so. my whole family revolved around alcohol, 2 brothers died while useing, one in a drunken stuper droped dead in Phoenix, heart imploded. the other was murdered in Mpls. while drinking. Dad was a wierd drunk, happy go lucky, then violent. or violent then happy go lucky. Mom was the caretaker in the storm. trying to keep it all look normal, what a job. I drank up and ruined my first marriage, to my high school sweet heart. she went crazy. and I ended up raiseing my 2 kids, what a twist. that is when I got into the program. 6/3/85-original dry date was 10/78. 3 years sober,3 yrs slip. Now I'm going thru a 3rd divorce, and need all of your help. I'v been to some alanon meetings, and for some reason this feels better, even though I can't spell or type. and was raised when smoke signals were in vogue. Now its cyber space. all of you make such good sense.!!! THANK YOU

12-10-2007, 09:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
CatsPajamas One hot (flash) Mama Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Blustery Midwest Posts: 2,090	Hi Gary and welcome to Sober Recovery. Trust me, you're among friends. I know many people in Al Anon who are "double winners." That means they work the steps of AA to remain sober, and they work the Al Anon program to learn how to live a sober life and interact with other people. There will be others along shortly to share their experience, strength and hope. Again, welcome. I think you'll fit in here just fine. Cats __________________ ~~ What other people think of me is really none of my business ~~

12-11-2007, 07:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
*GiveLove* Recovering 1 step at a time... Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Curled up somewhere with a book Posts: 2,153	Hey Gary, Welcome to the gang here....I think you definitely fit in here I think you're doing great, realizing finally how your family's history is jerking your strings, and trying to do something about it. Recognizing it all is half the battle...some people never get that far. You can have any kind of life you want, and can be any kind of person you want; you just need to decide, and then get into the right kind of support to help you. Sounds like you're trying to do that. Hugs, GL __________________ "Tell me, what are you going to do with your one wild and precious life?" --Mary Oliver "Argue your limitations, and sure enough, they're yours." --Richard Bach

12-11-2007, 09:23 AM	#6 (permalink)
denny57 Free at last Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 4,913	welcome to SR, gees, glad you're here! __________________ We should take care not to make the intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality. Albert Einstein

12-11-2007, 10:12 AM	#7 (permalink)
lilac Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Happy with me ! Posts: 680	Welcome to you! __________________ "If God brings us to it, He will bring us through it !!!!"

12-11-2007, 01:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
klutz4513 Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Cheney, Washington Posts: 11	I am so glad you are here with us all. You have to find the fit that is best for you. It sounds like you have sure been through a heck of a lot. Those here will gain just as much from you and your experiences as you do from theirs. I hope you find the support here you need!

12-11-2007, 06:34 AM	#4 (permalink)
Kindeyes Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Washington State Posts: 780	Hey G Nice to meet you. You've been through a lot. Families and loved ones whose lives revolve around one alcoholic are heck but when there are many...I can't even imagine. I'm sorry for the loss of your loved ones and the divorces. Lots of turmoil. I'm new here as well but have felt welcomed and already can see that this is a very supportive group of people. Sometimes just having someone say "I understand" means the world.....we're not alone and we can survive...no....not just survive. We can thrive and actually be happy. welcome

12-11-2007, 10:38 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cynay Forum Leader Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 3,696	Welcome to SR.... I’m happy to meet you geees. SR is an amazing place to help with recovery.... I know it has helped me personally very much and it is wonderful to know that you’re not alone in the struggles that addiction brings.... Al-anon was a life saver when my world came crashing down and I hit my bottom.... since then I have done alot of therapy and CoDA.... which teaches me how to have healthy relationship. Perhaps CoDA could work better for you then Al-anon??? I look forward to getting to know you, pull up a chair, grab some coffee and relax with people that can say... We really do understand. __________________ Cynay "Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." Harvey Fierstein

12-11-2007, 12:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
DesertEyes Starting over Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Skin city Posts: 2,138	Hey there Gary, and welcome to this wonderful website. I started in AA, then wound up here after I left my pill-addicted wife. Now ex-wife. The way it works for me is that AA keeps me sober, but al-anon keeps me sane. AA shows me how to make it thru life without having to hide in drugs or booze. Al-anon shows me how to enjoy life without using emotions and resentments as a substitute for drugs and booze. I did a bit of therapy too, and it did wonders for me. There's all kinds of "tools" out there to help us live our lifes happy, joyous and free. Welcome again Mike __________________ Sunsets are not endings. If I have enough faith, they are beginnings.

12-11-2007, 01:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
hbb Live, Laugh, Love Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Between Fenway and the Beach! Posts: 1,293	Hi Gary and welcome! SR is a GREAT place of wonderful friends and much needed information. You personally have helped me already and i want to thank YOU I appreciate your words of wisdom and i hope you find what you need here, like i said it's a great place and it's saved my life. Welcome. __________________ Heather "Happiness often sneaks through a door we didn't know we left open"

12-11-2007, 02:00 PM	#11 (permalink)
CBrown Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: "Somewhere in Ohio" ... little joke from past Posts: 483	Welcome Geeeeeeeeeees! __________________ Claudia somewhere distant, the hurricane still spins he rages and destroys, and believes that he wins but here in my world, the tempest far away i rebuild, rejoice and move forward, in halcyon days

12-11-2007, 02:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
kelsh Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Omak WA Posts: 812	Been sober a long time... Hi Gary, Glad to see you here. You do have a long recovery and the one short relapse. I quit the first time in 1974 and stayed sober a year here and there and went 14 more years before I quit in 1988. I had a lot of trouble with depression but am doing okay with that now. Keep coming back...read...post...or just say Hi!! kelsh __________________ God Grant Me the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change..the Courage to Change the Things I Can Change..and the Wisdom to Know the Diifference. Sobriety Date: July 10, 1988

12-11-2007, 02:03 PM	#13 (permalink)
guineapigjude Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 471	Hi and welcome!

12-11-2007, 03:19 PM	#14 (permalink)
DetachMe9 Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Kansas City Posts: 141	I've been sober 14 years, but absolutely drunk off my *ss with enabling and codependency for even longer. Anyone can ride the train to the rock-bottom with either "disease"; both programs require the same commitment. At age 46, I'm preparing to divorce my 2nd (alcoholic) husband after 10 years together. It is utterly heartbreaking to go through this again, having been more "sure" the second time than I was the first. I'm fearful that my life will pass me by before I can truly recover from all my issues and be at peace with just myself, much less a partner. This site is very helpful in between meetings, but I certainly wouldn't use it as a substitute. The "stickies" at the top of the main forum page are very worthwhile reading, and if you make a post asking for help -- you will get it, sometimes with very plain, forthright statements. This is what it takes to break through denial and recover. Welcome.

12-11-2007, 08:20 PM	#15 (permalink)
humming bird Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: north east Posts: 58	Hi Gary, This is a great place to learn, heal, and visit!!!

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