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lyralee · 09-01-2007, 08:41 AM

Hi everyone! Thanks again for all your support and kind words...

I talked to him last night, and he finally admitted to me that he had been dating the girl for almost two months.. she was much younger, and they never had sex, but he wanted to... he blamed it on these compulsive thoughts he would have (he was diagnosed with OCD when he was younger, but never sought treatment for it)... he knew the whole time it was wrong, but he couldn't do anything to control it... are alcoholism and OCD related? I should probably also mention that he has low self-esteem issues.

Mr. Christian · 09-01-2007, 08:45 AM

Wow, sounds like a lot of excuses for bad behavior.
But I guess if it work, he might as well try it on you.

You really don’t buy this do you?

Maybe he also suffers from YGS = young girl syndrome.

MsGolightly · 09-01-2007, 09:01 AM

what exactly are his compulsive thoughts?

alcoholism and OCD aren't necessairly related. . . and everyone has low self-esteem issues.

believe me, i believed a lot of lies before i learned to trust my gut. if you believe them now, expect them to keep on comin ... once he sees he can get away with it with you, he'll continue to do so. nothin better than a doormat.

please keep reading and posting here - you'll learn a lot!

goldenleaves · 09-01-2007, 08:31 PM

Aahhh yes...... Young Girl Syndrome. Mine has that too.

Run.

justjo · 09-02-2007, 01:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by respektingme

It makes you sad to hear how much he's hurting. Do you think he's sad because you're hurting? Do you think he thought about how sad you'd be if you found out he was boinking someone else? Do you think he was wondering about your emotional wellbeing as he pulled up to the hotel and checked in? Is he sad now because you packed his stuff and piled it on his car (good move) or because he hurt you?

Do not listen to him right now. He's trying to manipulate you. He screwed up. You need to move on.

Said-Now Listen!

Selah · 09-10-2007, 01:37 PM

I just found out today that my xabf cheateed and I am devastated. i am fighting the rationalizations...
It was just one weekend when I wouldn't see him b/c he was so xanax-ed out. he took the first girl swooning over him....they only kissed once. both of them agreed to this...and I am sick at the thought of it.
sad part? I have been so supportive in endeavors to become clean and healthy...he FINALLY went to rehab 11 days ago...5 days after he left I was so releived and then I received an email from that girl. I about puked.
I'd like to believe it was just b/c he was high, but I am highly fearful of reliving that pain.

09-01-2007, 08:45 AM	#27 (permalink)
Mr. Christian My Cape Is at The Cleaners Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Metropolis Posts: 1,117	Wow, sounds like a lot of excuses for bad behavior. But I guess if it work, he might as well try it on you. You really don’t buy this do you? Maybe he also suffers from YGS = young girl syndrome. __________________ They can be a great people Kal-El, they wish to be. They only lack the light to show the way.

09-01-2007, 09:01 AM	#28 (permalink)
MsGolightly Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 792	what exactly are his compulsive thoughts? alcoholism and OCD aren't necessairly related. . . and everyone has low self-esteem issues. believe me, i believed a lot of lies before i learned to trust my gut. if you believe them now, expect them to keep on comin ... once he sees he can get away with it with you, he'll continue to do so. nothin better than a doormat. please keep reading and posting here - you'll learn a lot! __________________ "Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars." - Kahlil Gibran

09-01-2007, 08:31 PM	#29 (permalink)
goldenleaves In my forest. Join Date: May 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 31	Aahhh yes...... Young Girl Syndrome. Mine has that too. Run. __________________ When you have gone so far that you can't manage one more step, then you've gone just half the distance that you're capable of ~ Greenland proverb

09-10-2007, 01:37 PM	#31 (permalink)
Selah Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: MI Posts: 132	I just found out today that my xabf cheateed and I am devastated. i am fighting the rationalizations... It was just one weekend when I wouldn't see him b/c he was so xanax-ed out. he took the first girl swooning over him....they only kissed once. both of them agreed to this...and I am sick at the thought of it. sad part? I have been so supportive in endeavors to become clean and healthy...he FINALLY went to rehab 11 days ago...5 days after he left I was so releived and then I received an email from that girl. I about puked. I'd like to believe it was just b/c he was high, but I am highly fearful of reliving that pain. __________________ Up & Down we go....

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09-01-2007, 08:41 AM	#26 (permalink)
lyralee Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: BC Posts: 5	Hi everyone! Thanks again for all your support and kind words... I talked to him last night, and he finally admitted to me that he had been dating the girl for almost two months.. she was much younger, and they never had sex, but he wanted to... he blamed it on these compulsive thoughts he would have (he was diagnosed with OCD when he was younger, but never sought treatment for it)... he knew the whole time it was wrong, but he couldn't do anything to control it... are alcoholism and OCD related? I should probably also mention that he has low self-esteem issues.

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