Famous quotes made by your loved one Part 2 - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

lostnfound1961 · 07-11-2007, 03:01 PM

Mine is always thinking he remembers what we talked about. He takes things we did talk about ans says NO WE DIDN'T TALK ABOUT THAT? Or when we didn't talk about something but it was on his mined while he was drunk he thinks we did and he will yell and say, WE MADE A DEAL or YOU AGREED.

The other night when we got into it over his drinking he said he didn't understand why (I) had a problem with it. I make it to work don't I? I don't hit you do I? then whats the problem?

Today has been a bad day for me. Nothing seems to be going right and I get all shaky and upset and I worry that it will be worse when I get home. (Heavy Sigh)

cookconfay · 07-11-2007, 03:04 PM

I will pray for you, I know that dreading to go home feeling all too well. Thank God I don't have that to deal with today!!!

My abf of late says stuff about things he swore I said many years ago, or that he saw me doing and frankly, I really don't buy it. I mean yes I blacked out sometimes but not all the time. I think he is really delusional!

U24LIFE · 07-11-2007, 07:11 PM

Some from the "old man"

"Save your legs and get me two beers." (about every 15 minutes or so when I visit)

"This is the dumbest dog I've owned" (after the dog didn't know how to get a beer out of the fridge)

"Is that monkey with the weapon still out there?" (Neighbor child in the kitchen spreading peanut butter on a cracker with a butter knife)

"I'm the poorest SOB you know, boy." (spends $600+ a month on booze and cigs)

"I got the mail, did the dishes, and took out the trash. What is this? Prohibition? Get me two beers" (Justification on a "hard" day of "work".

"I knew I should have never let the darn dog drive" (after pulling in at home with the front corner of truck dented in)

(While stopping by to visit) "If you're out of beer, you are out of Dad. Catch you later." -- leaves immediately, and for the record, brings his own beer.

"I set all kinds of military records in boot camp. In fact, they should rename it Mikey Camp in my honor. You should have seen me back then."

"Turn it up. Turn it down. Turn it up. Turn it down. Little louder. I said turn it down! GIVE ME THE REMOTE!!" (all in about a 10 minute period)

The list could go on and on and on... *sigh*

losinghim · 07-11-2007, 07:13 PM

My AH doesn't like the saying "One day at a time" so he says "Today I'm going to stay sober. Tomorrow I can drink anything I want, and as much as I want, but today I'm going to stay sober" He says that the next morning he wakes up and says it all over again.

The problem is... I suspect he's getting started on tomorrow a little early each night!!

Rusty Zipper · 07-11-2007, 07:26 PM

ya, Free Beer Tomorrow!

you kids have me laughing, crying, and remembering at the same time... what i did to my loved ones...

happy not to be that nit wit anymore!

xxoo, rz

Buffalo66 · 07-12-2007, 08:52 AM

"Nobody has it as bad as I do."

"nobody has ever had to deal with my mental problems, so I self medicate to handle the stress of it. All those psych drugs wont work for me because I have a problem they never heard of before."

I went out with my friends and had some drinks for the first time in a long time since my baby was born, and he followed me around all night;
"look at what a great mother you are you drunk ****"

AskingWhy · 07-12-2007, 01:47 PM

"Me drinking is no worse than you taking sleep medication or when you take a Xanax...I just choose to self medicate"

"Ohhh...it's always all about you isn't it....(and then in the same breath)...nobody cares about me...none of you would miss me if I weren't here"

anvilhead · 07-12-2007, 01:54 PM

I'm going to quit.......right after the holidays........

notice WHICH set of holidays is never clarified......and we know there's ALWAYS another holiday coming up.......sigh

tinkerbellkj · 07-12-2007, 07:01 PM

"You know, if you had gotten up earlier this morning, I wouldn't have needed to drink. I like to start the day off productive."

"This is YOUR fault"

"Why are promises made? To be broken."

"You should never have to say 'no' to me."

"This is my self-destruction, how dare you interfere, you don't see me bugging you when you're reading US Weekly" (no, I usually don't get to read it, because it spilled a beer on it!)

"I don't mind driving. No really, I don't mind driving." (he can't even walk half the time!)

"If you don't want to, I can find another girl so easily you don't even KNOW"

My Absolute favorite:
"If you really loved me you would!"

WantsOut · 07-12-2007, 07:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tinkerbellkj

"This is my self-destruction, how dare you interfere, you don't see me bugging you when you're reading US Weekly" (no, I usually don't get to read it, because it spilled a beer on it!)

I like this one. It's audacious in its utter meaninglessness.

tinkerbellkj · 07-12-2007, 07:23 PM

And I forgot this one, though I'm not sure how because I heard it enough.

"I'm so awful, aren't I? I'm so horrible. I haven't done (insert something he did months ago, like took me out to dinner) for you have I?? Have I???"

duet_4-8 · 07-12-2007, 08:10 PM

I don't know why, but this one just flashed in my mind from about 12 years ago, muttered as he left after I tried yet another codie plea for him to be a husband and a father:

"We'll never be a real family as long as (*our 8 year old son*) sits in front of that tv playing video games!"

duet_4-8 · 07-12-2007, 08:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tinkerbellkj

And I forgot this one, though I'm not sure how because I heard it enough.

"I'm so awful, aren't I? I'm so horrible. I haven't done (insert something he did months ago, like took me out to dinner) for you have I?? Have I???"

Yeah, mine used to always sneer "I'm sorry I'm so worthless....." on the way out the door. I was constantly reminded of something he bought....

duet_4-8 · 07-12-2007, 08:15 PM

Oh yeah, I'm on a bit of a roll now....

"Well, you were taking nerve pills!" Of course, never mind that it was the Christmas holidays and my father had just been diagnosed with cancer and my doctor prescribed them.....

aztchr · 07-12-2007, 08:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lostnfound1961

The other night when we got into it over his drinking he said he didn't understand why (I) had a problem with it. I make it to work don't I? I don't hit you do I? then whats the problem?

Yep, that's a classic one I heard, too.

mazey · 07-12-2007, 09:20 PM

This is a great read! OMG, so many familiar ones to me.
'I was headed home after a couple, then so 'n so came in'
'Why can't ya just let me have some fun?'
'What? Aren't you social?'
'you're no fun'
or just plain silence.........

guineapigjude · 07-13-2007, 04:43 AM

You know, after reading through these, I think we should get 'm all together in a big room and have them come up with some new material!! Seems like they all say the same things my XAH said. Do they have a manual or something? LOL
Another of my faves was when XAH would come home from "work", having put in 6 1/2 - 7 hours (self employed), taken several "rides" during the job, and after having drank for a couple hours before coming home. I always kept the house neat, but the outside was a disaster (he was too "burnt out" to work on it on weekends/after work) and the inside was in dire need of a coat of paint. (Go figure, XAH is a painter...) XAH would stumble home, yell for one of the kids to get him a beer, then start squawking about our neighbor saying hello to him...the neighbor who has the desk job, coaches little league, keeps the house in repair, etc.~
"That idiot said Hi to me. He couldn't wear my boots for one day!!"

dollydo · 07-13-2007, 05:06 AM

Guinea,

A therapist I went to once said that Painters, Tar Roofers, and Road Pavers have the highest incidents of addiction...she blamed it on the fumes.

My ex is a painter.

He would come home and his eyes would be blood shot, I'd say "Are you smoking pot?" he would get all mad and say "No, it's just from the paint fumes!" It wasn't.

respektingme · 07-13-2007, 05:35 AM

"Did you ever think that I tell the TRUTH when I'm drunk????"

"It's always about my drinking isn't it? YOU never do anything wrong."

embraced2000 · 07-13-2007, 07:12 AM

"the happiest i've ever been has been the years since we have been together"...................my skin would break out into goosebumps, my hair on the back of my neck would stand up, and i would have brain freeze, and think........ooohhhh myyyyy gaaawwwwd!!!!

if thinks this has been good, what would he describe as horrible????

another one that used to blow my mind: you better wake up and see what you have in front of you, before you lose me.

hmmmm....no job, no car, running from legal issues, no family contact, and an alcoholic.

glad i woke up.

embraced2000 · 07-13-2007, 07:28 AM

oh yeah, i'm remembering more now....

"baby, i'm a catch"....said while he was snarling in my face. ok.

"i want you to quit your job and i'm going to support you for a change" ok.

"but i only drink about every 6 weeks or so" ok. but it always ends in jail after a big fiasco, a detox center, then psych ward, then rehab.

"i'm going to do it my way" ok. excuse me while i refuse to watch the crash and burn.

"i hate aa. bunch of brain-fried, near retarded, court ordered felons, trying to tell me how i should live???? i don't think so." ok.

"let''s just not go to our meetings tonight, and have our own aa/al-anon combo meeting, just the two of us baby, then we will have a nice dinner" lordy....did you ever feel like running from the house, screaming.......stop the insanity!!!!

AskingWhy · 07-13-2007, 07:56 AM

another one that used to blow my mind: you better wake up and see what you have in front of you, before you lose me

OMG...and add to the above statement "and then you will be all alone with nobody".

Damn, is that projection at it's most classic or what????????

prodigal · 07-13-2007, 08:05 PM

"I never PROMISED you I'd stop drinking completely." (Uh, yeah ... so why did you waste 28 days and thousands of dollars in rehab #3 - please remind me again so I can understand it ...)

"Why did the doctor prescribe you these pills? Aren't you bipolar?" (Uh, no ... those little 1 mg pills are known as Klonopin and are for anxiety. BIPOLAR - huh???)

"You need anger management." (This from the guy who single-handedly ripped a closet door off its hinges in a motel room "looking" for his wallet ...)

"Have you ever been to Las Vegas?" (After telling him about 70 zillion times I've always wanted to go to Vegas to see the huge fountains in front of the Bellagio.)

"Well, yeah, we know about my drinking ..." said in a vague kinda offhand way; like a between-you-and-me "joke." YES, AS A MATTER OF FACT I DO KNOW ABOUT YOUR DRINKING - HELLO?!?

"Nobody likes you, M., I mean NOBODY likes you." (Quack, quack, quack ... frankly, it's none of my business who likes me and who doesn't, is it?)

dollydo · 07-14-2007, 05:49 AM

"How come you always lose your temper"....gee, lets think about this, could living with a drunk have something to do with it? Nah!

"It's only beer"...well, don't you think 20 of them a night is a bit much? Nah!

"There's something wrong with the dog, his eyes are crossed, and he is not walking straight"...he is fine, could you be drunk? Nah!

"Your crazy"....as I was firing at him in the back yard with my BB gun, he was a bobbin and a weavin, and I was a firing...was I crazy? Yeah!

07-11-2007, 03:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
lostnfound1961 Guess what, I'm not crazy. Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 270 Blog Entries: 2	Mine is always thinking he remembers what we talked about. He takes things we did talk about ans says NO WE DIDN'T TALK ABOUT THAT? Or when we didn't talk about something but it was on his mined while he was drunk he thinks we did and he will yell and say, WE MADE A DEAL or YOU AGREED. The other night when we got into it over his drinking he said he didn't understand why (I) had a problem with it. I make it to work don't I? I don't hit you do I? then whats the problem? Today has been a bad day for me. Nothing seems to be going right and I get all shaky and upset and I worry that it will be worse when I get home. (Heavy Sigh) __________________ *"I have always believed the glass was half full, it’s just sometimes I can’t fined the glass.”*

07-11-2007, 03:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
cookconfay Livin' on the EDGE Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Gettin kicks on Rt 66 Posts: 4,049	I will pray for you, I know that dreading to go home feeling all too well. Thank God I don't have that to deal with today!!! My abf of late says stuff about things he swore I said many years ago, or that he saw me doing and frankly, I really don't buy it. I mean yes I blacked out sometimes but not all the time. I think he is really delusional! __________________ I'm beautiful inside & out. I do NOT need a man in my life to validate my existence!!! Connie

07-11-2007, 07:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
losinghim Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Ca Posts: 69	My AH doesn't like the saying "One day at a time" so he says "Today I'm going to stay sober. Tomorrow I can drink anything I want, and as much as I want, but today I'm going to stay sober" He says that the next morning he wakes up and says it all over again. The problem is... I suspect he's getting started on tomorrow a little early each night!! __________________ --------------------------------------------------- Why is it that alcohol hurts me when he's the one drinking?

07-11-2007, 07:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
Rusty Zipper Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: my room in ct. Posts: 12,275	ya, Free Beer Tomorrow! you kids have me laughing, crying, and remembering at the same time... what i did to my loved ones... happy not to be that nit wit anymore! xxoo, rz __________________ *Rule 62*

07-12-2007, 08:10 PM	#12 (permalink)
duet_4-8 A work in progress.... Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: FREE!!!! Somewhere in the Tennessee Mountains Posts: 941	I don't know why, but this one just flashed in my mind from about 12 years ago, muttered as he left after I tried yet another codie plea for him to be a husband and a father: "We'll never be a real family as long as (our 8 year old son) sits in front of that tv playing video games!" __________________ Jen "The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place."-Barbara Deangelis

07-11-2007, 07:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
U24LIFE Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Irish Fields Posts: 12	Some from the "old man" "Save your legs and get me two beers." (about every 15 minutes or so when I visit) "This is the dumbest dog I've owned" (after the dog didn't know how to get a beer out of the fridge) "Is that monkey with the weapon still out there?" (Neighbor child in the kitchen spreading peanut butter on a cracker with a butter knife) "I'm the poorest SOB you know, boy." (spends $600+ a month on booze and cigs) "I got the mail, did the dishes, and took out the trash. What is this? Prohibition? Get me two beers" (Justification on a "hard" day of "work". "I knew I should have never let the darn dog drive" (after pulling in at home with the front corner of truck dented in) (While stopping by to visit) "If you're out of beer, you are out of Dad. Catch you later." -- leaves immediately, and for the record, brings his own beer. "I set all kinds of military records in boot camp. In fact, they should rename it Mikey Camp in my honor. You should have seen me back then." "Turn it up. Turn it down. Turn it up. Turn it down. Little louder. I said turn it down! GIVE ME THE REMOTE!!" (all in about a 10 minute period) The list could go on and on and on... sigh

07-12-2007, 08:52 AM	#6 (permalink)
Buffalo66 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 125	"Nobody has it as bad as I do." "nobody has ever had to deal with my mental problems, so I self medicate to handle the stress of it. All those psych drugs wont work for me because I have a problem they never heard of before." I went out with my friends and had some drinks for the first time in a long time since my baby was born, and he followed me around all night; "look at what a great mother you are you drunk ****"

07-12-2007, 01:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
AskingWhy Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 81	"Me drinking is no worse than you taking sleep medication or when you take a Xanax...I just choose to self medicate" "Ohhh...it's always all about you isn't it....(and then in the same breath)...nobody cares about me...none of you would miss me if I weren't here"

07-12-2007, 01:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
anvilhead Honorary Cheesehead Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Western Washington Posts: 7,117	I'm going to quit.......right after the holidays........ notice WHICH set of holidays is never clarified......and we know there's ALWAYS another holiday coming up.......sigh

07-12-2007, 07:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
tinkerbellkj Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 4	"You know, if you had gotten up earlier this morning, I wouldn't have needed to drink. I like to start the day off productive." "This is YOUR fault" "Why are promises made? To be broken." "You should never have to say 'no' to me." "This is my self-destruction, how dare you interfere, you don't see me bugging you when you're reading US Weekly" (no, I usually don't get to read it, because it spilled a beer on it!) "I don't mind driving. No really, I don't mind driving." (he can't even walk half the time!) "If you don't want to, I can find another girl so easily you don't even KNOW" My Absolute favorite: "If you really loved me you would!"

07-12-2007, 07:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
tinkerbellkj Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 4	And I forgot this one, though I'm not sure how because I heard it enough. "I'm so awful, aren't I? I'm so horrible. I haven't done (insert something he did months ago, like took me out to dinner) for you have I?? Have I???"

07-12-2007, 08:15 PM	#14 (permalink)
duet_4-8 A work in progress.... Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: FREE!!!! Somewhere in the Tennessee Mountains Posts: 941	Oh yeah, I'm on a bit of a roll now.... "Well, you were taking nerve pills!" Of course, never mind that it was the Christmas holidays and my father had just been diagnosed with cancer and my doctor prescribed them..... __________________ Jen "The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place."-Barbara Deangelis

07-12-2007, 09:20 PM	#16 (permalink)
mazey Always hopeful... Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 425	This is a great read! OMG, so many familiar ones to me. 'I was headed home after a couple, then so 'n so came in' 'Why can't ya just let me have some fun?' 'What? Aren't you social?' 'you're no fun' or just plain silence......... __________________ Live Well, Love Much, Laugh Often

07-13-2007, 04:43 AM	#17 (permalink)
guineapigjude Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 471	You know, after reading through these, I think we should get 'm all together in a big room and have them come up with some new material!! Seems like they all say the same things my XAH said. Do they have a manual or something? LOL Another of my faves was when XAH would come home from "work", having put in 6 1/2 - 7 hours (self employed), taken several "rides" during the job, and after having drank for a couple hours before coming home. I always kept the house neat, but the outside was a disaster (he was too "burnt out" to work on it on weekends/after work) and the inside was in dire need of a coat of paint. (Go figure, XAH is a painter...) XAH would stumble home, yell for one of the kids to get him a beer, then start squawking about our neighbor saying hello to him...the neighbor who has the desk job, coaches little league, keeps the house in repair, etc.~ "That idiot said Hi to me. He couldn't wear my boots for one day!!"

07-13-2007, 05:06 AM	#18 (permalink)
dollydo I'm no angel! Join Date: May 2005 Location: tampa, fl Posts: 1,480	Guinea, A therapist I went to once said that Painters, Tar Roofers, and Road Pavers have the highest incidents of addiction...she blamed it on the fumes. My ex is a painter. He would come home and his eyes would be blood shot, I'd say "Are you smoking pot?" he would get all mad and say "No, it's just from the paint fumes!" It wasn't.

07-13-2007, 05:35 AM	#19 (permalink)
respektingme Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 572	Just remembered "Did you ever think that I tell the TRUTH when I'm drunk????" "It's always about my drinking isn't it? YOU never do anything wrong."

07-13-2007, 07:12 AM	#20 (permalink)
embraced2000 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: southern indiana Posts: 1,749	"the happiest i've ever been has been the years since we have been together"...................my skin would break out into goosebumps, my hair on the back of my neck would stand up, and i would have brain freeze, and think........ooohhhh myyyyy gaaawwwwd!!!! if thinks this has been good, what would he describe as horrible???? another one that used to blow my mind: you better wake up and see what you have in front of you, before you lose me. hmmmm....no job, no car, running from legal issues, no family contact, and an alcoholic. glad i woke up.

07-13-2007, 07:28 AM	#21 (permalink)
embraced2000 Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: southern indiana Posts: 1,749	oh yeah, i'm remembering more now.... "baby, i'm a catch"....said while he was snarling in my face. ok. "i want you to quit your job and i'm going to support you for a change" ok. "but i only drink about every 6 weeks or so" ok. but it always ends in jail after a big fiasco, a detox center, then psych ward, then rehab. "i'm going to do it my way" ok. excuse me while i refuse to watch the crash and burn. "i hate aa. bunch of brain-fried, near retarded, court ordered felons, trying to tell me how i should live???? i don't think so." ok. "let''s just not go to our meetings tonight, and have our own aa/al-anon combo meeting, just the two of us baby, then we will have a nice dinner" lordy....did you ever feel like running from the house, screaming.......stop the insanity!!!!

07-13-2007, 07:56 AM	#22 (permalink)
AskingWhy Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 81	another one that used to blow my mind: you better wake up and see what you have in front of you, before you lose me OMG...and add to the above statement "and then you will be all alone with nobody". Damn, is that projection at it's most classic or what????????

07-13-2007, 08:05 PM	#23 (permalink)
prodigal prodigal Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: My side of the litterbox-keepin' it clean Posts: 1,869	"I never PROMISED you I'd stop drinking completely." (Uh, yeah ... so why did you waste 28 days and thousands of dollars in rehab #3 - please remind me again so I can understand it ...) "Why did the doctor prescribe you these pills? Aren't you bipolar?" (Uh, no ... those little 1 mg pills are known as Klonopin and are for anxiety. BIPOLAR - huh???) "You need anger management." (This from the guy who single-handedly ripped a closet door off its hinges in a motel room "looking" for his wallet ...) "Have you ever been to Las Vegas?" (After telling him about 70 zillion times I've always wanted to go to Vegas to see the huge fountains in front of the Bellagio.) "Well, yeah, we know about my drinking ..." said in a vague kinda offhand way; like a between-you-and-me "joke." YES, AS A MATTER OF FACT I DO KNOW ABOUT YOUR DRINKING - HELLO?!? "Nobody likes you, M., I mean NOBODY likes you." (Quack, quack, quack ... frankly, it's none of my business who likes me and who doesn't, is it?) __________________ Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love.

07-14-2007, 05:49 AM	#24 (permalink)
dollydo I'm no angel! Join Date: May 2005 Location: tampa, fl Posts: 1,480	"How come you always lose your temper"....gee, lets think about this, could living with a drunk have something to do with it? Nah! "It's only beer"...well, don't you think 20 of them a night is a bit much? Nah! "There's something wrong with the dog, his eyes are crossed, and he is not walking straight"...he is fine, could you be drunk? Nah! "Your crazy"....as I was firing at him in the back yard with my BB gun, he was a bobbin and a weavin, and I was a firing...was I crazy? Yeah!