Disconnecting?
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Disconnecting?
I am very new to the site and read about disconnecting/detaching from the A, what does this mean? I think I know, and I think I am finally doing it-no personal attachment, conversations, begging, pleading, yelling, or crying-they made the bed and they must sleep in it-but I don't have to-Thanks-
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Well, that's SORTA it, but not exactly.
Detachment just means that you are not enmeshed with the insanity that goes along with alcoholism. It doesn't mean ignoring the person, though it DOES mean not engaging in useless conversations you've had before, screaming, begging, threatening, etc.
Learning to walk away, when necessary, can be part of it. It boils down to taking care of yourself, and your own business, your own recovery, and allowing the alcoholic to deal with his or her own issues.
Detachment just means that you are not enmeshed with the insanity that goes along with alcoholism. It doesn't mean ignoring the person, though it DOES mean not engaging in useless conversations you've had before, screaming, begging, threatening, etc.
Learning to walk away, when necessary, can be part of it. It boils down to taking care of yourself, and your own business, your own recovery, and allowing the alcoholic to deal with his or her own issues.
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It has helped me, even though I'm still living with AW. I don't ignore her, but I have "let go of the outcome", or stopped feeling responsible for fixing her. This may not be the ideal approach, but it has given me a small island of sanity to which I can retreat at those times when she becomes an alcoholic zombie.
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