I got a e-mail

[kermit]

From HIM. A while back I e-mailed him and asked why he didn't call the kids.. months later he sends a e-mail saying it is because I told him the kids did not want to see or hear from hm.... well I believe I said the kids have stopes asking about you and seem to be moving on...
Now it is all my fault again.. Why was I missing him?

[MsGolightly]

kermit, i think you miss the familiar. you were married and have kids and shared a life together, one that was probably filled with lots of happy times and many bad times that just can't outbalance the happy ones.

when relationships end, there's a lot to miss. you obviously loved him at one point, and probably still do, and probably always will. it's not an emotion you can just turn off with some paperwork and a change of address.

it's normal to miss being in love and missing the comfortableness of what you had with him. but you can do BETTER and you will!

[elizabeth1979]

It helped me to write lists out when I was going through this.
I make 2 lists:
1) Things I miss about having him here

2)Things I dont miss about having him here

After I have my lists..I look at the things I miss..those are almost always things that are not about HIM but about me being needy and having someone around or are ultimately tied to my codie needs.

JMO

I dont make these lists anymore, bc there is not anything to put in the first list anymore!

[CE Girl]

OMG Kermie,,isn't the A's ability to take our words and twist them truly AMAZING!!!!

I've heard this advice many times in the two months I've been trying to make my program work.

"Play it out"

When my A would take my words and twist them, I would automatically go into defense mode. the arguments would begin. Frustration anger and rage soon to follow.

Ultimatly, all is was was my A pushing buttons to deflect the problem from the ACTUAL issue. DRINKING

They are very good at distracting you from making them resposible for their actions while drinking

Play it out

Do you MISS the way a "conversation" would have gone if you were talking face to face?

I know just typing about it sends SHIVERS up my spine

Peace

[Tazman53]

Why was I missing him?

A better question may be why didn't you just delete the email without reading it?

I am not being a jerk, I am just telling you that if I had sent you that email I would want to see if I still had my hooks in you by sending it return receipt requested.

[SaTiT]

You miss him becuase you still love him and it gets lonely sometime
sleep in bed by yourself..
And you get a moral issue bouncing in your head about loving
another man becuase of your kids..

However..did you get a sort of a fever. Do you pay attention
to your body ? Did your thoughts run ?
For me its gose like this...i love her, i hate her, I love her, I hate her
I love her, I hate her, I love her, I hate her, I love her, i hate her..

oki doki..I'm a guy ,did you go throught this stage yet ?
you know..for a month it was like...I hated all women..

[rosalie]

You miss the man he used to be and still should be.