http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:04:23 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/images/misc/rss.jpg http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/ http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188970-4th-step.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:14:57 GMT I did the fourth step....i think.....now, when i am done w/ it, i have to tell all this information to someone?
I don't get it.+ ]]> Newcomers to Recovery fenster67 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188970-4th-step.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188969-weekend.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:06:29 GMT So another weekend is here. As a few of you may remember I have struggled the last couple of weekends but this has enabled me to get more strength and just get things more straight in my head (quite... So another weekend is here. As a few of you may remember I have struggled the last couple of weekends but this has enabled me to get more strength and just get things more straight in my head (quite a difficult thing!lol)

Seeing the struggle through and sharing about it, both on SR and at AA meetings, has enabled me to greater understand. I am pretty sure that I will be much better this weekend as I am totally resolute and gratefull that drinking ain't an option for this alcoholic. I feel proud that I am sober for 4.5 months and am totally aware that drinking would have done absolutely nothing for my life but to make it even more f*cked up than what it had become.

I am still really living one day at a time and not being able to really comprehend striking up any "outside" relationships. Though i may appear quite confident and for some moments I have much confident, I am still quite insecure and shy in my own skin and these uncomfortable feelings I have to deal with as part of my recovery. I used to use my binges to escape these feelings of uncomfort but when the binge was over they would be worse and I would be living for my next escape again.

I think I am slowly getting there one day at a time and I hope that as long as I remain sober then gradually my life will take shape and my confidence/self-love will gradually start to increase.

I am off to my Friday night AA meeting now as i find Friday night and Saturday nights particularly difficult and I can start projecting my thoughts badly about what others are doing and what I'm not doing.

Thanks for letting me share....

peace xxx ]]> Newcomers to Recovery NEOMARXIST http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188969-weekend.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188968-wishing-everyone-fun-thansgiving.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:05:42 GMT Still struggling, but I have been going to meetings, and reading, and praying. I drank a week ago and really started hard back to get motivated. Don't mess up a good day by drinking, don't make a bad day worse, by drinking. Google and study tips on handling cravings. Have a good holiday! :day6 ]]> Newcomers to Recovery Mcribb http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188968-wishing-everyone-fun-thansgiving.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188967-dreams.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:56:57 GMT Hello,

Today I have two weeks without alcohol under my belt (thanks my HP). Last night I had a weird dream (rather two). I can't remember the sequence in which I had the dreams but here they are...

1. I am in the family room with wife and kids and somehow I sensed that there is someone in the garage drying to get in the house. So I close the door between garage and hallway and lock it. All I hear is someone pushing the door and trying to open the lock but no sound. I am asking my wife to call 911 and she asked my son to call but no one is doing anything.

2. I am in my car in driving seat and I have one large brown bag that has lots of quarts of unopened alcohol bottles. I can see the brands that I drank in recent past in that bag. There is someone (can't remember who) in the passenger seat - he is asking what you doing with these. I said I am going to public trash site and throw them; I don't want to throw them in my home trash bin. At the same time - I feel that I am also seating in the back seat of my car and another me is having this conversation. I can see back of my head (me who is in the driver seat) and the brown bag. So in summary - there are two versions of me. One in the driver seat with the bag, another in the back seat listening quietly.

Also, garage is the place where I used to store my stash and I used to sneak to garage to gulp down some quick onces.

I woke up after the dream with a dry throat and got a glass of water and looked at the watch - it as 5.30am. Time to wakeup and go to gym.

Thanks for listening. I will really appreciate any feedback.

Jay ]]> Newcomers to Recovery jedipaulia http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188967-dreams.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188956-dorie-here.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:29:23 GMT Wasn't sure where to introduce myself. I'm not new to A.A., but I am new here. I've been sober since 2-18-05, thanks to finding a Power greater than myself through A.A.

Looking forward to getting to know you and thanks for giving me a place to share.

"Have a great day, if you want to." ]]> Newcomers to Recovery Dorie http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188956-dorie-here.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188945-grateful_alcoholic.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:51:07 GMT I've heard the term "grateful alcoholic" a lot lately and I was curious as to why someone would we grateful they are an alcoholic?

I've finally, honestly, and thoroughly accepted I'm an alcoholic, but I do not feel grateful. Nor do I understand why I would feel grateful in the future? I do feel a sense of relief, but I'm not grateful for all the chaos and hurt I've caused.

Is this another part of acceptance? Is this something I can expect to feel after I've been sober for a while? After I've put some time between the consequences and more time in recovery?

Thanks,
Kjell ]]> Newcomers to Recovery Kjell http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188945-grateful_alcoholic.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188930-new-scared-ashamed-admit-i-have-problem.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:33:39 GMT So, i've worked in a bar now since i was 21, i just turned 34. I havnt really considered it a problem since everyone around me drinks, that's what seems to always be done any social setting my friends are in.
My girlfriend 0f 7 years just moved out 2 months ago and ive been on quite a bender,ive been drinking out of lonliness and anxiety at night, and it starts off with a bottle of wine to sleep and if i'm still up, i'll walk to the store to get another. She works with me so seeing her 3 nights a week at work doesnt help to make it better, last night i saw her at work, i had a few drinks and proceded to text her the whole cab ride home like a weirdo, came home and drank a bottle of wine, woke up this morning with so much guilt and anxiety that i drank another bottle at 9am and went back to bed.

I'm realizing i have to stop, and can't do this to myself anymore. I looked up a AA meeting tomorrow afternoon, i just feel so down on myself realizing i cant just have a few drinks and stop. Finding this site has made me feel like i'm not alone and there are others in the same situation. JUst writing this makes me feel better, So thank you and wish me luck ]]> Newcomers to Recovery TMC1 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188930-new-scared-ashamed-admit-i-have-problem.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188922-so-sooooo-sick-myself.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:19:48 GMT So, yeah. Not doing so good in my "sobriety"..

The past few days, not drinking a whole lot, but still drinking. Counting the hours till I can safely stay in for the night and not have to drive anywhere. Pretty much laying around all day, feeling sorry for myself. Great example for my kid, right?

I know I am at a crossroads, something has to change. I have wasted a solid 5 years, self medicating and hiding from the world and worst of all from myself. I am NOT this weak woman! Though I have to say it is MUCH easier to be her these days.

So, one of my struggles is the fact that I feel my drinking is problematic in the instances...(daily lately) where I do it secretly, out of a bottle I hide in my closet...(poor closet)..

I find myself thinking ahead to birthdays, New Years, etc. I mean, I hate the idea of not being able to drink in a NORMAL setting. That's not my problem, right? I can stop at a drink or two when I am around people. Like regular folk!! Except...for the 3 shots I have at home before I leave the house..

I guess I am rationalizing, and not just staying in the moment. Worry about those times when they come up, right? ONEfrickensecondatatime.

Hope everyone is doing okay. Back to day one tomorrow. Wooo hooo...can't wait!! :a122: ]]> Newcomers to Recovery gingerblue http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188922-so-sooooo-sick-myself.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188919-help.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 06:06:52 GMT So I've been sober for 10 of the last 12 months, I just find it so hard to stay stopped.

I'm going away with my cousin this weekend to go riding, we are only going for two nights and my head is already saying, you can have a couple on sat night, that won't hurt....

When I should know from many many times of having a couple that I will end up drinking more than I wanted and no doubt end up feeling ruined on Sunday, not wanting to ride (when I LOVE riding), just wanting to come home, hide away, hate myself and take sleeping pills to get away from it all.

Even if I manage to have just a couple, I won't particularly enjoy it (even though my head says I will) and I'll hate myself for slipping and the risk of phoning in sick to work on the Monday and having a day of beers and bed will be hard to resist.

OK, so I've got better at stopping drinking when I start (believe it or not) mainly becuase I can't & won't lose another job from it, but the way it makes me feel after the event is just not worth it.

And yet even though I know all this, my head still thinks its ok.........WHY?!

:c021: ]]> Newcomers to Recovery mimi54321 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188919-help.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188918-going-cold-turkey-safe-not-safe.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 05:48:30 GMT Hello everyone,

My first time here. I've tried googling to find the answer to my question but couldn't find anything. I'm hoping this place will help me. Basically I finally decided I am ready to quit drinking!!! But am curious if, given my personal track record if it is safe to go cold turkey... (some background info)..

I am a 22 year old girl. I never thought I would say this- because growing up I was never in trouble, a good student, played sports, came from a well off family, whatever- but I am a struggling alcoholic.

It started around when I turned 19. Casually drinking on the weekends, but it would always be binge drinking. Then I moved out to my own apartment, got a job in a bar, and slowly but surely for the next 2.5-3 years my life became centered around drinking. For the past 2 years I would say on average I probably consumed at least 5 drinks/5 nights a week. AT LEAST. That's being very, very generous. In reality most the time it was probably easily double that.


This past spring and summer got bad though. Really, really bad. Drinking around the clock. Having the shakes if I was sober. At least a 5th a day, sometimes more. Drinking as soon as I woke up, drinking before work, drinking by myself, drinking every night until I blacked out pretty much.. constantly drunk..

I've slowed down within the past month or so but still drink about a pint of rum a day.

I have gone 2 days sober... this is my 3rd. This is the longest I've gone without a sip for at least 2.5 years.

I'm curious and scared to know what types of withdrawal symptoms I should be expecting (if any?) within the next few days? Can anyone give me some insight? I would really, really appreciate it!

Much love ]]> Newcomers to Recovery HereComesTheSun http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188918-going-cold-turkey-safe-not-safe.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188916-not-sure.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:27:14 GMT I am not quite sure how to use this site but i ran across it tonight while searching for help for my ex husband. Although I am not sure he is ready to accept help. I will try to briefly explain our... I am not quite sure how to use this site but i ran across it tonight while searching for help for my ex husband. Although I am not sure he is ready to accept help. I will try to briefly explain our situation and perhaps you may be able to give me advice. We married 11 years ago and divorced 3 years ago, we have 2 beautiful little boys that adore him. We started using meth around 8 years ago and it destroyed our lives. I left him for a time but after he was in jail for some time he convinced me he had changed and he was clean while I was pregnant with our 2nd child, had a good job, no disappearing acts. Then just after our son's 1st birthday he started becoming secretive again, late all the time, moody and of course I denied it for a time but I cannot take a chance on being around that stuff so I filed for a divorce. He seemed better for a time again and had a new girlfriend but continued to want to see me. About 3 months ago they broke up and I noticed his strange behavior when he would pick up the boys not to mention loss of home and job. I took him to court and ordered a drug test to which he still has not conceded to. He contacted me last week saying that he loved me and wanted our life back and then disappeared for 2 days. What am I to do???? I love this man more than life itself and I fear his children will be without a father soon if he continues this path. He is in jail right now due to non payment of child support which he blames me for but I told my atty I thought maybe it would dry him out for a few days. Please give me some advice I am desperate to live my life but somehow he draws me back..... ]]> Newcomers to Recovery caringex http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188916-not-sure.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188906-insane.html Fri, 20 Nov 2009 00:57:00 GMT If a person wanted to attened an online meeting it doesn't tell you how.
Tony ]]> Newcomers to Recovery nvguy http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188906-insane.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188903-hello-everybody.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:45:32 GMT I thought I come past and say hello and see how everyone is doing.I am still sober, the other week I finally got some blood test done to see how my liver and kidneys were. My kidneys are fine... I thought I come past and say hello and see how everyone is doing.I am still sober, the other week I finally got some blood test done to see how my liver and kidneys were. My kidneys are fine although he said my liver count was a little high although the doctor said it's nothing to be concerned about, I am a bit worried about it.I wonder if it was from all that excessive drinking in the past and I am glad that I have stopped drinking now and I will never return back.Even though it hasn't been an easy road it has made me realize how strong of a person I am and because I did this, it has made me feel like I can do other things if I set my mind to it and just keep the faith. I want to tell those who are just starting out on their sober journey,please please do not give up.You are not alone and you can make it through.
Hope all is well and I wish you all the best of luck.. ]]> Newcomers to Recovery maz09 http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188903-hello-everybody.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188898-omw-i-slipped.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:10:43 GMT I tried to be alcohol free for the first time.Im 23. Its been 7 days sober and 5 hours ago i decided to have a few drinks, i feel like such a loser. Because i gave in to temptation.I wasted 7days on... I tried to be alcohol free for the first time.Im 23. Its been 7 days sober and 5 hours ago i decided to have a few drinks, i feel like such a loser. Because i gave in to temptation.I wasted 7days on nothing,i mean How could i let myself drink! Omw. :c004: ]]> Newcomers to Recovery CadenceS http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188898-omw-i-slipped.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188897-song.html Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:38:05 GMT :You_Rock_Phish Driver Lyrics

Trey (lead singer) is in recovery, somethings have a brighter side.

YouTube - Phish - 11.20.98 - Driver


I'll tell you about the driver who lives inside my head
Starts me up and stops me and puts me into bed
He opens up my mouth when it's time for me to talk
And fires up my legs when he wants me to walk

Keeps my eyes open for most of the day
Adds to my memories the things that people say
When he makes decisions I don't have to wait
But sometimes it seems that he's got too much on his plate

Like this morning when I woke up and he dressed me in this shirt
That looks a little ragged where he dragged me through the dirt
I'm moving through this life and I'm thinking about the next
And hoping when I get there I'll be better dressed ]]> Newcomers to Recovery BKP http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/newcomers-recovery/188897-song.html