Ignore User

[CarolD]

A member asked....

"How can I ignore a member who replies
to my post and makes me upset?
And....
Can I make it so no more PM's from them?"

[best]

User Control Panel
User CP top left side.

Look down till you find Edit Ignore list.
Click on that and then you will see...

Add a Member to Your List...

Add in the screen name to ignore that person's posts from showing up on your screen.

[CAPTAINZING2000]

I was on the old Sober City AA forum.
There wasn't any mods on there.

Glad, we do have them here for someone wishing to cause trouble

Too bad, we come into this site or any place real thin skinned sometimes and don't like to hear what we need to hear sometimes!!

[LucyA]

I pm someone yesterday, it was to apologise really in case I'd upset this person in some way as that wasn't what I intended to do, I think one of my posts might have been taken the wrong way. I also offered to share something to illustrate where I was coming from with my post, and congratulated this person on their sobriety. I would hate to think I'd offended someone just by sharing my experiences. Maybe some people just want the 'pat on the back' and 'well done you' type of replies to their posts, well, that's fair enough I suppose, we're all different. Maybe we should have a 'congratulate me but please don't post anything that doesn't massage my ego' forum. (maybe not, there aren't enough people here who would use it)
I know this might be a coincidence and there might not be any connection to the pm I sent, but it kinda makes me feel I should just not bother reaching out anymore. On the other hand, I've taken advice from others and I'd like to give something back if I can.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day.

[StayinAlive]

I am all about the straight goods, but nice to have the option to block the obvious jerkaholic.

[Paulos]

Very nice.

[CAPTAINZING2000]

Originally Posted by LucyA

I pm someone yesterday, it was to apologise really in case I'd upset this person in some way as that wasn't what I intended to do, I think one of my posts might have been taken the wrong way. I also offered to share something to illustrate where I was coming from with my post, and congratulated this person on their sobriety. I would hate to think I'd offended someone just by sharing my experiences. Maybe some people just want the 'pat on the back' and 'well done you' type of replies to their posts, well, that's fair enough I suppose, we're all different. Maybe we should have a 'congratulate me but please don't post anything that doesn't massage my ego' forum. (maybe not, there aren't enough people here who would use it)
I know this might be a coincidence and there might not be any connection to the pm I sent, but it kinda makes me feel I should just not bother reaching out anymore. On the other hand, I've taken advice from others and I'd like to give something back if I can.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day.

That's what the thanks button is all about!!


I need to have someone call me on my b.s on occasion. Everyone needs to be reminded of opposing views from time to time.

The only thing black and white is don't pick up that first drink!!

[reed]

its all good in the SR hood.
shame that "ignore button" donna work in real life.
Cause I'd be one messed up garbage head 'bout right now.

"talk to the hand."

"tune in" ... "tune out" in the AA meeting.

using an "ignore button," that is ADDICT behaviour!!

[FightingIrish]

Totally..."calmly asked God to remove these defective characters..."

Originally Posted by reed

its all good in the SR hood.
shame that "ignore button" donna work in real life.
Cause I'd be one messed up garbage head 'bout right now.

"talk to the hand."

"tune in" ... "tune out" in the AA meeting.

using an "ignore button," that is ADDICT behaviour!!

[paulmh]

Wise words - but here's another difference between forums and the "real" world - the "Edit" function - I don't like what I said, or how I said it - so I can take it back and change it!

[Rob B]

If I used the ignore feature on everyone I disagreed with, I would see posts from about 8 people. Everyone of us is a teacher and a student in one way or another. I try to learn from all.

[Wolfstarr]

Thanks...good food for thought, Rob B and Reed. There is no use in hiding, and ...."what anyone thinks of me is none of my business" . Is it something we are afraid to hear?

In some instances, though, I feel we need to re-group and learn the lesson quietly on the inside...then return to facing fears and the truth better equipped from the inner being.

For something so simple this has been a great lesson...

[nandm]

There are times when I have put someone on ignore until I was in a position to respond not from anger or defensiveness but from a constructive point of view. I have found that the ignore button is a good way for me to take a break, walk away, and get centered again before I approach someone. It makes for a much smoother and constructive interaction the majority of the time. I do agree with Rob if I left everyone on ignore that I disagreed with I would not be able to read very many opinions as there are many that I don't always agree with. But that is how I learn by reading and listening to others points of view.

On another note, the thank you button is a nice thing when it works but for me it hasn't worked in months. So for me to say I appreciate a thread I either have to post a note in the thread or pm the person.

[Dee74]

I've never used the ignore function - can't be bothered...I can quite easily not read something - but I take nan's point - it might just take the heat off for a bit.

For me it's not about disagreeing - I can handle that not everyone agrees with me - but some posters do annoy me, from time to time...

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[nogard]

crikey I disagree with you all!

Where is that big Red Ignore Button

[LucyA]

I'm too nosey to ignore anyone, I might miss something if I do

[Wolfstarr]

"Crikey"....love it.

[CAPTAINZING2000]

people can disagree with what you say

Long as we don't attack each other

that's what makes us all unique

[nogard]

It took me ages to stop attacking me

[BUTTERFLY-7]

"I WILL ONLY TAKE CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM BUT I SPEAK FOR MY SELF KEEP IT ON THE "I" THERE ARE DO'S WHO WANT 2 B KING OR QUEEN 4R A DAY OR 4R A LIFE TIME OR JUST B known OR POPULAR OR ACCEPTED I THINK HIGHSCHOOL IT'S OVER. "THE MAN IN THE GLASS . When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day,Just go to a mirror and look at yourself,And see what that man has to say. .For it isn't your father or mother or wife or husband or kid's .Who judgement upon you must pass; The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life .Is the one staring back from the glass.Hes the fellow to please, never mind all the rest.For he's with you clear up to the end, .And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test if the, man in the glass is your friend. You may fool the whole world down the pathways of years. And get pats on the back as you pass, But your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you've cheated the man in the glass.

[IO Storm]

The Big Book of AA says members are to be "hard on ourselves and easy on others"

probably because we alkies have such tremendously huge egos!

I have a temper...and have had to backpeddle and apologize more than once here.

[BUTTERFLY-7]

Originally Posted by nogard

It took me ages to stop attacking me

NOGARD,(CRICKET)ATTACKING IS WAY DIFFERENT THAN HAVING SOMEONE GIVE U GOOD CONSTRUCTED CRITICISM . "TRANSFORMATION":YOUR LIFE HAS always been a process of growing and outgrowing.You quickly outgrew your clothes as an infant.You outgrew your shoes before you wore them out.You took great pride when you grew beyond that mark on the tree,or the door frame,or the chart in school. You were happy when you grew through puberty into your adolescent body.However, for some reason,today it is difficult to accept you have out-grown a habit, career,relationship,or even your hometown.You hold on,afraid to let go,trying to make it work,subjecting yourself to physical,emotional,and spiritual pain.This is not a good thing! If life is going to work in your behalf,You must give yourself permission to grow. If it no longer makes you happy; If you are searching unsuccessfully for ways to make it work; If you know in your heart of hearts that whatever it is, it's over--Let go and grow. Be willing to search for new way's to grow. Be open to new environments to grow in. Always be on the lookout for people who are growing and are willing to help you grow, Never feel bad about your growth. Some people will not support you. Others will try to make you feel bad. You might be afraid. You might even experience some pain. Know that it is all a part of growing and growing up. If you need a little taste of the pain you will create when you do not allow yourself to grow, stick your feet in the shoes you wore to the high school prom. . I ACCEPT LIFE'S CHALLENGE TO GROW!!!!!!!

[IO Storm]

That was amazing Butterfly.....truly amazing.

[Gmoney]

Although I've only had to use it once, I think the "ignore" option is great. No matter how much we may try to be helpful, considerate, compassionate, kind and tactful, there will always be one or two who will take what you say out of context. As it says in the NA Basic Text, "some of us are sicker than others," and just aren't on the same page. And in those times when people become abusive and disrespectful, it's good to be able to protect oneself from unwarranted attack. I agree that it doesn't help my growth as a person when I shut off everything I disagree with and become closed-minded. When I close the door from constructive criticism, I'm no longer teachable. Yet, on the other hand, I don't appreciate being the target of someone's resentment because they're unable (or unwilling) to entertain an opposing point of view.

Hurt people, hurt people.

[1is2Many]

Is it possible to put myself on "ignore"? I'm sick of this guys negative attitude.