Alcoholism: A Merry-Go-Round named Denial
It ain't over yet for my FOO .They don't think we're "no contact," apparently.
I looked into the spam folder of my e-mail account, and they are still sending emails. Looks like they are trying to draw me back into some brawl.
Have any of you folks had to deal with persistence like this? What did you end up doing about it?
I looked into the spam folder of my e-mail account, and they are still sending emails. Looks like they are trying to draw me back into some brawl.
Have any of you folks had to deal with persistence like this? What did you end up doing about it?
Eauchiche......good decision making on the outhouse thing.
side story: When I was a child I lived in an area where outhouses were not uncommon. Also, copperhead snakes were common (poisonous), as well as blacksnakes (non poison). One had to be on guard for them at all times.
I developed a fear of a snake being on the underside of the seat in an outhouse.
I still have a ritual of extensive checking with the help of a flashlight before nervously using an outhouse!
Eauchiche....thanks for the memories.....
dandylion
side story: When I was a child I lived in an area where outhouses were not uncommon. Also, copperhead snakes were common (poisonous), as well as blacksnakes (non poison). One had to be on guard for them at all times.
I developed a fear of a snake being on the underside of the seat in an outhouse.
I still have a ritual of extensive checking with the help of a flashlight before nervously using an outhouse!
Eauchiche....thanks for the memories.....
dandylion
In the part of the article labeled "The wife Stands Alone".......
I note that it says that it may take two or three years of program work before the wife (spouse) can change enough to make changes in her/his role in the family......
It is pointed out that many wives drop out in a shorter time if they do not experience change before then.....
I also notice that they imply that changes in the non-alcoholic spouse MAY lead to changes in the drinking pattern of the alcoholic.
I think MAY is the key word in the sentence.......
It sure does not imply that it WILL.....
I can't help but think that this may not be welcome information for some people who come saying "I am overwhelmed and I can't go on living like this".
LOL....I am not trying to start a fight.....just thinking out loud about how this must feel like for those who are reading the material for the first time.......
dandylion
I note that it says that it may take two or three years of program work before the wife (spouse) can change enough to make changes in her/his role in the family......
It is pointed out that many wives drop out in a shorter time if they do not experience change before then.....
I also notice that they imply that changes in the non-alcoholic spouse MAY lead to changes in the drinking pattern of the alcoholic.
I think MAY is the key word in the sentence.......
It sure does not imply that it WILL.....
I can't help but think that this may not be welcome information for some people who come saying "I am overwhelmed and I can't go on living like this".
LOL....I am not trying to start a fight.....just thinking out loud about how this must feel like for those who are reading the material for the first time.......
dandylion
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I really needed this thread today. I am like dandylion said, "overwhelmed and can't take living this way anymore." I want to get off the merry-go-round but don't know how to. I am exhausted from dealing with his alcohol problem. I don't see how things will ever change because my AH always drinks with his brothers every single weekend. I used to look forward to weekends and now I just dread them. And I have been made to feel like I'm the problem because I'm the only one "making waves" in the family. Everyone else just turns a blind eye to it but I just can't do this anymore. How does he stand a chance of getting sober when his whole family drinks? Its not like i can expect him not to hang out with his family. I feel so alone in this. I feel like it's me against his entire family.
bree528.....may I give you a suggestion...?
Why not start a completely new thread with what you just presented.....
because I think you will probably get a lot more traffic and a lot more responses, that way.
Just repeat what you, basically, just said.....
Often, the forum less busy on the weekends, but will always pick up when the new week starts....
see you around!!!
dandylion
Why not start a completely new thread with what you just presented.....
because I think you will probably get a lot more traffic and a lot more responses, that way.
Just repeat what you, basically, just said.....
Often, the forum less busy on the weekends, but will always pick up when the new week starts....
see you around!!!
dandylion
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bree528.....may I give you a suggestion...?
Why not start a completely new thread with what you just presented.....
because I think you will probably get a lot more traffic and a lot more responses, that way.
Just repeat what you, basically, just said.....
Often, the forum less busy on the weekends, but will always pick up when the new week starts....
see you around!!!
dandylion
Why not start a completely new thread with what you just presented.....
because I think you will probably get a lot more traffic and a lot more responses, that way.
Just repeat what you, basically, just said.....
Often, the forum less busy on the weekends, but will always pick up when the new week starts....
see you around!!!
dandylion
I took your scathingly brilliant idea, and found the equivalent of the flush handle in the spam folder. Now those e-mails are somewhere down in hell, where they belong.
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Flush handle . . . too funny E!! I know this all must hurt like all holy hell but it helps to have a sense of humor and the ability to paint appropriate metaphors.
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Desert eyes, you know I never even knew the author but as you mention it I looked it up. For me the content was so fascinating that I forgot about who may have wrote it. Anyway here it is
Alcoholism a Merry-Go-Round Name Denial
Pamphlet, 28 pp.
Author: Joseph L. Kellermann
Item: 1140
ISBN-10: 0894860224
ISBN-13: 9780894860225
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Publisher: Hazelden
Published Year: 1970
Alcoholism a Merry-Go-Round Name Denial
Pamphlet, 28 pp.
Author: Joseph L. Kellermann
Item: 1140
ISBN-10: 0894860224
ISBN-13: 9780894860225
T
Publisher: Hazelden
Published Year: 1970
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