In Emergency

[ladyjane]

I'm so sorry Jo. I'll be praying for you and your family.
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Trish

[Janitw]

I just read this thread (I have been on vac in Florida) and this amazes me .... you have my prayers as well hun...

[FormerDoormat]

Hi again, Jo. I found it easier to detach myself almostly completely from Richard. It simply was too painful to watch him drink himself to death and I couldn't find peace within myself while I remained embroiled in his problems. So for the most part I avoided speaking to him during the last few months of his life and only spoke to him when he was reasonably sober.

Of course, you have to decide for youself if you can live with that decision and have peace within yourself should your sister succumb to her drinking, as Richard did. At first I felt a few waves of guilt for not being there for him in the end, but then I realized that I never really left his side. I was there for him and supported him emotionally from a safe distance away, an dof course I never stopped loving him.

Best of luck to you and I'll continue to keep you and your sister in my prayers.

[justjo]

I try so hard not to think about her and her situation but every day it just keeps creeping in. I know its just the fear of loosing her but I am very aware that I cant help her anymore. She just wont accept any help from anyone. I just cant work it out. The addiction is poison and it will eventually kill her. I pray not as I have read so many stories about people here that have come through it all. I pray and pray she will be one of these great people who have survived it.
I try so hard not to cry over her, it hurts. It is so very amazing how this has consumed my life (and she isnt even aware of it) and now I have to get on with it I guess. Last night I gave all my children who still live with me (18, 20, 24) a big kiss and a giant hug and told them I love them and am proud they are my sons. I rang my neice and nephew and told them the same. I was even being silly with my other half and joking and laughing. A bit later though, I felt sad because I thought I have all of this and my sister is home alone and in LaLa Land.
I am so grateful for all of you, the great advise and even the ones who tell me off sometimes, as it puts everything back into perspective for me. My sincere thanks.

[parentrecovers]

i'm sorry, justso. i understand..

blessings, k

[denny57]

(((justjo)))